<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> </p><p>Walking down the street with headphones and listening to music It allows me to stay calm and not lose my temper. I was asked today how that feels, and I explained... <br>The street, the people and the activity look like a scene from a very bad movie with very good music.</p><p>PS: I ran into one of the therapists who diagnosed me with autism and giftedness today on the street. The joy with which she greets me every time she sees me is very gratifying. <br>That's all. <img src="https://eggplant.place/media/emoji/infosec.exchange/catjam.gif" class="emoji" alt=":catjam:" title=":catjam:"> </p><p><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#actuallyautistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#neurodivergent</a></p>
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<p>Having a lovely day of doing basically nothing today, after public speaking yesterday at a literary festival- I crash hard after these events but fully allow myself to chill out the following day with no guilt. Being productive by doing nothing productive .<br>A few necessary chores (washing school uniforms, cooking dinner with everyone roped in to help), sleeping, reading, chatting to my kids. </p><p><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
<p>Like mother like daughter.</p><p>My 7yo loves organising her books by author and series and this brings me <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> joy.</p><p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
<p>December is simply too busy for parents of young- youngish kids. I am over this madness. Looking forward to school closing and the endless demands disappearing for 10 days (bar the book I need to finish writing by 12th January 😂). </p><p>2nd weekend in a row of school events plus more during the week on the way. Thinking next year I will just say no to all November-Dexember school events...oh wait I forgot I am a sucker and my kids will want to go...</p><p><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a><br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
<p>Hmm… <a href="/tags/askingautistics/" rel="tag">#AskingAutistics</a> </p><p>What is the meaning of <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> Spicy? I recently started seeing it but what is it? There is also: <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> Spicy.</p><p>~trying so catch up with the times 😆</p>
<p><a href="https://theconversation.com/why-its-time-to-rethink-the-notion-of-an-autism-spectrum-263243" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="theconversation.com/why-its-time-to-rethink-the-notion-of-an-autism-spectrum-263243"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">theconversation.com/why-its-ti</span><span class="invisible">me-to-rethink-the-notion-of-an-autism-spectrum-263243</span></a>. "Language will never capture every nuance, but words shape how <a href="/tags/society/" rel="tag">#society</a> treats <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> people. Moving away from the idea of a single <a href="/tags/spectrum/" rel="tag">#spectrum</a> could be a step towards recognising <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#autism</a> in all its <a href="/tags/diversity/" rel="tag">#diversity</a>, & valuing autistic people as they are."</p>
<p><a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> <a href="/tags/ai/" rel="tag">#AI</a> <a href="/tags/generativeai/" rel="tag">#GenerativeAI</a> <a href="/tags/climatechange/" rel="tag">#ClimateChange</a> <a href="/tags/environment/" rel="tag">#Environment</a> <a href="/tags/globalwarming/" rel="tag">#GlobalWarming</a></p>
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<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> </p><p>If you're autistic and struggle with making phone calls, what is the major challenge for you?</p><p>- Getting started (inertia)<br>- Delayed processing of audio input (need for clarification requests)<br>- Anxiety (fear of missing info, being rude, bothering sb, relying on notes taken...)<br>- Something else (please comment)</p><p>Or all of it? </p><p>Please comment if you don't struggle with this (anymore).</p><p><a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#actuallyautistic</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a></p>
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<p>I reckon that living as an autistic is creeping me out when you have your parents still sticking to this VAGUE advice of being positive when all you can do to piss them off (even when they say they aren't 'angry') is unintentionally becoming mentally distracted while you're peacefully preparing to take a little shower.</p><p>I hate returning to feel these moderately long grievance moods. Every time it happens i'm losing confidence to talk to my parents about everything.</p><p><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@actuallyadhd" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyadhd</span></a></span> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p><p>Today is not going according to my wishes or vague plans. Trying not to stress out over it & I'm losing myself in thoughts over how to simplify & organise next year's bullet journal.<br>This spiralled into, how can I get back on the, dealing with housework & cleaning wagon, as at some point I completely fell off. So, major paralysis on how or where to start. </p><p>Toying with the idea of introducing a, do one small thing everyday either before or immediately after breakfast, so that it's done.<br>Just small things like, clean the bathroom sink or pick up some random crap that I never tidied up.</p><p>If I can persuade myself to write down that I did it & when & then do the same for the following times that things get done, I might eventually have a realistic roster of things. Just need to remember to keep it flexible. If the day the floor need vacuuming I'm not up to it, swap it for something else or just shunt everything along a day.<br>As long as I don't fall into the trap of shunting things along indefinitely, I might be okay. </p><p><a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyadhd/" rel="tag">#ActuallyADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="/tags/life/" rel="tag">#Life</a> <a href="/tags/tidyup/" rel="tag">#TidyUp</a> <a href="/tags/cleanup/" rel="tag">#CleanUp</a> <a href="/tags/burnout/" rel="tag">#Burnout</a> <a href="/tags/spoons/" rel="tag">#Spoons</a> <a href="/tags/nospoons/" rel="tag">#NoSpoons</a></p>
<p><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#neurodivergent</a> <a href="/tags/memes/" rel="tag">#memes</a></p>
<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@actuallyadhd" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyadhd</span></a></span> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p><p>I really wish my Mam wasn't such a technophobe. Doubly annoying that she lives so far away & triply so that she doesn't ask one of her more tech savvy friend's to help her get to grips with her phone.</p><p>The flip side is that she's the only person who phones me so I have no way to verify if all the phone call woes are her accidentally triggering things by touching buttons or things on screen (I can imagine her holding the phone slightly away from her ear so the in-call screen is displayed) & putting herself on mute or me on hold.</p><p>Is it her or has my phone, network or the Lineage OS developed problems? </p><p>After today's particularly Mute & Hold heavy call, or calls - I'd have to hang up & phone her again & again to get back to having a conversation instead of hearing nothing or being on hold - I hope she will take my strong suggestion of asking one, or some of her friends to help her. </p><p>I was hoping she would be coming over for xmas or new year's, giving me a chance to check her phone, maybe minimize google spying & if I can figure out how to be patient enough show her how to use her phone whilst knowing she won't remember or will struggle to remember. <br>I'd also have to hope I can still fathom how phones running android OS work as it's been several years. </p><p>I don't have the spoons to go visit her & with the festively terrible (non-existant) public transport between hers & the nearest hotel ensuring my spoon tank is permanently empty for the duration so it's probably not a good idea. <br>Last year I left her's on xmas day just before we were going to have dinner. Walking back to the hotel in tears & having snacks instead of a good meal. I do not recommend as it's probably my worst xmas & would not like a repeat. 😔😢😞.</p><p><a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyadhd/" rel="tag">#ActuallyADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="/tags/burnout/" rel="tag">#Burnout</a> <a href="/tags/spoons/" rel="tag">#Spoons</a> <a href="/tags/nospoons/" rel="tag">#NoSpoons</a> <a href="/tags/selfcare/" rel="tag">#SelfCare</a> <a href="/tags/technophobia/" rel="tag">#Technophobia</a> <a href="/tags/techeducation/" rel="tag">#TechEducation</a> <a href="/tags/techfails/" rel="tag">#TechFails</a> <a href="/tags/epictechfails/" rel="tag">#EpicTechFails</a> <a href="/tags/enshittification/" rel="tag">#Enshittification</a></p>
<p>Is autistic self-identification valid?</p><p>I just completed a quantitative research paper comparing autism traits in medically diagnosed autistic people with the same traits in self-identifying autistic people and I can definitively say with more stats behind it than I care to ever think about again, THERE IS NO DIFFERENCE!</p><p><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiversity/" rel="tag">#neurodiversity</a> <a href="/tags/neurodivergence/" rel="tag">#neurodivergence</a> <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#autism</a></p><p><a href="https://www.autisticculturepodcast.com/p/is-autistic-self-identification-valid" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="www.autisticculturepodcast.com/p/is-autistic-self-identification-valid"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">www.autisticculturepodcast.com</span><span class="invisible">/p/is-autistic-self-identification-valid</span></a></p>
<p>Fasting for blood tests has thrown my whole morning. Not because I am hungry, but because it messed up my morning routine of eat first, then do chores. Without the eating bit, I can't seem to latch on to what's next.<br><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a><br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
<p>Maybe it is actually <a href="/tags/alexithymia/" rel="tag">#alexithymia</a> speaking, but I am pretty sure I can’t feel hate. <br>Like, I can feel despise, disgust, loathe, horror, fear etc - but hate? Hate assumes certain amount of passion, strength - it’s something too big to bother to maintain for someone you don’t like. </p><p>Maybe it’s just my <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> negation to use definitive labels - like the hesitancy to consider what I can feel ‘love’ or to call someone a friend. </p><p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <br><a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#neurodivergent</a> <br><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#autism</a> <br><a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a></p>
<p>I really like this <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> symbol proposal by MissLunaRose12.See: <a href="https://commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Autism_Symbol_Proposed_2.png" rel="nofollow">commons.wikimedia.org/wiki/File:Au...</a><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a></p>
<p>As an <a href="/tags/autisticactually/" rel="tag">#AutisticActually</a> , I get annoyed whenever established terms are incorrectly used, especially in database usage. For example, cameo vs guest.- cameo: no impact to the story; often as "self"- guest: with impact to the story; often as a fictional character<a href="/tags/autisticactually/" rel="tag">#AutisticActually</a> <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a></p>
<p>As an <a href="/tags/autisticactually/" rel="tag">#AutisticActually</a> , I get annoyed whenever established terms are incorrectly used, especially in database usage. For example, cameo vs guest.</p><p>- cameo: no impact to the story; often as "self"<br>- guest: with impact to the story; often as a fictional character</p><p>What's your pet peeve <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> ?</p><p><a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a></p>
<p>I feel grateful that there's a means by which so many <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> people have to discover and connect with each other. And it's federated! That's even cooler. It lets us attach our cat photos directly. We must be living in a dream or something. This wasn't really possible 20 years ago. <br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
<p>I just invented the verb 'aut' in a comment on TikTok. "I aut like mad...". Is this a neologism? </p><p><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiverse/" rel="tag">#neurodiverse</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <a href="/tags/autisticburnout/" rel="tag">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a></p>
<p><a href="/tags/introduction/" rel="tag">#introduction</a><br>Toujours un peu dans la lune, trying to remember to breathe.</p><p>Working for a charity - <a href="/tags/dementia/" rel="tag">#dementia</a> awareness and Gipsy, Roma & Traveller <a href="/tags/women/" rel="tag">#women</a>'s health</p><p><a href="/tags/knitting/" rel="tag">#Knitting</a>, <a href="/tags/humanrights/" rel="tag">#HumanRights</a>, <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a>, <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiversity/" rel="tag">#neurodiversity</a>, <a href="/tags/transrights/" rel="tag">#TransRights</a> . </p><p>Migrant based in the UK.<br>Trying to be a good ally, working on it.<br>Toots auto delete after a month. No <a href="/tags/alt/" rel="tag">#alt</a>, no boost.</p><p>Will accept your follow request after interaction.</p>
<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@actuallyadhd" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyadhd</span></a></span> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p><p>Really need to get to bed before midnight tonight, or I turn into a gremlin or something 🤷.</p><p>I need to start reclaiming my mornings as it would be nice to get to about lunch time & actually have accomplished some thing. Just simple things maybe but things like a bit of house cleaning, going for a walk, some reading & maybe a little bit of writing & drawing. </p><p>Maybe it could boost my confidence & make it possible to volunteer somewhere, even if the local volunteering options are only charity shop work. </p><p><a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyadhd/" rel="tag">#ActuallyADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="/tags/mindfog/" rel="tag">#MindFog</a> <a href="/tags/burnout/" rel="tag">#Burnout</a> <a href="/tags/spoons/" rel="tag">#Spoons</a> <a href="/tags/nospoons/" rel="tag">#NoSpoons</a> <a href="/tags/lackoffocus/" rel="tag">#LackOfFocus</a> <a href="/tags/selfcare/" rel="tag">#SelfCare</a> <a href="/tags/depression/" rel="tag">#Depression</a> <a href="/tags/life/" rel="tag">#Life</a> <a href="/tags/sleep/" rel="tag">#Sleep</a> <a href="/tags/sleepproblems/" rel="tag">#SleepProblems</a></p>
<p>Are you <a href="/tags/autisticactually/" rel="tag">#AutisticActually</a> ? Are you curious about the <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> community here on Bluesky?There are a lot of us here!Pin/subscribe to this Feed to see content about <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> today. (It will show as a tab in your client. And don't forget to like the Feed!)<a href="https://deer.aylac.top/profile/did:plc:bpotnohnlgcj3fbmp7ugx4en/feed/aaaj7qkwceak6" rel="nofollow">deer.aylac.top/profile/did:...</a><br><br>RE: <a href="https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:bpotnohnlgcj3fbmp7ugx4en/feed/aaaj7qkwceak6" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="bsky.app/profile/did:plc:bpotnohnlgcj3fbmp7ugx4en/feed/aaaj7qkwceak6"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">bsky.app/profile/did:plc:bpotn</span><span class="invisible">ohnlgcj3fbmp7ugx4en/feed/aaaj7qkwceak6</span></a></p>
<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@actuallyadhd" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyadhd</span></a></span> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span><br>I keep forgetting that even good being social knocks me so far sideways that all I've managed is a bit of washing up & hanging washing. <br>Whilst I loaded & started the washing around midday, it was something after 18:00 before I even got anything else done.</p><p>Just about managed feeding myself, even though I was hungry for tea I had zero idea or enthusiasm for cooking. Plan A failed as I didn't have any mixed veg in the freezer to go with whatever tinned thing I picked. <br>Plan B just about made it. </p><p>🎶 Hello AuDHD, <br>it's nice to talk with you ag-<br>…</p><p>OK! Come back here! … </p><p>My plans for getting a decent start on decorations flunked & has not returned. <br>Just finished tea 'bout half an hour ago & it's already pretty much supper time, if I want a chance of waking up early enough & feeling remotely productive tomorrow, that is.</p><p><a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyadhd/" rel="tag">#ActuallyADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="/tags/burnout/" rel="tag">#Burnout</a> <a href="/tags/spoons/" rel="tag">#Spoons</a> <a href="/tags/nospoons/" rel="tag">#NoSpoons</a> <a href="/tags/selfcare/" rel="tag">#SelfCare</a> <a href="/tags/timeblindness/" rel="tag">#TimeBlindness</a> <a href="/tags/executivedysfunction/" rel="tag">#ExecutiveDysfunction</a></p>
<p>Introducing, the <a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#Neurodivergent</a> <a href="https://bsky.app/profile/popfeed.social" rel="nofollow">@popfeed.social@bsky.brid.gy</a> List for movies and TV shows!<a href="https://popfeed.social/list/at://did:plc:bpotnohnlgcj3fbmp7ugx4en/social.popfeed.feed.list/3m5yyg5xby224" rel="nofollow">popfeed.social/list/at://di...</a>Check it out and find your next watch!<a href="/tags/neurospicy/" rel="tag">#Neurospicy</a> <a href="/tags/neuroatypical/" rel="tag">#Neuroatypical</a> <a href="/tags/autistm/" rel="tag">#Autistm</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> and more.<br><br><a href="https://popfeed.social/list/at://did:plc:bpotnohnlgcj3fbmp7ugx4en/social.popfeed.feed.list/3m5yyg5xby224" rel="nofollow">Popfeed</a></p>
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