<p>A question for my autistic friends. Many autistic people struggle with social interactions and forming relationships, which is why they often feel lonely and isolated. I’d be interested to know how you usually go about making new connections, whether they’re friendships or romantic relationships.</p><p>I’d appreciate it if you could boost this so we can get more responses. 🙏🏻</p><p><a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#Neurodivergent</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiversity/" rel="tag">#Neurodiversity</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
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<p>I offer 20% off at my Etsy shop for all folks who find me through Mastodon. Code: MASTO20</p><p><a href="https://brittbuilds3d.etsy.com" rel="nofollow"><span class="invisible">https://</span>brittbuilds3d.etsy.com</a> </p><p>When you use the code, I'll also add a small extra fidget to your order as a thank you for your support. <img src="https://eggplant.place/media/emoji/mstdn.games/gaming.png" class="emoji" alt=":gaming:" title=":gaming:"></p><p>You don't have to disclose who you are if you don't want to! <img src="https://eggplant.place/media/emoji/mstdn.games/cat_cute.png" class="emoji" alt=":cat_cute:" title=":cat_cute:"> When I see the code on the order, I'll know how you found me. <img src="https://eggplant.place/media/emoji/mstdn.games/ACNH_Love.png" class="emoji" alt=":ACNH_Love:" title=":ACNH_Love:"> </p><p>Here are a few examples of the custom fidget toys I craft for my store: </p><p><a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AUDHD</a> <a href="/tags/smallbusiness/" rel="tag">#SmallBusiness</a> <a href="/tags/etsy/" rel="tag">#Etsy</a> <a href="/tags/brittbuilds3d/" rel="tag">#BrittBuilds3D</a><br>My business is Canadian <img src="https://eggplant.place/media/emoji/mstdn.games/cangoose.png" class="emoji" alt=":cangoose:" title=":cangoose:">, neurodiversity friendly <img src="https://eggplant.place/media/emoji/mstdn.games/autism_spectrum.png" class="emoji" alt=":autism_spectrum:" title=":autism_spectrum:">, and queer owned. <img src="https://eggplant.place/media/emoji/mstdn.games/lgbtq_flag.png" class="emoji" alt=":lgbtq_flag:" title=":lgbtq_flag:"></p>
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<p><a href="/tags/wednesday/" rel="tag">#Wednesday</a> S02 is super enjoyable!</p><p><a href="/tags/fobi/" rel="tag">#FOBI</a> = Fear Of Being Included</p><p>Yeah, /metoo 😅😝</p><p><a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="/tags/autisticactually/" rel="tag">#AutisticActually</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> @actuallyautistic</p>
<p>Anything new happen for silent Sunday I’ve been cleaning and doing chores most of the day almost done.</p><p>Does everyone else have an unusually rough time getting all they expect to get done in a day ?<br>😮💨.<br>I mean I’m grateful to get done what I do but geesh. Humans and cats are messy. Almost males me think of getting my own place and I would have so much more time in the day. Maybe Even enough time to her a 9-5 job working at the gas station<br><a href="/tags/chores/" rel="tag">#chores</a><br><a href="/tags/life/" rel="tag">#life</a><br><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a><br>@actuallyadhd@fedigroups.<br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
<p>Oh, what the heck… let’s do it. </p><p> You can find my Etsy store right here! <br><a href="https://brittbuilds3d.etsy.com" rel="nofollow"><span class="invisible">https://</span>brittbuilds3d.etsy.com</a> </p><p>20% off select items through August 10th! </p><p>The store is filled with fidgets, desk toys, keychains, containers, and even flexi dino mystery boxes! </p><p>Hope you like it, feedback is welcome! <img src="https://eggplant.place/media/emoji/mstdn.games/goose_yes.png" class="emoji" alt=":goose_yes:" title=":goose_yes:"><br><a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/smallbusiness/" rel="tag">#SmallBusiness</a></p><p><a href="/tags/brittbuilds3d/" rel="tag">#BrittBuilds3D</a></p>
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<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@actuallyadhd" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyadhd</span></a></span> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p><p>Was going to keep today a Do Stuff day so I could zombie my way through that (recovering from being up several hours earlier than I'm used to & having to people & adult most of yesterday) so I can actually enjoy my duvet day tomorrow.</p><p>Enter fly in the ointment.<br>Tomorrow is more going out & peopling 😱. Then next weekend Saturday is more peopling & being social at friends' (shared) birthday. <br>Problem with this picture, Saturdays & Mondays are usually duvet days.</p><p>One positive is, I've already tackled today's adulting, phoning my Mam so hopefully she won't phone me later today 🤞.</p><p>Can I book my 12 month cryostasis treatment now!?<br>No, I'm not asking for a friend.</p><p><a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyadhd/" rel="tag">#ActuallyADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="/tags/burnout/" rel="tag">#Burnout</a> <a href="/tags/spoons/" rel="tag">#Spoons</a> <a href="/tags/nospoons/" rel="tag">#NoSpoons</a> <br><a href="/tags/selfcare/" rel="tag">#SelfCare</a> <a href="/tags/life/" rel="tag">#Life</a></p>
<p>So, some years back, my hubby and I went to visit some of my family and friends back home, including my ex-bf and his wife. At some point, when the ex and I were alone, he asked me, "Do you ever wonder about what would have happened if we got married?" (We had been engaged, but broke it off.) I replied (without missing a beat), "Then I would be having this discussion with my first ex-husband right now." Ooooof! That shut him up though.</p><p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> </p><p><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/nopunchespulled/" rel="tag">#NoPunchesPulled</a> <a href="/tags/honesty/" rel="tag">#Honesty</a></p>
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<p>I have Prosopagnosia (face blindness) and worked with someone today (just us) for 8 hours. I was fairly sure (fortuitously I saw their log in name on a computer) that it wasn't a person who has the same name who I have known for years, and I generally recognise. <br>She told me some work history, which I think I'd heard before, but that isn't so embarrassing. <br>Having lots of people who look remarkably similar (same ethnic background, haircut- even personality) is challenging for people like me. <br><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiverse/" rel="tag">#neurodiverse</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <a href="/tags/autisticburnout/" rel="tag">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a></p>
<p>Does this article resonate with you? "Nobody Gets Promoted for Simplicity" <a href="https://terriblesoftware.org/2026/03/03/nobody-gets-promoted-for-simplicity/" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="terriblesoftware.org/2026/03/03/nobody-gets-promoted-for-simplicity/"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">terriblesoftware.org/2026/03/0</span><span class="invisible">3/nobody-gets-promoted-for-simplicity/</span></a></p><p>I think <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> people often make the serious mistake of missing out on the self-promotion that is deserved after doing some sort of deep analysis, and finding some elegant solution. Their brilliance goes unseen.</p><p>"If you’re an engineer, learn that simplicity needs to be made visible. The work doesn’t speak for itself; not because it’s not good, but because most systems aren’t designed to hear it.</p><p>Start with how you talk about your own work. “Implemented feature X” doesn’t mean much. But “evaluated three approaches including an event-driven architecture and a custom abstraction layer, determined that a straightforward implementation met all current and projected requirements, and shipped in two days with zero incidents over six months”, that’s the same simple work, just described in a way that captures the judgment behind it. The decision not to build something is a decision, an important one! Document it accordingly."</p><p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@actuallyadhd" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyadhd</span></a></span> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p><p>Hmm 🤔. Seriously wondering if I've lost an hour or if BST just started in the middle of my evening in the middle of the week?</p><p>I'm guessing the former but it really feels like a switch was flipped & the day / clocks just jumped forward by an hour in the blink of an eye.</p><p>This makes me sad & mad 😞😣😠.<br>I hate it when both my autistic & ADHD selves gang up on me.<br>Evening plans wrecked or tomorrow wrecked if stubborn me comes along & plays along with insomnia.</p><p><a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyadhd/" rel="tag">#ActuallyADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <br><a href="/tags/timeblindness/" rel="tag">#TimeBlindness</a> <a href="/tags/executivedysfunction/" rel="tag">#ExecutiveDysfunction</a></p>
<p>I saw this 'autistic survival pipeline' explained on TikTok, and thought it was useful to share. It is described in detail on lots of websites. </p><p><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiverse/" rel="tag">#neurodiverse</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <a href="/tags/autisticburnout/" rel="tag">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a></p><p><a href="https://vt.tiktok.com/ZSuLGUADP/" rel="nofollow"><span class="invisible">https://</span>vt.tiktok.com/ZSuLGUADP/</a></p>
<p>That <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> frustration at work each time seeing others don’t want problems to be solved, they want them to be discussed <br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
<p>Hi Fediverse!</p><p>After hovering around here for a long time as a passive observer, I've decided to be more of an active participant, and try to do the <a href="/tags/introduction/" rel="tag">#introduction</a> thingy.</p><p>I'm <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a>, so obviously the only good way to introduce myself is by making a long list of topics I think too much about. Besides the standard Fedi topics, I'll be tooting about:</p><p>‣ The surreal experience of growing up in the <a href="/tags/baltics/" rel="tag">#Baltics</a> in the 90s, and why the last half a decade of geopolitical events unfolding has made my hair go gray.<br>‣ Deconstructing bad takes about " <a href="/tags/easterneurope/" rel="tag">#EasternEurope</a> " I keep hearing from fellow leftists in the west. About the othering that comes with just being born there, often even in <a href="/tags/radical/" rel="tag">#radical</a> spaces.<br>‣ A long and confusing journey of understanding my fluid <a href="/tags/gender/" rel="tag">#gender</a> experience, after growing up in one of the more <a href="/tags/queer/" rel="tag">#queer</a> unfriendly regions of <a href="/tags/europe/" rel="tag">#Europe</a>.<br>‣ Observations from a decade of hedonistic escapism in the <a href="/tags/amsterdam/" rel="tag">#Amsterdam</a> "underground" <a href="/tags/techno/" rel="tag">#techno</a> scene. About performative politics, gatekeeping and classism in the scene, and why we need to make dance music political again.<br>‣ The absurdity that has been happening since <a href="/tags/techbros/" rel="tag">#techbros</a> took over the <a href="/tags/psychedelics/" rel="tag">#psychedelics</a> space.</p><p>Unfortunately, I don't have a cat to post pictures of. However, I have made friends with the local murder of <a href="/tags/crows/" rel="tag">#crows</a>, hopefully that works!</p>
<p>Was visiting some relatives. <br>At the table, suddenly realized I only started feeling the taste of the tea after they turned off the (very loud) TV. <br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <br><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#autism</a> <br><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <br><a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#neurodivergent</a></p>
<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> Is anyone interested in filling in a research questionnaire for my step-enby on "Autistic traits, alexithymia and attachment"? They are struggling to get enough participants locally and this would help them gather the data they need for their psychology dissertation. They are <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> themselves, and studying psych in order to help other Autistic people. It's available at <a href="https://app.onlinesurveys.jisc.ac.uk/s/glos/dis-questionares" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="app.onlinesurveys.jisc.ac.uk/s/glos/dis-questionares"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">app.onlinesurveys.jisc.ac.uk/s</span><span class="invisible">/glos/dis-questionares</span></a></p><p>Please boost for reach!</p>
<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> </p><p>This is soooo relatable!</p><p>Epistemic Injustice: The Great <a href="/tags/gaslighting/" rel="tag">#Gaslighting</a> of <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> Lives</p><p>When others overrule autistic self‑knowledge, the result is not better care.</p><p>Updated March 9, 2026</p><p>Excerpt: "Autistic people and epistemic injustice</p><p>Epistemic injustice sounds abstract, but for many in the autistic community, this is the story of being told, over and over, “We know you better than you know yourself.”</p><p>Take one autistic life, roughly sketched.</p><p> Childhood: You say, “It’s too loud, it hurts.” Adults say, “You’re being difficult.” You show them the problem; they decide you are the problem.</p><p> School: You say, “I can’t focus in groups; I do better working alone.” School writes, “refuses to cooperate, poor social skills.” You offer information; it’s turned into evidence against you.</p><p> Work: You say, “If we have meetings with clear agendas sent in advance, I can do my best work.” The organization hears, “high‑maintenance, not a team player.” You suggest how to fix the issue; they label your nervous system the issue.</p><p> Healthcare: You say, “This pain is new; something is wrong.” You get, “No, that would be unusual.” Your body raises an alarm; your experience doesn’t make it into the chart.</p><p>By midlife, you’ve been interrupted, corrected, patronized, or flat‑out disbelieved thousands of times. It eats away at your sense that your own mind and body can be trusted. It happens to those diagnosed early and to those diagnosed late, even if the mechanisms are somewhat different."</p><p>Read more:<br><a href="https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/positively-different/202603/epistemic-injustice-the-great-gaslighting-of-autistic-lives" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/positively-different/202603/epistemic-injustice-the-great-gaslighting-of-autistic-lives"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">www.psychologytoday.com/us/blo</span><span class="invisible">g/positively-different/202603/epistemic-injustice-the-great-gaslighting-of-autistic-lives</span></a></p><p><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a></p>
<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@actuallyadhd" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyadhd</span></a></span> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p><p>Ever had one of those days where, it's been so frelling long that you've forgotten what it's like to not be in burnout but you're also just mad at everything because there's no way out of burnout?</p><p>No official diagnosis & your GP threw out the preliminary test that said you're a good candidate for autism that you got years ago. The waiting list is impossibly long so by the time you:<br>1) Pluck up the dice / spoons to face the GP (I'm still working on it 😣)...<br>2) Get an appointment & (by a miracle) maybe still have the dice / spoons...<br>3) Actually persuade the GP an AuDHD diagnosis is what you need...<br>4) Jump through whatever hoops to get the preliminaries sorted...<br>5) Get the green light for getting a diagnosis...</p><p>... You'll be waiting so long, you won't need it anymore as you're too old to work & are on minimum pension. </p><p>My messed up bodyclock doesn't help either.</p><p>Oh, it's you Depression... 😫... Just what I need 😡😩.</p><p>I hate it when I give myself reality checks 😔.</p><p><a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyadhd/" rel="tag">#ActuallyADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <br><a href="/tags/mindfog/" rel="tag">#MindFog</a> <a href="/tags/burnout/" rel="tag">#Burnout</a> <a href="/tags/spoons/" rel="tag">#Spoons</a> <a href="/tags/nospoons/" rel="tag">#NoSpoons</a> <br><a href="/tags/selfcare/" rel="tag">#SelfCare</a> <a href="/tags/depression/" rel="tag">#Depression</a> <br><a href="/tags/life/" rel="tag">#Life</a> <a href="/tags/sleep/" rel="tag">#Sleep</a> <a href="/tags/insomnia/" rel="tag">#Insomnia</a> <a href="/tags/sleepproblems/" rel="tag">#SleepProblems</a></p>
<p>My (<a href="/tags/hyperallistic/" rel="tag">#hyperallistic</a>) wife and I have been watching the series "Atypical", about an <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> high-schooler. Even though the series appears to be better than its reputation, I haven't enjoyed it as much as I expected to, because of an inability to identify with the autistic protagonist Sam. And it isn't just the age difference; I remember quite vividly what high school was like. It's more that I'm atypical even among the atypical — different from Sam in several ways:</p><p>(1) <a href="/tags/monotropism/" rel="tag">#Monotropism</a> versus <a href="/tags/kaleidotropy/" rel="tag">#kaleidotropy</a>: Sam has a few stereotypically restricted and repetitive interests; for example, Antarctic penguins. Any one of my interests, viewed in isolation, might look like that from the outside — yet unpredictably, at any time, they can easily be pushed aside by other, even more fascinating special interests.</p><p>(2) Sensation avoidance versus sensation seeking: Sam must wear noise-cancelling headphones to avoid shutdowns and meltdowns, for example. I do have some sensation-avoidant characteristics; in particular, I detest clothing tags as torture devices. But my attitude toward bright light is an example of the opposite tendency. I wish the bright fluorescent panels at work were even brighter; it annoys me when old ones that are starting to dim aren't promptly replaced. And both at home and at work, I find myself staring at light sources without even thinking about it. It's a stim, or would be if I didn't consciously restrain myself from doing it, reminding myself that it isn't good for my eyes.</p><p>(3) Visual thinking versus verbal thinking: although Sam is quite articulate in words, he has a special talent for drawing, and at least some tendency toward "thinking in pictures". Although I have a vivid visual imagination, I can't really draw or paint at all; and even when I see vivid images in my mind, "left-brain" abstraction, logic, and calculation remain firmly in the driver's seat. I have a tendency to remember generalizations, and forget the examples or statistics that established them — which can be inconvenient when I'm trying to persuade someone else to agree.</p><p>(4) <a href="/tags/alexithymia/" rel="tag">#Alexithymia</a> versus no alexithymia: Sam has almost as much difficulty perceiving his own emotions as in reading other people's. For example, several episodes are devoted to his struggles to decide whether or not he is in love. By contrast, although I have stereotypically autistic difficulties in reading other people's emotions from their speech and behavior, I have never had any difficulty at all in perceiving my own emotions.</p><p>I'd be interested in hearing other people's reactions to the series "Atypical", or to the contrasts I've drawn here.</p><p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>
<p>SO IT'S <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> Awareness Month?</p><p>since am one of those <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> people Dx at the tender age of 50 (yes, 50. and yes am older now, shut up), am not acquainted with the american rituals of national days or awareness months involving autism.</p><p>welp, let me do this as a gentle reminder: </p><p>1. BLACK<br>2. INDIGENOUS<br>3. PUERTO RICAN<br>4. CARIBBEAN<br>5. LATINOAMERICANES<br>6. WOMEN</p><p>can be <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> too.</p><p>and in my case: <a href="/tags/dyslexic/" rel="tag">#dyslexic</a> with a sprinkling of good ol' extra spicy <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a>.</p><p>but ironically, 🧵</p>
<p>Why am I being <a href="/tags/attacked/" rel="tag">#attacked</a> ? <a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#neurodivergent</a> <a href="/tags/neurodivergence/" rel="tag">#neurodivergence</a> <a href="/tags/problem/" rel="tag">#problem</a> <a href="/tags/explain/" rel="tag">#explain</a> <a href="/tags/problemsolver/" rel="tag">#problemsolver</a> <a href="/tags/solution/" rel="tag">#solution</a> <a href="/tags/meme/" rel="tag">#meme</a> <a href="/tags/explanation/" rel="tag">#explanation</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#adhd</a> <a href="/tags/audh/" rel="tag">#AuDH</a> <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/memes/" rel="tag">#memes</a></p>
<p>I generally am quite a clumsy person, but I just realized my clumsiness gets way worse when I am overwhelmed. Got to spend four days on the Easter holidays with my nephew - and till the end of the week it’s like clumsiness x10. Everything falls from my hands, I almost drowned my phone two times, accidentally broke several plates, a glass and a ceramic pot lid, flipped several dishes and bumped many things. I’m like a walking disaster by now, so I just am sitting on my sofa trying to not touch anything fragile or expensive till I get enough of my alone time.<br>Did you also noticed being much more clumsy when you are overwhelmed and not having enough alone time? <br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <br><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <br><a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a><br><a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#neurodivergent</a></p>
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<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@actuallyadhd" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyadhd</span></a></span> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p><p>Sleepy yay ! Been awake since around 05:30. Less than 4 hours sleep as I didn't roll over without my phone in hand till 02;01. <br>Been looking for byline times RSS & severely disappointed that they don't have one.</p><p>Anywhose, it's 6:50-ish & I'm actually thinking of getting up before my brain realises it's supposed to be in sleep mode.<br>Today is going to be interesting but good or bad interesting?</p><p><a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyadhd/" rel="tag">#ActuallyADHD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <br><a href="/tags/life/" rel="tag">#Life</a> <a href="/tags/sleep/" rel="tag">#Sleep</a> <a href="/tags/insomnia/" rel="tag">#Insomnia</a> <a href="/tags/sleepproblems/" rel="tag">#SleepProblems</a></p>
<p>I feel like I have to do an <a href="/tags/introduction/" rel="tag">#introduction</a> post after 3 years on this instance.<br>I'm sans serif girl - even if, at 40, I'm not a girl anymore (actually I'm not exactly a girl at all 'cause my gender is neutral, but you know force of habit; also in Italian we don't have a neutral equivalent and I'm not very fond of overextended [? I don't even know if this word exists] masculine) but I'm quite attached to this nickname - a neutral person, my pronouns are she/they, I'm <a href="/tags/ace/" rel="tag">#ace</a>, <a href="/tags/biromantic/" rel="tag">#biromantic</a>, <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> and <a href="/tags/deaf/" rel="tag">#deaf</a> in my left ear.<br>I'm boring even if I laugh over the stupidest things and on a scale of 1 to 10 my mood is always an honest 5. Like Fiona Apple's meme in my pinned posts I don't like to go out (if it entails socializing and meeting people) except for walking my <a href="/tags/dog/" rel="tag">#dog</a> (I have an old female dog that I love very much) and exploring the <a href="/tags/countryside/" rel="tag">#countryside</a> and river banks.<br>All my interests are things that I can do on my own like <a href="/tags/reading/" rel="tag">#reading</a>, <a href="/tags/writing/" rel="tag">#writing</a>, <a href="/tags/musiclistening/" rel="tag">#MusicListening</a>, watching <a href="/tags/oldmovies/" rel="tag">#OldMovies</a>, going on walks, taking nature <a href="/tags/pictures/" rel="tag">#pictures</a>. I told you: boring! <br>My best friends live far away from me and I'm obviously sad about it, but not so sad as a normal person would be because I don't despise my time alone, on the contrary I quite like it as it allows me to recharge from everyday stressing things like noises, traffic, work, and of course PEOPLE.<br>When I had my full earing I used to play the bass guitar and ukulele (and a bit of violin) but I quit because with only one ear left I find it quite difficult and a little bit painful. I also loved going to concerts but I can't anymore.<br>So most of my free time slots now are taken up by reading <a href="/tags/manga/" rel="tag">#manga</a> <a href="/tags/manhwa/" rel="tag">#manhwa</a> and <a href="/tags/manhua/" rel="tag">#manhua</a>, like I used to when I was in my twenties. One has to do something to entertain theirselves, no?<br>I'm also quite interested in <a href="/tags/astrology/" rel="tag">#astrology</a> and <a href="/tags/tarots/" rel="tag">#tarots</a>, that I use as a way to better understand myself.<br>I believe in <a href="/tags/accessibility/" rel="tag">#accessibility</a> and that's why I'll always demand an alt text on your pictures and won't boost pictures without it.<br>I don't do immediate follow back because 1. I want to know who is following me 2. even when, after some time, I think someone is ok I almost always forget to reciprocate.<br>But you know: bad friend 🤝 bad mastodon user.<br>I've clearly forgotten something fundamental* but I'll blame the time and my age.<br>*Here we go! The first thing I’d forgotten is that, as one of my dearest friends always tells me, my love language is "a meme for every occasion". There’s a meme for everything, I’m sure I’ve got one in my endless archive and I'm going to post it. The second thing is that, unlike many people, I like voice messages a lot, even the longest ones. But I don't like podcasts for the record, nor audiobooks. The third thing is that, despite having read so much theory, I can’t bring myself to call me a <a href="/tags/feminist/" rel="tag">#feminist</a>. When I think of feminists, the image that springs to mind is about people who manage to put theory into practice, activists who take up spaces. I can’t do that – for various reasons I won’t delve into here – and so I don’t think it’s right for me to claim the label for myself. However, I have great respect for the comrades who carry out feminist practices into everyday lives.<br>And now for some faves:<br>- writers: <a href="/tags/daphnedumaurier/" rel="tag">#DaphneDuMaurier</a> <a href="/tags/dianawynnejones/" rel="tag">#DianaWynneJones</a> <a href="/tags/ursulakleguin/" rel="tag">#UrsulaKLeGuin</a> <a href="/tags/shirleyjackson/" rel="tag">#ShirleyJackson</a> <a href="/tags/jrrtolkien/" rel="tag">#JRRTolkien</a> <a href="/tags/nnediokorafor/" rel="tag">#NnediOkorafor</a><br>- musicians: I've always listened to a lot of kinds of music but if I must choose my all time fave is <a href="/tags/joannanewsom/" rel="tag">#JoannaNewsom</a><br>- movies: almost all where <a href="/tags/carygrant/" rel="tag">#CaryGrant</a> starred, plus <a href="/tags/coldcomfortfarm/" rel="tag">#ColdComfortFarm</a> <a href="/tags/smultronstället/" rel="tag">#Smultronstället</a> and <a href="/tags/noisesoff/" rel="tag">#NoisesOff</a><br>- tv series: <a href="/tags/twinpeaks/" rel="tag">#TwinPeaks</a> <a href="/tags/veronicamars/" rel="tag">#VeronicaMars</a> <a href="/tags/montypythonsflyingcircus/" rel="tag">#MontyPythonsFlyingCircus</a> and <a href="/tags/murdershewrote/" rel="tag">#MurderSheWrote</a><br>- animals: <a href="/tags/dogs/" rel="tag">#dogs</a> <a href="/tags/goats/" rel="tag">#goats</a> <a href="/tags/donkeys/" rel="tag">#donkeys</a></p>
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<p>Neurotypicals often say I am not <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a>. Would they spend their time with a project like this?It's not easy, you have to research, read, understand, and repeat the process multiple times for weeks and months. Then test it. Not just one language, but a lot!Then factor in the rules.</p>
<p>This review of autistic burnout might be useful to people who experience it. </p><p><a href="https://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0272735825001369?via%3Dihub" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S0272735825001369?via%3Dihub"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">www.sciencedirect.com/science/</span><span class="invisible">article/pii/S0272735825001369?via%3Dihub</span></a></p><p><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiverse/" rel="tag">#neurodiverse</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <a href="/tags/autisticburnout/" rel="tag">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a></p>
