actuallyadhd

Have the fedi groups for #ActuallyAutistic and #ActuallyADHD changed? As in do they have different names/titles compared to before?

#actuallyAutistic #actuallyADHD

So, friends - as the gup.pe groups have unexpectedly died, how do we all get together again elsewhere? Has anyone set up anything yet, and how do we spread the word?

If you haven’t heard about it yet:

https://social.growyourown.services/@FediTips/115164282623836102

@pathfinder
@hosford42
@Zumbador
@KatyElphinstone
@hmm_cook

@actuallyadhd @autistics

When you struggle with Object Permanence, everything in a box, cupboard or drawer becomes a Schrödinger's thing(s).

Do they exist or don't they exist, or do they only exist if you remember them & where you put them?
Do they only exist when you find / rediscover them?

#AuDHD #Autistic #ADHD #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic #ObjectPermanence

more groups recreated!

@ActuallyAutistic
@ActuallyADHD
@ActuallyAuDHD
@neurodivergent
@neurodiversity

#actuallyautistic #actuallyadhd #actuallyaudhd #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

Anyone else a fan of the movie/tv show Limitless? Watching them for maybe the 4th or 5th time now. The starting position of these two people resonates really hard, especially Eddie since he's a writer like me. Probably it's the ADHD side, but could be the autistic side; not sure since I'm both. Definitely an executive function issue. The appeal isn't of being smarter (although that's cool too), it's that being able to engage hyperfocus at will. If I could just look at (one of) my to-do list(s), and hyperfocus each item off of it, *that* would be amazing.

#ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD @autistics #Limitless

Found my spirit sticker:

"Can't right now...busy multi-procasti-tasking."

@autistics

#ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #auDHD

@actuallyadhd @autistics

Log in to ebay to check things I've ordered.
Once logged in, proceeds to spend 30 minu- what do you mean 3 hours? …
Survives 3 hours hunting for the mythical Surface Pro 1 (2013) case & / or cover 😱😭😞
How's that for hyperfocus? Am I doing it right?
Also keywords / points: Mythical, Pro, 1 & 2013. eBay shows me everything else (Surface Go / Surface Pro 4+) instead 🤦.

Right it's 13:30, time for a tasty brunch & a gallon of tea to cheer me up.
(Online) shopping is such fun (⬅️total sarcasm).

P.s. I did find some 'universals' that should do … I hope 🤞.
Just need to recalibrate my brain to except boring over the design / colour I want so I can order the right one.

#AuDHD #Autistic #ADHD #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic #Hyperfocus

@actuallyadhd @autistics

Today is not going according to my wishes or vague plans. Trying not to stress out over it & I'm losing myself in thoughts over how to simplify & organise next year's bullet journal.
This spiralled into, how can I get back on the, dealing with housework & cleaning wagon, as at some point I completely fell off. So, major paralysis on how or where to start.

Toying with the idea of introducing a, do one small thing everyday either before or immediately after breakfast, so that it's done.
Just small things like, clean the bathroom sink or pick up some random crap that I never tidied up.

If I can persuade myself to write down that I did it & when & then do the same for the following times that things get done, I might eventually have a realistic roster of things. Just need to remember to keep it flexible. If the day the floor need vacuuming I'm not up to it, swap it for something else or just shunt everything along a day.
As long as I don't fall into the trap of shunting things along indefinitely, I might be okay.

#AuDHD #Autistic #ADHD #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic #Life #TidyUp #CleanUp #Burnout #Spoons #NoSpoons

Question time.

Have any of you done anything so bold as attend a meetup for autistic adults?

For context, I'm a relatively newly discovered #auDHD er in my late 40s. My last therapist (also auDHD) commented, and I've seen a number of articles saying the same) that it can really help to spend time among fellow NDs, especially when trying to untangle my face from the mask I've been wearing for so many decades.

I'm signed up for a coffee chat group tomorrow and am having second, third, fourth, AND fifth thoughts...especially as I have to go to the farmer's market first, and two outings in one day is a lot right now.

All thoughts, advice, tips, etc are truly appreciated.

@autistics
@actuallyadhd

#ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD

To my autistic and ADHD fellows: Do you prefer to travel by public transport or car?

Please be aware: This poll is asking for your preference, not which of the options you have access to (based on price, reliability, physical access, etc.). I also don't want to divide between being autistic and/or ADHD.

Re-toot appreciated!

@autistics @actuallyadhd #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAuDHD

My brain is super tired today. It's taken most of the day to send 2 emails. That's 2 more emails than I'd usually be able to achieve but I have several hundred thousand things more important on my to-do list which I can't seem to even start, but I managed to do 2 emails which had absolutely no shelf life (due date).

My boiler is leaking. The pipe under my bathroom sink is leaking. But I sent 2 emails which could have waited but seemed like they were very important at the time.

Brain is very tired. Haven't eaten. Haven't consumed fluids. Can't do anything for self care.

I had a situation last week which dominated my thoughts and emotions. I had this event on Thursday and it's like an elastic band snapping back and my brain is exhausted. I can't do anything. I hate these things that happen which are outside my routine.

Still learning and understanding my autistic stuff. Still realising those things which I have always been difficult are actually my autism and there are things I can do for help and support.

In the past I've gone through these things and told I'm weak, lazy and stupid. I now recognise it's executive function, emotional deregulation, rejection sensitivity, etc. It's relatively early days for me in understanding my autism. Knowing I'm autistic intellectually is very different from knowing it emotionally. Accepting it.

I'm still learning and understanding the autistic vocabulary. People have a shorthand if they've been in the autistic community for an extended time. It's like living in another country to learn a language.

I need to sleep!

#actuallyautistic #ActuallyADHD @autistics

One giant leap for a neurodivergent,
One small step for neurodivergents.

I think that makes sense.

So I had a big victory today. I have been applying for income assistance with my provincial government. I was hesitant because I had tried it once before many years ago and it was such a dehumanizing experience that I couldn't continue past the first orientation meeting. They were more concerned with catching people trying to defraud the government than they were helping anyone. But a friend of mine that has been helping me get my life together pushed me into it.

Yesterday I had an assessment over the phone that lasted an hour. Yes, I hate the phone too, so this was nerve-wracking. But due to my situation they said that since I didn't have a diagnosis for anything (I told them I was autistic, ADHD, and suffering from burnout), that unless I could get a doctor's note right away saying I can't work, that I'll be denied. I don't have a family doctor so the woman told me to just walk into a clinic and do it.

Now I thought that it was over because I didn't think I could convince a doctor that I couldn't work for these reasons in one visit any more than I could convince this woman. But I went in today, waited in the waiting room anxiously, and then told the doctor my situation. I barely had to explain anything, just that I was applying for income assistance, needed a note saying I couldn't work, and when he asked the reason, I told him that I was pursuing a diagnosis for ADHD, autism, and burnout. He said ok, I can give you three months.

😳

🤯

And that was it. I got the letter. Didn't even charge me for it. 🎉

Now this doesn't automatically mean that I'll get the income assistance, but my odds sure look a lot better. I've met all the terms this woman laid out for me. I guess we'll see... 🤞 In any case, while I'm still exhausted from this whole mess, my mood is sure a lot brighter now. 😊

#ActuallyAutistic @autistics #neurodivergent #ActuallyADHD

I've spent a lifetime making myself smaller for everyone.

Making myself the version of me that was most useful and comfortable for everyone around me.

And I *HAVE* to stop before I disappear.

I wrote about learning to TAKE UP SPACE: https://fromemily.com/space-taking-defiance/

Maybe you've made yourself smaller too? Let's TAKE UP SPACE together.

@actuallyautistic

#ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #mentalhealth #neurodivergent #neurodiversity #writing #FromEmily #SmallWeb #writersofmastodon

Hi. I'm terrified.

I've been trying to make my own space on the web for years. And I've been stuck. Badly.

But today is my birthday. And I refuse to let another year pass without putting something—anything—out there.

So here it is in all its messy glory. My first post on my barely-there #website: https://fromemily.com/hi-im-terrified/

It's not great. But it's okay...enough.

And I hope it means something to someone.

@actuallyautistic

#SmallWeb #ActuallyAutistic #ActuallyADHD #writing #blogging

My brain's been serving up some real darkness lately.

(And when an #ActuallyAutistic brain latches onto something, it COMMITS 🙃)

So I'm reminding myself that in this world (especially at this time) ✨#Autistic Joy✨ is an act of defiant resistance.

And I'll be damned if I don't remember to stand in awe of all I've weathered, and of our #neurodivergent culture as a whole.

@actuallyautistic

#ActuallyADHD #AuDHD #ADHD #neurodivergent #neurodiversity

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