Share a strategy (any kind) you use to calm yourself down when you are catastrophizing, and why you think it works for you.
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"A major new review has put hundreds of alternative autism treatments under the microscope—and most didn’t hold up. Scientists analysed decades of research and found little reliable evidence that popular approaches like probiotics, acupuncture, or music therapy truly work. Alarmingly, safety was often ignored, with many treatments never properly evaluated for side effects."
#Autism
#ADHD
#AuDHD
#neurodiversity
#neurodivergence
https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2025/12/251227082722.htm
这篇文说，#ADHD 疑是患者们排队太长，占用资源太多。与其消耗这么多资源，不如学校和公司改变一些模式去接纳神经多元人群，这样对大家都好。
The binary view of ADHD is no longer supported by science. Researchers have realised that there is no such thing as the “ADHD brain”.
Every time my Mam calls, she ends up messing with the screen controls & it's exhausting trying to remind her to keep her fingers of the screen.
I think she needs to hold the screen closer toner head so the controls get hidden / deactivate.
Tried explaining that she could put the phone down & use Speaker mode but, same problem. No memory for it.
She's started talk about moving, been saying she might for years but with the landlord passed away & property up for sale she kind of has to now.
She's finally started saying she might move back to the Netherlands to be near family & I'm hoping she does but worried she doesn't seem to understand how quickly she could go from having a roof to not having one, if the purchaser wants the tenants out.
I don't know Scottish rental laws.
I think she definitely is going to need help & if she opts for moving near me, I'm it & I'm useless. In the Netherlands she'll at least have her siblings & any friends she kept in touch with.
No clue what to do to help her get started or if I should just leave it. Even if I could help I'm not sure I have a clue what to do or where to start.
Okay, think I'm just spinning wheels now.
#AuDHD #Autistic #ADHD #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic #Life #Parents
How do you convince yourself to learn something small first?
I have a difficult time starting anything and an even harder time finishing. And I have been known to start at later steps than I should. I was even like that with reading.
I end up all or nothing a lot.
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Finished reading this almost cover to cover - Dr Louise Newson’s book called The Definitive Guide to the Perimenopause and Menopause.
If you or someone who know might be impacted by perimenopause or menopause - in the future or now - read this! Or a book like it.
Perimenopause and menopause is so much more than hot flushes and brain fog. It can disrupt many bodily systems causing both physical and mental health problems and it often isn’t intuitive to consider whether hormones might be involved in those.
This book is relatively inclusive of trans and nonbinary folx, also mentions the common experiences of people with ADHD, early menopause (for various reasons), post natal depression, and many relevant health conditions from PMDD to POI.
Don’t wait until you’re a “certain age”, read up about it all now because the impacts can begin sooner than you might realise.
To fellow autistics: I saw a survey of autistic people a while ago that showed most people really benefit from know about perimenopause and menopause in advance. On the flip side of this, many people end up discovering they are neurodivergent because perimenopause broke their ability to mask and cope. This book (and others like it) can forearm you with enough knowledge to ask a GP for help and early.
For anyone with a pre-existing chronic illness that has an inflammatory component to it like I have, note that perimenopause can mess things up with that too!
@mecfs @autistics
#ADHD #ActuallyAutistic #pwME #MEcfs #perimenopause #menopause
I'm looking into books not just about #ADHD, but specifically about the use of #psychostimulant drugs to treat it. I was hoping to find professional reference books. Instead, what I'm finding, overwhelmingly, are strident denunciations of #ADHD as unreal, and of the drugs as tools of diabolical mind control. The atmosphere of this discourse, the vibe, absolutely creeps me out. It's dismaying. It's worse — much worse! — than anti-addiction drug-war literature; many of THOSE people are surprisingly positive about what they see as responsible, legitimate use of scheduled drugs under prescription. Instead, the anti-#ADHD-drug literature is more reminiscent of the intensely toxic atmosphere of two other social pathologies we've become wearisomely familiar with: #antivax, and the "#autism overdiagnosis" school of thought that tries to deny the very reality of our identity.
Indeed, I suspect that at bottom the motivation behind all three social movements — #antivax, anti-#ADHD, and anti-#autism — is the same: denial of the Other. Whether it's plagues or neurodivergence, these people want above all to deny the reality of anything that would force them to make drastic alterations to their lifestyles. It's one step away from wishing other ethnic groups didn't exist.
If you’re AuDHD, you know the drill: time slipping through your fingers, hyperfocus hijacking your day, and that crushing decision paralysis when there’s just too much noise. To survive (long before my diagnosis), I built systems. Today, those systems are my cure.
The secret? It’s not about becoming more efficient; it’s about finally stopping the fight against yourself.
Read the full article here: https://medium.com/invisible-illness/how-i-plan-my-audhd-life-f2b24265e113
#Neurodivergent #Autism #ADHD #MentalHealth #Systems @autistics
New video: How binaural beats work, and why I use 11Hz Alpha waves in my music.
AarDHD is a project creating functional music for focus and calm. The tracks use binaural beats for brainwave entrainment. The first release, "Flow State" is designed for people with ADHD and autism, or who needs help concentrating or calming down.
https://youtube.com/shorts/4Xq63W-GPiQ
#BinauralBeats #ADHD #Autism #FocusMusic #Neurodivergent #MusicProduction #ActuallyAutistic
@autistics
I put a lil 3x2 poll in the field and invited viewers to @ me with more detail about their answers.
The poll asks for your autism status and your eating speed and I'm testing the hypothesis that autie folks eat faster.
The number of people disclosing #ADHD diagnoses in full confidence that's all they have/are 😂
So you trauma dumped in your first message, you gave me a family history, you told me you have limited insight and theory of mind, and that checks out, because none of this is ringing any bells? The call is coming from inside the house!
https://nebula.tv/videos/foreignman-racism-in-gaming/ #gaming #game #terminallyonline #racism #racisme #rassigheid #foreignman #rassisme #Caribbean #woke #Caribisch #Gatekeepers #Genderfication #autism #adhd #autisme #Battlefront #Creed #racist #gamergate #boycot #black #inclusion #whitesupremacy #sexism #feminism #lhbti #womensrights #righttovote https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=p0g3DEvvCfc
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If I want to be somewhere at 6:30pm, I have to start planning and preparing to get there the night before. Am I alone in this?
I'm getting a lot out of the Neurodivergent Insights newsletter by Dr. Megan Anna Neff. For example, this post about the overlap of ADHD and autism:
https://neurodivergentinsights.com/misdiagnosis-monday/adhd-vs-autism/
Dr. Neff is herself AuDHD who turned her hyperfocus on her neurotype into a PhD in psychology. She's also raising a neurodivergent kid with strong PDA (Pathological Demand Avoidance, which she calls Pervasive Drive for Autonomy):
https://neurodivergentinsights.com/blog/pda-or-demand-avoidance/
🚨 EMERGENCY MUTUAL AID POST 25/1150 🚨
y'all, I got my due date for the electric bill extended to the 26th but I have to pay in full by then
I need $1150 to pay them
if you can spare anything, please help, my autistic child, my two disabled partners, and me all depend on it
I'm really at a loss, please help 🙏
#mutualaid #mutualaidrequest #transmutualaid #disabledmutualaid #bills #electric #help #begpost #autism #disabled #native #adhd #ptsd #helpme
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My getting up has slipped into the afternoons & I'm not happy about it.
Especially as in a few days I'll have to be up before 07:00 to be able to spend the day on an outing with friends. 🫣
Stricter morning routine?
- Alarm goes, switch on radio or preselected podcast instead of noticing the Mastodon notifications so I don't vanish down a 40+ notification hole?
🤔 … 🤔 In theory very easy to do, in practice very difficult to stick to, as my AuDHD screams for comfort from not being ready to face the day.
- Swap chores around with things I enjoy, want to get stuck into?
My big worry is that once I start the thing I want to do I will ignore all cues for stopping & doing the 'must do' tasks.
One possible fix for ignoring cues, is have lunch be the cut off point as I, like a lot of critters can be greatly motivated by food.
Current problem, lunch is around 18:00 give or take an hour & as I'm painfully aware of it being evening my brain & body default to evening mode, time to read or ideally, relax so those 'must do' tasks have pretty much a zero chance of happening.
I guess, I might be spending some time working this one out this afternoon / evening. I don't mind spending my evenings messing with dilemmas like this, as long as I can shove a movie I enjoy on whilst I'm doing it 🙂.
… That's if I remember 😅.
#AuDHD #Autistic #ADHD #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic
#Hyperfocus #TimeBlindness #ExecutiveDysfunction
#MindFog #Burnout #Spoons #NoSpoons #LackOfFocus #SelfCare
After a dry spell I'm finally booked for enough work to need #OrgMode and #OrgAgenda again to keep track, and when I opened Agenda again for the first time since mid-2025 things were obviously A Mess. 💫 Some to-do items had been rescheduled almost 200 times, untracked habits lay forgotten and dying. It took < 5 minutes to clear or triage though, and Agenda became usable again with the peace of mind that work tasks won't slip through the cracks.
Honestly the Org Mode/Agenda system fills the niche of a Bullet Journal (which I also tried for a few years) for me in being easy to come back to after I inevitably drop off from time to time. And that's a good thing, not only because I get to have an organization system even after being away for a while, but because there are stretches of life when a system genuinely isn't necessary and may do more harm than good. It's nice to be able to move fluidly between the states. #Emacs #ADHD
Been de-cluttering my choices of video games as well as trying out more chill genres for my autistic brain.
I seem to have identified a bug in my systems.
No matter how much time (in hours not minutes) I give myself to wrap my head around prepping & even starting to prep for eventually going to be at or if possible before midnight, I somehow still end up not getting to bed till 02:00 give or take half an hour.
I can feel completely zonked all day or all evening due to short nights of sleep if I have to get up early. It makes no sense. I think I need to start using a metaphorical hammer & somehow persuade myself that the world won't end if I do that thing tomorrow or those things the day after.
It does seem to be because there's that one thing, out of many that's been hanging over me for days, weeks, months or longer & today was going to be the day. So it may be late but this maybe the only time I have a set of spoons the right shape or strong enough to deal with this task. It's now or never.
It can be a small complex task, revamping bullet journal templates in my more app, sorting out all the stages for a future batch cook or a long laborious one involving things I'm not keen on like clearing up cobwebs & bugs 😱 or unidentified spills, dirt & giant dust bunnies 🤢.
I've tried reminders, alarms. I've planned days where everything has all the time I need & more but inevitably this either leads to stagnation because I'm so out of spoons not helped by the side effects of lack of sleep. Alternatively, the ADHD trait of getting sidetracked comes along & nixes my timings & tasks.
I've tried getting up earlier which, unless I have an early enough appointment or planned activity with or for other people generally fail to launch on time or if I survived the important thing in the early hours, I'm then a zombie & spend more time just sitting, gathering dice / spoons by not doing anything.
I keep telling myself I'll figure it out & find a way but I'm not sure I'm wired to ever find a fix for getting myself to bed before midnight.
#AuDHD #Autistic #ADHD #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic #TimeBlindness #ExecutiveDysfunction #LackOfFocus #SelfCare #Life #Sleep #SleepProblems
I came across this article in a post and wanted to share with the group. I'm really digging how the #Māori view #Neurodiversity and #Autism! @autistics
reframe takiwātanga (Autism), aroreretini (#ADHD), and other neurodiverse traits as taonga: unique ways of being that carry their own mana, strengths, and gifts."
Thank you for posting and pointing to the blog, yet another case where the wisdom of native people beats that of white colonist bigots by far.
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Is it just me, or are web bookmarks kinda write-only? XD
I might have referred back to them a little bit in the 90s when it was harder to find interesting things, but I've just been dumping things into ~/Documents/Notes/bookmarks.txt for years now without hardly ever referring back to them.
Me: Ooo, this is neat, let's save it to read it later!
My #ADHD brain: Yeaaaah, riiiiiiiight. ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
I came across this post and wanted to share with the group. I'm really digging how the #Māori view #Neurodiversity and #Autism! @autistics
More Than a Diagnosis: Reclaiming Neurodiversity in #TeAoMāori
Aug 28, 2025 by Aroha Tamihana
"Neurodiversity is often framed through a deficit lens, defined by what someone lacks or what makes them 'different' from the so-called norm. But within te ao Māori, there’s a growing movement to reframe takiwātanga (Autism), aroreretini (#ADHD), and other neurodiverse traits as taonga: unique ways of being that carry their own mana, strengths, and gifts."
Some reo Māori terms:
- takiwātanga / takiwaatanga – Autism (from tōna anō takiwā – “in their own time/space”)
- aroreretini – ADHD (“attention goes to many things”)
Read more:
https://maimoa.nz/blogs/news/more-than-a-diagnosis-reclaiming-neurodiversity-in-te-ao-maori
#adhd
Ok, genuinely curious.🤨
@actuallyadhd
@autistics
How in the hell does anyone have the patience to remove old bathroom sealant in the bathtub and get all the little bits.
Yes I’m autistic and the autistic side of me is hyperfocused… spot spot spot tool spot
Meanwhile my adhd is like…
This doesn’t seem to be very adventurous, wait maybe we should have read how to do this first? Can I put up the shelves? Seal the floor…I need mental blinders…sigh😮💨👆👆😅
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