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This is your regular reminder that
NONBINARY PEOPLE/CREATURES EXIST.

See this flag? ---> ​
Yep, it's for nonbinary people/creatures. It has a lot of meaning for us. But you know what else is ours?

On THIS flag ---> 🏳️‍⚧️
nonbinary people/creatures are represented by the white stripe. That one is ours, too. We can fit under the trans umbrella. We don't have to fit a binary.

We are here, we are valid. Use our flags and represent us in your stories.

If you're curious about us, ask us! We are mysterious entities, but we don't have to be!!

Talk to us. Get to know us.

Please stop making us invisible.

#Enby #Nonbinary #Trans #Transgender #lgbtq #lgbtqia

My wife and I went to a candlelight vigil last night that was held in Houston for the #enby #Oklahoma 16yr old, #NexBenedict .

I had mixed emotions about going. Wasn't sure if I should or shouldn't go. I mean... Would it make a difference? "It" being the vigil itself but also my presence there as well I guess. What could a candlelight vigil from a blue dot in a deeply red state possibly do to affect change for #trans citizens in deeply red Oklahoma?

But on the other hand, there needs to be awareness and it starts with people being present, showing up and making their voices heard. Change is desperately needed to end the stream of political and physical attacks on trans people by individuals, society and governments.

And so my wife and I went.
But I came away from it feeling somewhat....

icky.

I don't like that it was more of a political rally and not a method for honoring and lifting up the the short-lived life of Nex. I think the message of trans rights could have been woven in more subtly while putting to the forefront the fact that a child lost their life entirely and solely because they were trans.

I don't know. Maybe that's the way candlelight vigils for trans deaths are.

When a trans person comes out, one of the most common, and challenging, parts of doing so is responding to family members who say they need to grieve us. A lot of pain, on every side, tends to swirl around the members of a relationship when that happens.

But it's not necessarily--even commonly--a bad thing.

This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're talking about Letting Them Let Go--when family members grieve us in transition.

#Trans #FtM #MtF #Enby #Grief

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/letting-them-let-go

Hi Fedi Family,
In 2008 Californians voted for Prop8 that defined marriage as the union of one man and one woman in the California constitution. While this was defeated in courts this draconian Prop8 language is still in the California constitution. Justice tHomas and the right wing SCOTUS is openly hinting at destroying precedent and trampling rights. If they overturned Obergefell - the Prop8 language in the California Constitution will act as a “trigger law”, raining havoc on queer families like mine across California.
Please spread the word to vote “YES” to repeal Prop8 (2008) from the California constitution in Nov 2024. Talk to your friends, family and colleagues about it.

Boosts appreciated.

https://ballotpedia.org/California_Right_to_Marry_and_Repeal_Proposition_8_Amendment_(2024)
#lgbt #lgbtq #California #marriageequality #Prop8 #gay #lesbian #bisexual #transgender #queer #nonbinary #enby #HumanRights #Politics #USpol #scotus #lgbtqia #indivisible #equality #trans #love #sfba

While some of us knew from a very, very young age that we were trans, a whole lot of us... well, we didn't. We thought that the way things were for us was normal.

And then, one day, maybe all of a sudden, maybe after a long time exploring ourselves, we said the magic words: "Oh, s#!t, I think I'm not cis."

This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we've got a guide for what to do after the bottom drops out of your world, and you got your gender wrong.

#Trans #MtF #FtM #Enby

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/oh-st-i-think-im-not-cis

How many times have you looked at this trans person or that trans person and found yourself just in awe of them, feeling hopeless to ever measure up to their transness? I know I have.

This week on #StainedGlassWoman, Red Seems Sus, which means we're investigating imposters... or rather, why trans folks often feel like we're not trans enough, or not really trans by comparison to others. I promise: you won't be thrown out an airlock! 🤭

#trans #psychology #enby #MtF #FtM

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/red-seems-sus

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It's Pride month, and now that we're 55 years after Stonewall, it can be awfully easy to forget why it's all such a big deal--and what Pride exists to do.

This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're diving into the lifesaving importance of Pride and the Prejudice that makes it so necessary. Grab a rainbow flag, show yourself a little love, and join us as we talk about internalized self-stigma and shame.

#Trans #TransJoy #MtF #Enby #FtM #Psychology

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/pride-and-prejudice

Telling people to fuck off when needed is kindness to *oneself* (just so yanno).

They aren’t on the Fediverse, but you can learn more about the Female Collective here:

https://wearefemalecollective.com/

#feminism #patriarchy #Pride #BlackMastodon #kindness #MentalHealth #LGBTQ #trans #women #life #enby #gender #nonbinary #queer

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If there's one thing that's inevitable when you're trans and out online, it's running into transphobic hate speech. How we fight it and protect ourselves when we do, however, makes a big difference.

This week on #StainedGlassWoman, we're looking at the psychology of radicalizing public rhetoric, how normal folks turn into transphobes, and how to stamp out their hatred effectively, and while minimizing their ability to hurt you.

#Trans #Enby #FtM #MtF #Psychology

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/bravo

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Ever wish you had something small enough to explain a really basic part of being trans to like... your coworkers, or your clueless parents? The kind of people who just sorta bounce off the long intro articles you send them?

This week on #StainedGlassWoman are Doc Impossible's Trans-Torials, Creative Commons-licensed, standalone, portable, *printable* intros to transness for those folks!

#Trans #MtF #FtM #Enby #Transjoy

https://stainedglasswoman.substack.com/p/trans-torials

#TransMusicMonday

Artist: Bridge City Sinners (Libby Lux, she/they)

Why? Mix country and metal vocals, add in bluegrass and folk instrumentation, and run wild with goth, emo, and psychobilly themes. This is the unique magic that is Bridge City Sinners.

Where to start?

One of my favorite songs and just a gorgeous music video is "Devil Like You." It tells a campfire scary story like a folk song, while also bringing in themes of the dangers of heteronormativity and more.

https://youtu.be/ZDgp1Z3EPVU?si=Oh_XGCznCYip5ZRM

Their latest album centers themes of living with mental illness, decentering neurotypical norms. Many of these songs highlight the possibilities of this distinct musical creativity too. "Doubt" speaks to my disordered heart while being a tour of the breadth of their talent.

https://youtu.be/3cu1dDFjH0M?si=T51cTG3Gsy4Xf5gK

"Crazy" is another one of these, it's both fun and affirms "maybe it's okay" we'll never be okay.

https://youtu.be/pIc7THicdtk?si=IMPoeyYD137Rhr6x

#TransMusic #NonbinaryMusic #Nonbinary #Trans #Enby #TheyThem