notallmen

#notallmen you're right, Majima Goro from Ryu Ga Gotoku would never --

I've had a lot of men complain to me about the post I made about Men's Loneliness. I can understand feeling marginalized, all women can. Now translate that into how women are made to feel every time they post or say anything for thousands of years. We are still fighting for basic rights, to get paid the same, to be recognized. We are in a society where 1 in 4 of us will be sexually assaulted. You might start understanding why so many of us are angry, and have every right to be, when, for instance, someone says, Loneliness is an issue for women too, and you act like you're being attacked. It isn't out of left field to say that many women take up extra emotional labor in relationships. It feels very strange when men keep complaining to me about getting their feelings hurt in a society they both created and continue to use to oppress women. We understand that it's not every man, but it's still way too many. If you're a kind and fair man, the post was never about you, I love all the kind and supportive men I've met here, but I shouldn't need to put #NotAllMen on every post.

PSA: #notallmen

Ich möchte hier mal all diejenigen Endocishet-Männer einladen, die immer so schnell dabei sind, verwundet aufzuschreien, wenn es um das Thema Partnerschaftsgewalt und/oder sexualisierte Gewalt geht, mit so Aussagen wie

- aber doch nicht alle Männer
- gehören immer zwei dazu
- aber es gibt auch Frauen, die
- soll sie halt einfach gehen
- hab ich noch nie wahrgenommen, kann so schlimm nicht sein

und was dergleichen schlaue Sprüche mehr sind…

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#NotAllMen , goddammit.
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How do the good ones not matter? Good ones are the change you supposedly want, but you send them to Hell and tell them they’re meaningless every chance you get.
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It erases Autistic men. This has been my whole life, I would never hurt a fly, but I am somehow responsible for men in general and women have always been justified to hate my Autistic ass for other men’s crimes.
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Openly, because really, they know I would never hurt them for it, like real men would.
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I don’t butt in to anyone’s conversations about it anymore, but all I see in the hate for that meme is NT hate and certainty that everyone is the same asshole and there is no neurodivergence.
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It’s like the end of that pig, Bukowski’s “Something About a Viet Cong Flag:” That was something. You guys are nothing.”
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NT people are so proud of their hate. How dare anyone ask to be left out of it?
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“All men,” the NT guys all you want, I don’t care, just don’t do it to me. You do it to people like me, YOU are the bully.
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I know my existence doesn’t solve the problem, well, you erasing me hasn’t solved it either, has it.
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I think I know why people are, why men are assholes. and there’s an actual cause. I don’t accept it as “Human Nature,” and it doesn’t happen for no reason other than that people “let it.” Don’t fucking Not all men me if you’ve spanked your kids, THAT is a cause.
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I never hurt a fly, but the people who hit their children think I’m responsible for the bad men, this is how it is for me. I’m not defending men, I’m only defending myself. I know most men suck.
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@autistics #ActuallyAutistic