I have been deconstructing heteronormativity and neuronormativity for several years by now and it still baffles me how many of my problems with relationships and mental health issues were caused by not understanding my queerness and neurodivergence. Both are strongly intertwined.
The body dysphoria because I tried to fit gender norms.
Feelings of anxiety and guilt around relationships, because I am polyamorous and forced myself into monogamy.
Not understanding why I have been attracted to people, because I didn’t know that I am pansexual.
Not finding my people and being the crisis friend because I didn’t know that I am AuDHD.
The feeling of being weird and too much because I didn’t know what a hyperfocus is.
Ending up in abusive relationships, because I wasn’t educated about kinks and consent culture.
The missed opportunities, because of all that.
The more I unmask my neurodivergence and queerness in relationships and communicate my needs openly the better they become. Problems can be solved easily by communication instead of becoming a drama. It makes me truly love and accept myself and others.
While writing this text I had to think about a line in the song “Too good for giving up”:
“Reclaim your shame and dress it up in love.”
Happy Pride month 
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July mutual aid request for disabled, queer artist whose only income is art sales + charity 
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