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That’s more NT psychology, B.
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Autistics, especially aspie pricks like me don’t “put ourselves down,” we are realistic about our challenges.
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When I tell you about my challenges around music, that’s not my bad attitude holding me back - that’s more We are All
the Same nonsense that NT people are so sure of - as if everyone is a musician! - that’s me boasting to you about what I can do despite my challenges.
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When I tell you I’m playing a slide song but I can’t play slide, that’s me bragging about how I’ve figured a way to do it despite my challenges - FFS, can’t you see my hands and haven’t I told you the left one is asleep most of rhe time? It’s a real disability, not some bad attitude so you can make it my own fault and easily solved.
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Bah, never mind. You know better, of course.
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Frustrating. 😠
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#Guitar #NTPsychology #Autism #ND #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Psychology @autistics #Ableism

I don’t want to keep railing at that person, I can’t imagine how hard life must be like that
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but I am making myself laugh a bit carrying on with myself about it
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I mean, the Autistics who can function and sort of pass, the ones who manage to learn to talk, if the doctors and the parents could actually listen to us when we do, if they would engage with our neurotype when it is articulate, the kids and adults with the biggest challenges, as well as we Daywalkers would all be having a better time of it.
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The last thing a parent with high needs kids should want to be doing is shutting down the ones with a foot in both worlds, the ones who can tell them how Autistics think. They only want the ones who can’t talk or something?
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Sorry.
I didn’t know until I started posting that I’ve definitely crawled out from under the wrong side of my rock today.
💜
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@autistics #ActuallyAutistic #Psychology #ND #AuDHD #NTPsychology

Psychiatrists, your time is up. Clipboards down, please present your patients to the judges (and the lawyers and the police). 🤨
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#Psychology #IWatchTooMuchTV
#ND @autistics

ha ha ha
another little post hatching realization.
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I always talk to children and animals as though they can understand and if the kids can’t that’s how they learn, and today’s little slap in face comes from that I do that because I’m Autistic and that’s how it works when I’m talking to anyone, adult humans included, that’s what “talking,” is for me, I just talk to myself and I and everyone else just pretend we’re the same species speaking the same language 😠💜
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you can’t understand Autism or divergence if you keep understanding everything you already do as an NT person. If it doesn’t completely rewrite your understanding of “human nature,” if you try to fit it within your existing understanding of “human nature,” you’re not getting the concept.
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we fidget because what the Hell
else is your brain supposed to do in this stupid, stupid world where they just, “don’t believe,” whatever the fuck they like
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The majority thinks that people are generally the same, except for some individual differences, of course it’s more complicated than that, there seems to be a majority who are generally the same, but they’re one type, humanity is divided into neurotypes, there are other types that are mostly the same among themselves, so that’s a third layer of complexity, and still there are individual differences both within types and also individual differences that transcend types.
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It’s another layer of complexity but it’s a better theory, explains more than the other one.
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That’s why I’m all in on neurodiversity theory, if it explains more, I don’t see that ignoring it is an option.
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I want to aplogize to my NT wife and kids for spending my time talking about, trying to live according to principles they can never understand.
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It’s still impossible to wrap your head around, I suppose the same way they never understand us. My kid is mad at me for judging them about something, and they think it was what the bad guys judge for, gender, sexuality, but it was this, wasn’t it, that I, never having heard of neurotype, was judging them every time I talked about No Spanking and expecting them to understand that.
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They’re convinced my lifelong obsession about it is some kind of a lie, because No Spanking just isn’t a thing, does not compute. I never spanked them, I tried to stop the ex from spanking them, so I SAID, “No Spanking,” and I never spanked - my words and my real history are one - still somehow a lie, and that just means it simply does not compute for them, they don’t, they can’t get it.
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It’s an actuarial matter, they simply cannot see the causality.
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I’m sorry, in hindsight, knowing what I know now about neurodiversity, now I guess I can sort of understand y’all’s reaction to me. Knowing what I do now, I wouldn’t ever try again. For all of our sakes, I wish had known what I was, failing that, I wish I had never met your mother.
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I think I say this a lot but I am just so incredibly burnt about all the years I wasted listening to my NT siblings parroting their #NTPsychology at me, shaking their heads at me like I’m the one not getting it.
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I was born knowing that and they weren’t and can never learn it, they know nothing, but they’re going to teach what they do not understand to the person who wrote the book. NT psych is business psych, army psych. It is not humanist or medical, it’s only there to keep you going to work.
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They spent the greater half of all of our lives telling me something is wrong and guessing about my possible early abuse, they listened to me tell them I had taken the whole idea further and refused to dish out even “normal,” levels of abuse, that I forsook and banned punishment, period - and when my bubble popped, I found out they hadn’t heard or believed any of it, and assumed I had been rough on the kids, despite everything I ever said or did: they couldn’t hear, “no punishment.”
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It’s not a thing. The NT have no brain path, no neuroreceptors for the negation of punishment. There are probably more aspects to the actuarial function, but that’s part of it and they don’t have it.
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What of my life they didn’t wasting talking their psychobabble, I wasted trying to tell them not to hurt people and expect things to improve because of it. THAT’s what I understand to be the core idea of lower case “p” psychology.
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I didn’t learn/figure out until my sixties that there are different brain types and that they don’t all have all the features, and then I finally saw that they just can’t get it.
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And yes, I pathologize. It’s a problem.
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Sorry. 💔😇
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You ever think, that’s me? That’s my life? Where you’d clearly be insane if you weren’t bloody right?
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#IWatchTooMuchTV #ND #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic @autistics

that Sapolsky rant the other day, been thinking about how it played out, and that’s how I work, I hear something, some #Psychology or some science and at first I think it’s totally intuitive, I’ll have a question, Is this right? or I’ll make the leap, This isn’t right! and then I’ll start talking to myself, talk my way through it - and like in this case, often stumble upon my own point in it all almost by accident.
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I was all day on that, finally coming around to that: this premise is the opposite of everything else they say about people and maybe the opposite of nearly every human child’s experience. My intuition leading me to some truth I wasn’t seeing either, sort of. Or I think it’s “just intuition,” but really it’s just knowledge?
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #AuDHD @autistics

Sapolsky Thursday
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there's some stuff about identities and being biracial but I don't think there's anything needs a warning. I mean I maybe could have used one, but I think folks are used to it - you'll see in the first comment or two 😬
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OK, here's the warning: there's all these studies that show group dynamics already at work very early in life, kind of even too early for my wholeview
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it's all trolling me, so I gotta lotta comments
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https://youtu.be/5ib2QbIfx7k?si=nAJ3rDvOhiOLnjAC

RE: https://mstdn.social/@archaeology/116942317256778474

My point is, what is the point of trying to show the violence is forever except to justify it today? What good does it do us to think that it’s forever?
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I got this attitude, like I’m young George Washington, “I cannot tell a lie,” but apparently nobody believes me saying the sky is blue either, like . . . maybe I can
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starting to think I only think I make facial expressions but I don’t actually move anything. I thought I gave myself a snide smirk in the mirror recently and nothing changed. 😳🫣💜
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#AuDHD #ND #ActuallyAutistic @autistics

I am so tired of getting answers that show they never read what I already said - I want the blue one
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“Oh, you want one? Cool. What colour?”
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No, never mind, I don’t want to buy anything from you, fuck off.
This in TEXT. All they had to do
was look at it. 😠🤮
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It’s a fictional example and it’s probably exactly what people experience talking to me
too, but still. If you’re Autistic and this happens, that’s OK, we’re good, shit happens, we focus on the wrong things a lot. It’s just when I think it’s some regular person to whom I’m invisible and inaudible I get mad and tired. 😠
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #AuDHD @autistics

It doesn’t mean anything that,
“we are all unique,” it doesn’t matter that we all have something unique about us - except that it’s the opposite of, “neurotypes exist.”
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The point the world needs to learn is that everyone is NOT unique, that everyone is a TYPE, with traits common to many, that’s science, that’s information we could be doing something with - while, “we are all,” ANYTHING is the untrue opposite, a meme that destroys actual knowledge and erases actual neurodiversity.
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Why you wanna be unique (and alone) anyway? 🫣😀
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now you’re angry
it’s happening again
to you
some man’s mouth is flapping
and that’s never good
You have no idea
what he’s on about
but you know what
comes next
You have no idea
I tried so hard
but I never felt seen
while you were
smiling
and I don’t feel seen
now that you’re not
You need
time to process, no
fuck you
nothing about me
without me
and I don’t take breaks
You don’t process me
I’m a person
I process
my own self
and you happened to me
again too
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #AuDHD @autistics

It seems obvious that my fascination with wildlife rescue on teevee is because of the parallels. My descent into the matrix world of comfort teevee has brought me to, “My Best Friend is an Animal,” sooner than I’d hoped and it’s often animals that have been rehabbed and released coming back and hanging around voluntarily and maintaining the relationship.
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So a case in point, a tree kangaroo whose mother was hit by a car and it got thrown right out of the pouch very young.
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So now, barely born, traumatized, thrown out of mom and its whole world and suddenly in another world entirely - maybe the trauma’s parallel is the human birth, marsupials don’t have that, the birth and early life is a long, slow, safe transition for them.
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Then, raised by humans, this is what I’m suggesting, the #ND share that experience, raised by NT humans.
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The reintroduction is perhaps not as obvious.
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A lot of divergent kids need extra care and attention. It’s not that we lost mom and the world like this animal did, but more that we have a lot of trouble gaining the world in the first place.
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But as the Asperger clinic and at least some of the doctors there saw, the extra time and care can help us to gain more of it than we may without more time and less discipline.
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I suppose unless we are institutionalized, we do experience the gradual introduction to the “wild,” of the NT world.
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But when we are released, the rescuers often move away or downsize their home, the extra care ends. I suppose it’s my RSD, but I often watch a release and feel the animal has simply become homeless. 🥹💜🫣
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #AuDHD @autistics
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It’s not really the DEP, we don’t automatically hate them, do we? I am forever being drawn in, I don’t hate them on sight.
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It’s really Antisocialization theory, the SEP (no, not Adams’ Somebody Else’s Problem), the Suppressed Empathy Problem, the Spanking Empathy Problem.

can it really be this simple?
Stay the fuck away from people because they are all abused and your Autism means the DEP is going to make you another abuser in their minds no matter what you say or how you behave?
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #AuDHD @autistics

ah, there’s a thought, some of the “stupid decisions,” I made as a child, refusing to learn script, giving up on chess after losing a game or two - if I was unaware of my diversity now, I’d see a normal kid making weird decisions - but now, considering my divergence and spoon theory, I can maybe see that those were extreme decisions made in something like self defense, I simply didn’t want to spend the spoons or didn’t have them at the time. And maybe I can forgive. 💜
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@autistics #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #ND

you can’t trust people not
to believe the stupidest shit
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they cannot be embarrassed by intellectual matters
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only social ones
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what could possibly go wrong
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #Autism #AuDHD @autistics

my whole plan in life was the exact opposite of spoon theory.
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Aspie saint that I would be, I decided that unlike the idiots around me, I would ABSORB any shit I got from people, not be like them and NOT turn around and dump on someone in turn.
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Long before hearing any science about it, long before hearing of Sapolsky, or even of cortisol, I determined one should NOT deflect, and I thought if I let the shit in and did not let it out, that I was removing shit from circulation, taking it out of the world, and that if everyone did that, the shit would end.
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#NTPsychology says no, of course, that’s just repression and it will find its way out by unconscious means, and that’s what people give me still, my conscious attempts are meaningless and an asshole who doesn’t think he’s an asshole is even worse or something - NT gaslighting that.
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Like I am unconsciously hurting people - and it’s unconsious for them too, and no-one can say how and when? No, you’re still an asshole, just nobody knows, it’s all a secret how you hurt people and who. And whatever that is that no-one can name, this is equal to or worse than the way normal people explicitly and consciously deflect constantly?
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Honestly, I’ve answered that one. It’s still not an unconscious behaviour for me, but I’ve worked out how I’m hurting them, even if they still think it’s an unconscious mystery - it’s the moralizing, it’s talking about exactly this, about telling them not to deflect, that I am asking them to take the shit and keep it like I tried to do - it’s as though I am giving them all the shit they ever got from anybody and everybody on the spot, because I’m telling them they must keep all they ever got.
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Plus I guess they don’t see the prize at the end like I do. They don’t think it will ever stop coming, no matter what. Again, that’s the actuarial logic you need to see the causality and the prize.
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I suppose the deflection is how they have spoons, and absorbing the abuse is how you lose them, how I lose them. I think I made an experiment or two as a kid, I don’t think the deflection gains me any. I think I’m doing the only thing I can.
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