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Has something happened to the Autistics @ and # groups with boosting posts, etc? I posted earlier and it usually boosts my post. Is it due to the quote posts feature causing complications with boosting posts?
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Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 777 , Saturday 13/12/2025
Saturday started early at just past 06:30 when Mrs S got up - this wouldn't be too bad if she didn't then have breakfast and then vanish to her room for an hour reading leaving me to get on with assorted tasks.
She went shopping just after 8am and I finished my chores then settled down with my book because I could not find the energy to do anything else.
We had a visit from Shaun this afternoon, an upmarket 'odd job man' and an acquaintance. We need some guttering repairing and Kim essentially banned from such activities since falling all of 3ft and tearing my achilles tendon clean in half!
No doubt the price he quotes will raise eyebrows, he is not a believer in 'mates rates'. But the work needs doing and he is fairly competent.
We caught up on a couple of Mrs S's shows when she got back this afternoon & then finished our Downton Abbey fest with the 'Grand Finale' movie. If yr a fan & haven't seen it I would definitely recommend it!
We had a Chinese takeaway again for tea, Mrs S having gone off the fired chicken place after a bit of a dodgy tummy after the last one last weekend.
Final Thoughts.
A quiet day, tomorrow is Christmas decorating day & writing chrimbo card day - we really should get our act into gear and write these cards at the start of December but somehow we never quite manage that!
A new edition to the list this year after a surprise card from a Masto friend, a most pleasant surprise at that! 😊
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
One problem with Mastodon that bothers me is that you can't change your user ID, your nickname, so to speak. To do so, you have to move your account, migrate to another account, which can be on the same instance.This comes with the inconvenience of not being able to move your posts automatically.
I had my first account in late 2016, with Mastodon newly created, shortly after my first Twitter account. I didn't use it much and then switched to this instance (infosec.exchange) to follow people and information related to infosec and bugbounty (bughuntercat).
Then I got tired of that cat and migrated to this account with my real name. I can't seem to get comfortable with this. Maybe it's my habit of hiding and my reluctance to use real personal information online.
I no longer even know who I really am, so I pretend to be someone else.
I have an account that's the oldest I have right now, and I'm tempted to move everything there. In the end, people don't really care who you are or if you even exist. It would have to be something permanent because I'm getting old and my autistic ass doesn't like so many changes at all. I've moved 45 times in my 62 years of life and it seems I have the urge to do the same with my online digital spaces. To read the work of good people who do hacking, programming, and tinkering I really like this instance with the devices, so well managed by Jerry @jerry .
I only have Mastodon and an Instagram account that I share with my wife. I know that I may not have much time left in this world since my health is plummeting like a kamikaze plane and I don't want to continue wasting my time on vain things.
I don't even know why I'm telling you this, which by right might not matter.
I want to have and live an autistic, almost monk-like life, quiet and without looking out the window at that toxic world in which I have lived for many years. Thank you for sharing your cats, memes, jokes, and your work here.
(The photo is of Hakka, my youngest cat, who is 8 years old. A tremendous rooftop fighter whom I admire. A martial artist like his human father.
#mastodon #infosec #actuallyautistic #socialmedia #socialnetwork #cats
@autistics do any of you have rituals of what to do when you realize you have been collecting too much stress over time and need an intervention in order to stay functional?#actuallyautistic
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic another day, another “I'm allistic so I'm inherently corect.”
as part of my board work i sent a survey re a policy change and used a third party app for maximum anonymity. so far people have:
(1) bitched about the format of the survey (both wording of questions and not using Microsoft or Google product)
(2) called unprofessional for the "quality" of the survey
and while the vast majority of comments are useful data, any wonder i have work trauma
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@autistics #ActuallyAutistic exactly what i needed this morning…
https://mas.to/@skeletor/115577417809159118
Since the topic of autistic burnout came up again recently I republished my Autistic Burnout Mitigation post in case it's useful to people.
I wrote this post more than a year ago ago on another blog. I’m reposting mostly unchanged it now since I still think it’s relevant, and other than my current status that I don’t consider myself to be in burnout anymore, the mitigation list is the things I keep doing to varying degrees to avoid going back into burnout.
https://hiiamsamantha.xyz/posts/2025/11/autistic-burnout-mitigation/
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I got a text from my kid‘s partner asking about my plans for Xmas. Lovely, I thought.
Their (my kiddo‘s and their partner‘s) idea is to spend Xmas Eve together with both my and the partner‘s family. At my house because it‘s bigger.
Of course there’s a lot of context, but the timing of this text and the vision of lots of people in my livingroom sent me into full panic mode followed by a meltdown. 😖
Will start with a lack of spoons tomorrow, that’s for sure.
#actuallyAutistic
@autistics
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 778 , Sunday 14/12/2025
Sunday started late - a nice long lie in after a good nights sleep had me awake at just gone 8am.
It's been a quiet day in.
Did my chores after breakfast and then wrote to my ex-Deputy Head / English Language teacher. We have kept in touch down the years - he once went to bat for me against my parents and I have never forgotten that act of kindness so I make sure I keep him upto date with where I am. I really don't know what he thinks of me, given many of my peers are people of substance and position.
After lunch we put up the Christmas tree and the decorations, while we had our 2 traditional Christmas starter movies - 'Muppet Christmas Carol' for Mrs S and 'The Nightmare before Christmas' for me.
We finished off with another movie we discovered last year that is becoming a firm favourite - 'Arthur Christmas'.
I wrote my Christmas cards and called my brother and sister to arrange Boxing Day visits.
We are having Christmas Day at home ... it will be the first Christmas Day ever that we have had no external commitments!
Final Thoughts.
I am struggling again, despite the overall load easing. I was aware today that I had something of a short fuse and was triggered quickly by silly little things. I need to do better.
Back to the grind tomorrow, we have a number of appointments thru the day and a will spend some time at my MiLs sorting out some more of her stuff.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic this is why i post here -- the recognition has made all the difference https://neurodifferent.me/@theautisticcoach/115594484029955686
@actuallyadhd @autistics
I keep forgetting that even good being social knocks me so far sideways that all I've managed is a bit of washing up & hanging washing.
Whilst I loaded & started the washing around midday, it was something after 18:00 before I even got anything else done.
Just about managed feeding myself, even though I was hungry for tea I had zero idea or enthusiasm for cooking. Plan A failed as I didn't have any mixed veg in the freezer to go with whatever tinned thing I picked.
Plan B just about made it.
🎶 Hello AuDHD,
it's nice to talk with you ag-
…
OK! Come back here! …
My plans for getting a decent start on decorations flunked & has not returned.
Just finished tea 'bout half an hour ago & it's already pretty much supper time, if I want a chance of waking up early enough & feeling remotely productive tomorrow, that is.
#AuDHD #Autistic #ADHD #ActuallyADHD #ActuallyAutistic #Burnout #Spoons #NoSpoons #SelfCare #TimeBlindness #ExecutiveDysfunction
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic my phone locked up for 2 days and is now almost back to normal after two separate tech support trips…
…and honestly, it was one of the most unsettling 48 hours in a long time
"Why can't you be normal?"
Something I wish I hadn't heard many many times in my life.
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic this quote from The Blacklist seems appropriate:
Honestly, is it just me or is the human race, armed with religion, poisoned by prejudice, and absolutely frantic with hatred and fear, galloping pell—mell back to the Dark Ages? —Raymond Reddington, The Blacklist
https://universeodon.com/@memeorandum/115582563834716323
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic so simply exist?
https://mas.to/@skeletor/115583189861282418
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic another day, another allistic fire drill waste of time…
…what happens when a bunch of ego driven allistics get into a discussion about process that they don't understand...
...the neurodivergents beneath their feet are stuck scrambling to provide answers to questions that were never asked…
…and fighting the urge to answer the actual questions for efficiency...
…but knowing doing so will lead to being in trouble for “not knowing their place”
https://www.nytimes.com/2025/11/21/us/politics/rfk-jr-cdc-vaccines-autism-website.html
What a piece of shit.
Who cares how many people die, as long as you're "right"? /s
I have something to add to the debate: Not only do I have solid grounds for not believing that getting vaccinated caused my autism, but I DON'T CARE! I would tell my parents they did the right thing by getting me vaccinated. Autism didn't ruin my life. Dying of a preventable disease certainly would have, though!
I don't get why when people see on my social media bio that my store is for autistics, they ALWAYS assume it's for autistic children. So many people have pitched their product to me saying it helps autistic kids or targets parents of autistic kids. Why is the fact there is a store made for autistics where children cannot use 98% of what it sells so hard to grasp? Before me there was nothing for autistic adults. When we grow up into adulthood are we just supposed to stop being autistic or something? Weird people.
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RE: https://mas.to/@skeletor/115599959714637948
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic i use the word performative a lot to describe my workplace…
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic ex-husband just asked if i can add him back to my health insurance…
…the gall of this includes:
(1) he asked for the divorce just about 2 years ago
(2) at the tine i offered (since i’m a moron) to indefinitely separate instead so that he could stay on my insurance and i could avoid the divorce stigma
(3) he’s only asking since the health insurance time bomb has found him
…and how am i feeling about all of this…
…to paraphrase a Chorus Line, “I feel nothing”
A while ago I was listening to the Autistic Culture Podcast and Matt (who's since left) brought up the intense world theory of #Autism, which explains a lot about our brains.
According to studies (in link below), generally, the #Autistic brain generates 42% more information at rest, over-activates upon eye contact and reading faces, and has closer synaptic firing. No wonder we get easily overwhelmed by the world! 😵💫