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Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 968 , Monday 22/06/2026
Monday started with the 06:30 alarm going off.
Down to the gym then back for breakfast & chores.
Had to go curtain shopping for Mrs S’s ‘study’, we ended up getting a blackout blind, which I had to fit in the glare of the noonday sun, which was fun.
Mrs S likes the result though so alls well that ends well!
It’s been a very hot day, so windows & doors were shut & curtains shut!
Caught up with a bit of Starfield this afternoon then did tea - quiche & salad followed by strawberries & ice cream.
Final Thoughts.
I was knackered & peopled out after yesterday, but of course that had to take a backseat as I had to do my house elf bit.
Tomorrow could be fun!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
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A gentle reminder that #neurodiversity is a thing, and the diversity of cognitive neurotypes means that the sweeping generalization you just made about human nature is probably wrong.
No, not everyone thinks the same way, or even sees the world the same way. But public discourse almost always ignores and excludes #neurodivergent (ND) folk from the conversation. Our needs are not considered and our opinions are not respected, if the neurotypical (NT) majority even remembers we exist.
I feel strongly that the path to fixing the world goes through embracing neurodiversity and making the world more inclusive of all neurotypes. The world has been the playground of the NT majority for all of recorded history, and we've seen how that goes.
#Autistic people often talk about our need for justice, or even fairness. There's a study that's famous in the autistic community for concluding that autistic people are impaired by caring too much about ethics and living by our principles, because their study showed that autisitic people would not cheat to get a benefit unfairly. In my opinion, choosing to act unethically when it gets you something is not a good thing. The whole point of ethics is not to do that! "It's OK to cheat if it helps me win" is a deranged thing to think, buy that's the standard the researchers used to conclude that it's autistic people who have a problem.
This is the kind of bullshit that is strangling our civilization. The people who can see the real problems or could fix them have been marginalized so society doesn't have to step up and deal with this death spiral of cognitive overspecialization. And yet we talk about ableism and neuronormativity like that only hurts ND folk, when it's actually hurting the whole world.
OK, so maybe this reminder wasn't as gentle as I hoped for. It's hard to talk about this without getting all worked up, but somebody has to say it. #ActuallyAutistic
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imagine you’re a “normal person,” raised in a world built by and for #Autistics and populated with almost all Autistics, with the “normal people,” marginalized out of sight. You’re a normal sort, with three digits of IQ, you fancy you can put two and two together and you can see the Autistics have all sorts of problems, and you lived a full human lifetime among them, read a lifetime’s worth of their books- here’s my question:
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How well do you think you would understand them?
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#ND #ActuallyAutistic #Philosophy #AuDHD #Psychology @autistics
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✊@actuallyautistic @actuallyadhd I expect most neurodivergent folk can relate to this: whenever I have an idea for a project, I have an initial phase of excitement. Yes, I can do this! Love this idea!
Then my brain spins off in a hundred different directions, identifying all the complexities and things I have to think about and all the work involved and all the ways it could go wrong.
I feel WAY overwhelmed before I've even started, and it just takes the wind right out of my sails. Now I'm overwhelmed and stressed and this doesn't sound interesting or exciting at all.
The obvious answer is break it down into smaller, manageable pieces. What other ideas or strategies might help alleviate this overwhelm?
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 937 , Friday 22/05/2026
Woken up at around 5am by next door’s kids banging around on something, I will not be sorry to see them go, I only hope that our new neighbours like to stay in bed a bit longer!
It’s been a sunny warm day, went to the gym, did the chores & knocked about the house.
We had a decorator come & price up doing the box room - the other one who came the other month has been spinning us along & will not give a firm date, the lass who came around today can start in a week!
Final Thoughts.
Not a bad day, although I am still struggling with the whole peopling thing!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
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Autistic people often show things up as taboos by inadvertently saying them.
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I’ve got the story of the British/Canadian “Home children,” on again, and again I’m blown away by the lengths they will go to to ensure trauma and ignorance and disconnection in the next generation and Britain literally built Canada and the rest of the colonies on it.
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These enormous crimes upon the world’s Indigenous were perpuated by committing crimes against the colonizing powers’ own children, tearing them out if their lives and families, destroying their psyches and then giving them a homestead, it’s make your place, colonize or starve.
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It’s a difficult argument to make, group dynamics is built into the majority and growing still, but group dynamics is an Allistic . . . error, there really is no in-group, and almost no-one is getting the “good,” treatment. Again, the reason they see an out-group is because they are abused.
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Group dynamics is the Allistic usual thought, like capitalism, we are to believe hurting people gives us the good life, we are to believe our life comes from destroying others’ lives but again, it’s not true and despite we are mostly all engaged in capitalism and group dynamics, we are still mostly poor and still mostly living as poorly as our enemies.
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And again, so the payoffs are not material things, but emotional, feeding a need to hurt, whether it pays off in the good life or not, and again, always, if you wanted to create this need, you would probably hit children.
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@autistics #ActuallyAutistic that #AwkwardAutisticMoment where someone is being nice to you (aka treating you like an actual person) and you automatically start thinking:
"What's the catch?”
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Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 1011 , Tuesday 04/08/2026
Up at around 7am because I could not sleep thru the noise from next door.
Chores & breakfast were followed by a very unproductive day, could not get my brain into gear at all!
Mrs S wanted to go to Costco™ this afternoon so off we went.
The cunning plan was to have an early tea at their ultra cheap cafe & then hit the shop proper. Sadly the first part of the plan went slightly awry!
The first issue is that Costco™, in their wisdom, have take all but 3 of the tables with seats out & replaced them with standing tables. I HATE eating at standing tables but luckily we managed to snag one of the 3 with seats. These are the 2 x 2 seater benches with the table in between type. I had just settled in to wait while Mrs S ordered our tea when some strange woman just sat down opposite me - no please / thank you / do you mind, she just brazenly nicked Mrs S’s seat - I protested about this so she moved down the bench saying something about sharing. Now I have a thing about personal space & a bigger thing about people with no manners! But what could I do - I could not in all conscience tell her to leave because there were, undeniably 2 empty seats at the table.
It completely spoilt my tea though.
I think that we will pay extra net time & go to an eatery where there are enough tables for all the diners!
Then having to traipse around the store & endure all the people almost finished me off.
Final Thoughts.
The trip to Costco™ really frazzled me, at this point I am not sure if I’ll be going to the gym in the morning, I’m not sure I can cope with being in close proximity to people.
That sounds wimpish & weak & hopefully after a nights sleep I will feel differently.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
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@autistics #ActuallyAutistic ebb and flow, ebb and flow
Autistic people who talk at length about their interests are often read as self-centered. I think the mechanism is almost the opposite. A follow-up to my series on autism from the inside, on why information has survival-level value, why small talk feels like noise pollution, and why sharing is, quite literally, how a lot of us care.
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When we age our bodies work harder to do the standard things. It takes more energy and determination to bend over, walk up stairs, etc. At 67 I feel this. It is a natural progression.
Being #actuallyautistic also means that it takes more energy and determination for me to deal with noise and other mental stimuli (oh that plural).
Regardless of my lifelong work at fitting in, age is my great natural unmasker. Now I watch for the signs and find ways to ease the energy burden.
This, “Autism isn’t that something is broken, it’s just a different way of processing,” should only be half the speech, followed by, “and so is Allism, a different way of processing, Allism isn’t a normal way of processing, it’s particular and strange and not shared by any other animal.”
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Do people forget that people are strange?
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Strange enough that everyone wonders WTF humans are, are we divinely created, was Earth seeded by aliens, so different that half of them don’t count people as animals?
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But then when one of these semi divine alien hybrids is somehow different from the rest, then all of the clearly not of this Earth ones are normal and somehow perfect? 😳
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Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 940 , Monday 25/05/2026
Managed a lie in this morning, it being a public holiday.
It has been stupidly hot here in deepest, darkest Yorkshire with temps hitting 32ºC in the shade in the east facing back garden this afternoon!
A mostly quiet day but we did do some measuring up in the box room for fitting a new desk & shelving in once the decorators have been next week & the carpet we chose on Saturday is fitted. Mrs S is very excited!
Had a naughty fired chicken takeaway - I tried a new item on their menu - garlic seasoned
Chicken ‘strips’ which turned out to be massive, & tasty!
Rewatched ‘Grey Man’ with Ryan Gosling, a throughly enjoyable turn your brain off romp.
Final Thoughts.
Not a bad day at all but I wonder if I will be able to get any sleep tonight!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
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Hi!
My first podcast episode is online, and it's about being autistic in Tech and Analytics. Hope you like it 🪬
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RE: https://social.treehouse.systems/@angelastella/116784312336109812
In this conversation there's a microcosm of all that is right or wrong with our people.
Don't harass my friend. Or else.
So, I've had to deal with neighbors regarding #LightPollution and #NoisePollution (and luckily, was able to get them to understand what #SensoryPollution does to folks, especially those who are #ActuallyAutistic ). Now, imagine what it would be like living next to a source of both light and noise pollution and not be able to do a darn thing about it (other than move). That's what a lot of people (and animals) are having to deal with if they live to close to a #Datacenter!
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 966 , Saturday 20/06/2026
Up stupidly early, despite not getting to bed until after midnight I was up before 6am.
Breakfast & chores were followed by a trip to my late MiL’s to get a bookcase Mrs S wanted in her newly refurbished ‘study’
A peaceful afternoon relaxing & catching up on ‘The Diplomat’
Watched the movie ‘Unstoppable’ (excellent by the way can throughly recommend!) while enjoying a pizza burger & chips from the local takeaway.
Final Thoughts.
Not a bad day, summer seems to have arrived & warm weather abounds!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
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@autistics #ActuallyAutistic i took a couple of days off last week…
only to come back and needing to do this exact thing…
RE: https://mastodon.social/@filmfreak75/116642028465545029
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic i now remember why i stopped using the back up keyboard: the finicky space bar
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic and yet at work achieving the goal outside of the “perfect” way is considered not completing the goal at all…
