One of the magical things about being trans and out it that, just by existing, you're going to help other people figure out how to embrace that part of themselves. We're everywhere! But... we're often pretty scared.
So, what do you do when someone asks you for help questioning their gender?
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, it's a guide on Being the Big Sib, so you can help them without hurting them, or yourself, in the process.
When a trans person comes out, one of the most common, and challenging, parts of doing so is responding to family members who say they need to grieve us. A lot of pain, on every side, tends to swirl around the members of a relationship when that happens.
But it's not necessarily--even commonly--a bad thing.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're talking about Letting Them Let Go--when family members grieve us in transition.
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/letting-them-let-go
While some of us knew from a very, very young age that we were trans, a whole lot of us... well, we didn't. We thought that the way things were for us was normal.
And then, one day, maybe all of a sudden, maybe after a long time exploring ourselves, we said the magic words: "Oh, s#!t, I think I'm not cis."
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we've got a guide for what to do after the bottom drops out of your world, and you got your gender wrong.
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-i-think-im-not-cis
For so many of us, coming out isn't just about ourselves--it's about the people we love most, and especially our partners.
But we do come out to them, and then the person we love the most is faced with the reality that, "Oh, s#!t, my partner just told me they're trans." What the fuck do I do?!
They deserve support in those tender first moments, and this week, I'm going to try and give them a little with a jumbo edition of #StainedGlassWoman!
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-my-partner-just-told-me-theyre
One of the scariest parts of coming out is coming out at work. Unlike your family--blood or chosen--work is just a bunch of people who get thrown together, mishmash, and have to make things work out.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, it's a guide to give to your coworkers when they get that wide-eyed look and think "Oh, s#!t, my coworker just told me they're trans." At least, it should keep people from asking what's in your goddamned pants.
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-my-coworker-just-told-me-theyre
I have never before in my life read or felt seen as deeply by a feminism like that from A Short History of Trans Misogyny, and this week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're diving deep into mujerísima to understand exactly why Jules Gill-Peterson's work truly is A Love Letter To The Dolls unlike anything I've ever encountered before.
#trans #MtF #nonbinary #TransJoy #Feminism
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/a-love-letter-to-the-dolls
How many times have you looked at this trans person or that trans person and found yourself just in awe of them, feeling hopeless to ever measure up to their transness? I know I have.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, Red Seems Sus, which means we're investigating imposters... or rather, why trans folks often feel like we're not trans enough, or not really trans by comparison to others. I promise: you won't be thrown out an airlock! 🤭
It's Pride month, and now that we're 55 years after Stonewall, it can be awfully easy to forget why it's all such a big deal--and what Pride exists to do.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're diving into the lifesaving importance of Pride and the Prejudice that makes it so necessary. Grab a rainbow flag, show yourself a little love, and join us as we talk about internalized self-stigma and shame.
#Trans #TransJoy #MtF #Enby #FtM #Psychology
https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/pride-and-prejudice
If there's one thing that's inevitable when you're trans and out online, it's running into transphobic hate speech. How we fight it and protect ourselves when we do, however, makes a big difference.
This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're looking at the psychology of radicalizing public rhetoric, how normal folks turn into transphobes, and how to stamp out their hatred effectively, and while minimizing their ability to hurt you.
Ever wish you had something small enough to explain a really basic part of being trans to like... your coworkers, or your clueless parents? The kind of people who just sorta bounce off the long intro articles you send them?
This week on #StainedGlassWoman are Doc Impossible's Trans-Torials, Creative Commons-licensed, standalone, portable, *printable* intros to transness for those folks!
