The majority thinks that people are generally the same, except for some individual differences, of course it’s more complicated than that, there seems to be a majority who are generally the same, but they’re one type, humanity is divided into neurotypes, there are other types that are mostly the same among themselves, so that’s a third layer of complexity, and still there are individual differences both within types and also individual differences that transcend types.
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It’s another layer of complexity but it’s a better theory, explains more than the other one.
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That’s why I’m all in on neurodiversity theory, if it explains more, I don’t see that ignoring it is an option.
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♾️Ten reasons why I like being autistic♾️
Maybe surprisingly to some, being autistic isn't all bad.
Here are some things that may get missed when autism is defined *only* through our difficulties & struggles.
#Autism #ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD
A thread 🧵
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I want to aplogize to my NT wife and kids for spending my time talking about, trying to live according to principles they can never understand.
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It’s still impossible to wrap your head around, I suppose the same way they never understand us. My kid is mad at me for judging them about something, and they think it was what the bad guys judge for, gender, sexuality, but it was this, wasn’t it, that I, never having heard of neurotype, was judging them every time I talked about No Spanking and expecting them to understand that.
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They’re convinced my lifelong obsession about it is some kind of a lie, because No Spanking just isn’t a thing, does not compute. I never spanked them, I tried to stop the ex from spanking them, so I SAID, “No Spanking,” and I never spanked - my words and my real history are one - still somehow a lie, and that just means it simply does not compute for them, they don’t, they can’t get it.
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It’s an actuarial matter, they simply cannot see the causality.
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I’m sorry, in hindsight, knowing what I know now about neurodiversity, now I guess I can sort of understand y’all’s reaction to me. Knowing what I do now, I wouldn’t ever try again. For all of our sakes, I wish had known what I was, failing that, I wish I had never met your mother.
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some painful #NTPsychology in this for the #ND Also the Armenian genocide. Nasty all around, a little dessert at the end.
I've been writing, deleting, rewriting, deleting again about different things for days. My head hurts. It's so noisy. Everyone should shut up, actually. It's amazing that I seem calm from the outside. Babies had the time of their lives around me all day today. They seemed to think I speak baby; I don't. I was overwhelmed, but couldn't say anything about it. Their mothers seemed to think I was there to watch their babies. I just needed a bit of sun exposure for my sickly pale complexion, ma'am. Apparently, this beauty privilege is somewhat helpful in this case. Now, how do I make money from my face alone without being perceived and potentially overstimulated? Asking for a friend. The friend is me.
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#rhetoricalquestion #notactuallyseekingadvice #AuDHD #hypergraphia
How our family spends an evening, everyone taking the RAADS-R (autism inventory!) and then comparing scores. We did this last night and it was kind of a blast, honestly. :)
(https://) embrace-autism.com/raads-r/
And then if that's fun, you can take the CAT-Q to see how much you mask/camouflage.
(https://) embrace-autism.com/cat-q/
That one in particular was extremely disconcerting. I couldn't stop the nervous laughter as I was taking it, and Jupes would want me to read off all the ones that creeped me out. I had to keep reminding myself, "they study this now, it's not weird that this website knows every secret thing that's going on in your head in every live social situation".
Edited because Jupes read this and said: "You should add that I had a higher score than you on the RAADS-R, so I beat you at autism." This is true. But if we all take an ADHD inventory, I'm wiping the floor with both of them. 😄
I think I say this a lot but I am just so incredibly burnt about all the years I wasted listening to my NT siblings parroting their #NTPsychology at me, shaking their heads at me like I’m the one not getting it.
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I was born knowing that and they weren’t and can never learn it, they know nothing, but they’re going to teach what they do not understand to the person who wrote the book. NT psych is business psych, army psych. It is not humanist or medical, it’s only there to keep you going to work.
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They spent the greater half of all of our lives telling me something is wrong and guessing about my possible early abuse, they listened to me tell them I had taken the whole idea further and refused to dish out even “normal,” levels of abuse, that I forsook and banned punishment, period - and when my bubble popped, I found out they hadn’t heard or believed any of it, and assumed I had been rough on the kids, despite everything I ever said or did: they couldn’t hear, “no punishment.”
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It’s not a thing. The NT have no brain path, no neuroreceptors for the negation of punishment. There are probably more aspects to the actuarial function, but that’s part of it and they don’t have it.
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What of my life they didn’t wasting talking their psychobabble, I wasted trying to tell them not to hurt people and expect things to improve because of it. THAT’s what I understand to be the core idea of lower case “p” psychology.
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I didn’t learn/figure out until my sixties that there are different brain types and that they don’t all have all the features, and then I finally saw that they just can’t get it.
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And yes, I pathologize. It’s a problem.
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Sorry. 💔😇
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You ever think, that’s me? That’s my life? Where you’d clearly be insane if you weren’t bloody right?
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#IWatchTooMuchTV #ND #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic @autistics
🇨🇦A message for my fellow neurodivergents:
The latest update for my current special interest project, the Techne System for Foundational Skills, has just been put online. The topic is Psychology (Intermediate level). I bring this to your attention not just for its own sake, but because it includes an introduction to Neurodiversity, autism, ADHD and other neurotypes.
Now I'm sure many if not most of you already know all the stuff in this mere introductory overview, but I would very happy to hear your feedback on it. Is it accurate? Is it easily understood? Is there anything I should add, or leave out? The point of the program is that there is only so good one person can make it, so it's intended to improve through community feedback. For context this is aimed at a general audience.
And for everyone else that isn't as familiar with the material, I'd like your feedback too, and hopefully you'll learn something useful.
And this is only one subject out of 5 in the Psychology topic, not counting the Bare Essentials material. Or the other 22 topics in the program, in case you want to poke around. It's all free with no sign ups, subscriptions, or even tracking or cookies.
Here's a link directly to the Neurodiversity page:
https://techne-system.neocities.org/program/level-2/topic-2/l2t2-iib-psy
There are many navigation tools for getting around the rest of the site.
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that Sapolsky rant the other day, been thinking about how it played out, and that’s how I work, I hear something, some #Psychology or some science and at first I think it’s totally intuitive, I’ll have a question, Is this right? or I’ll make the leap, This isn’t right! and then I’ll start talking to myself, talk my way through it - and like in this case, often stumble upon my own point in it all almost by accident.
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I was all day on that, finally coming around to that: this premise is the opposite of everything else they say about people and maybe the opposite of nearly every human child’s experience. My intuition leading me to some truth I wasn’t seeing either, sort of. Or I think it’s “just intuition,” but really it’s just knowledge?
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #AuDHD @autistics
Lately I have been pondering how much of my natural personality is repressed because my ADHD requires significant energy and I have a chronic illness that is exacerbated by exertion and involves bone crushing fatigue.
Hmmm.
When I’m having a better health day, I can burn through energy reserves completely and have a health crash if I allow myself to be spontaneous, get side tracked, get excited, physically move more including stimming… the list goes on.
I miss those sides to myself.
I feel jailed inside this body most days.
I dream of physical freedom. 🐎
Sapolsky Thursday
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there's some stuff about identities and being biracial but I don't think there's anything needs a warning. I mean I maybe could have used one, but I think folks are used to it - you'll see in the first comment or two 😬
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OK, here's the warning: there's all these studies that show group dynamics already at work very early in life, kind of even too early for my wholeview
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it's all trolling me, so I gotta lotta comments
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#Evolution #Psychology #NTPsychology #ActuallyAutistic #ND #AuDHD @autistics
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https://youtu.be/5ib2QbIfx7k?si=nAJ3rDvOhiOLnjAC
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For months I've been publishing essays on late-diagnosed autism. You already see the titles here. I've opened a newsletter for those who also want to follow the theoretical research (preprints on Zenodo, open access) and the second book in progress.
Subscribers receive My AuDHD Organization System immediately, as a free PDF.
https://www.christiangajewski.com/newsletter
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🖖I peopled yesterday. A big meal out for seventeen people!
They are my people, but I am exhausted down to the bones.
Nap time soon tho. 😴
@autistics @actuallyadhd
#AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #ADHD #autism
@autistics
Announcement: #Voxelibre multiplayer casual game today (Sat) for 4 hours in the late afternoon to evening (North America). That's in about 8 hours from now.
Voxelibre is a free and #OpenSource #Minecraft clone. More details here: https://docs.autis.toque.im/
Damage has been turned off. People with #Autism, #ADHD or #AuDHD are invited. There's talk of this week of building more minecart tracks.
I think with my new personal assistant I will use another strategy than I did with the ones in the past. Instead of explaining that I have a different neurology and all that, because none of them has a neurodiversity affirming perspective on autism I will go for
"Yeah, I am like an alien, a creature from another universe. Expect the unexpected. I am crazy in the right way and we will have a lot of fun together. Let's go."
Something like that.
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@autistics
Announcement: #Voxelibre multiplayer casual game today (Sat) for 4 hours in the late afternoon to evening (North America). That's in about 5 hours from now.
Voxelibre is a free and #OpenSource #Minecraft clone. More details here: https://
docs.autis.toque.im/
Damage has been turned off. People with #Autism, #ADHD or #AuDHD are invited.
RE: https://mstdn.social/@archaeology/116942317256778474
My point is, what is the point of trying to show the violence is forever except to justify it today? What good does it do us to think that it’s forever?
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RE: https://kolektiva.social/@wrzky/116840235559384861
I need this met yesterday, so I can stop worrying whether I can stay alive and about electricity and water for the rest of the month, which is only 9 days left. And then the anxiety resets for the new month, a new set of bills. I'm too disabled for capitalist jobs and my government hates disabled people.
Please help however you can. If boosting is all you can do to help, then please do.
@mutualaid @disability @mutualaid@fedigroups.social @mutualaidspace @actuallyadhd @autistics @wrzky
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What "mindful eating" means for me as an AuDHD person and what it doesn't mean
✊I wonder if Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria is a lot more prevalent in my life than I realized.
I hate (I don't use this word lightly) being questioned on my choices. It feels intensely emotionally painful, even if the questioner is being curious or trying to understand instead of accusing or blaming.
I have a graveyard of unfinished projects, business ideas, etc. I wonder if, and what part, RSD plays in my difficulties finishing and launching a thing publicly.
I definitely stress over details, worrying about how a thing I do will be perceived, how it could be judged, etc.
Does that resonate with anyone else? What's your experience with RSD?
#ActuallyAutistic #RejectionSensitiveDysphoria #RSD #AuDHD #Neurodivergent
RE: https://kolektiva.social/@wrzky/116840235559384861
UPDATE. Water's still off. 100/350 raised toward getting it back, $250 left. $718 remaining for July overall.
Thank you to everyone who's given and shared my plea so far.
Please help however you can. Boosting this also helps, more than you know. Thank you, thank you
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Sooooo after having RSD simmer in the back of my mind all day and the thread unravel... yep. It me.
Anybody got any recos for RSD resources? Books, videos, etc?
@autistics
Announcement: #Voxelibre multiplayer casual game today (Sat) for 4 hours in the late afternoon to evening (North America). That's in about 5.25 hours from now.
Voxelibre is a free and #OpenSource #Minecraft clone. More details here: https://docs.autis.toque.im/
Damage has been turned off. People with #Autism, #ADHD or #AuDHD are invited.
This week, we have some map contributions from @Catwoman69y2k . Much appreciated! The 1st map shows where the "Origin" is (the crosshairs; the point where one first "spawns"). The "Owl" region has the most buildings (there's more than what is labelled) and train tracks connecting everything. The second map is the "Owl" region zoomed in. Train tracks connect each place shown. Vast regions still remain unexplored, and boating around is recommended to do that exploring (eg. bring a friend and boat together).
