I was once engaged to a self-proclaimed communist manchild who made me scream my feelings just to be heard and then called me abusive. He also had a panic attack one time because I held him accountable for his failures to be present in the relationship. I remember he also often used his neurodivergence as an excuse. We're both AuDHD. He's just never been socialised with the same expectations and social standards as women have. He's been outsourcing emotional labour to the women in his life: his mum, his sister, and me back then. So that's just his male privilege, not his neurodivergence. I'm glad he's been deported back to America. Oh, he's an American who never deconstructed his orientalism and colonial gaze, overstaying his welcome here in Indonesia. There are levels of men's fvckeries that are hiding behind leftist and disability justice language and are proof that sexuality isn't a choice. Because what do you mean I still like men? Tf.
Men are the first victims and the ultimate perpetrators of patriarchy. If they haven't dismantled that shit within themselves, they should steer clear of women. Just saying.
Don't argue with me, argue with your dads.
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