autistic

<p>Having a hard conversation with my adult kid about that the fact that I may not agree or fully approve on their decisions doesn’t mean I won’t support them in those decisions and their consequences. </p><p>Apparently, when I dared to disagree or express my doubts about something being right thing in that particular moment of time, it was taken as a hard ‘No, I forbid you that!’ </p><p>I was perplexed to be accused of forbidding them some things years ago - which I actually wanted them to do, and was under an impression all this time that that was them losing the interest in those things. </p><p>I don’t know if that is due to my <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> parenting or just my own fault not related to autism at all, but looks like I have way worse communication problems than I thought<br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>

<p>I have a cat I love dearly, and the cat, I am sure, loves me in their own way. The cat is extremely affectionate, would follow me, would demand pets, would come to cuddle with me, would lay on my lap - and all of that makes me very happy, and one of those things that make it worth living. </p><p>But sometimes, out of nowhere, the cat would attack my feet, or my ankles, or my hands. Without any apparent reason, and very painfully, with claws and teeth, as if actually hunting. </p><p>I learned to only reach for the pets from the right angle, try to not make any provoking moves or wear any provoking clothes, to not bother the cat when they seem agitated - and when it looks like they’re about to attack to just hide the target part, or cover it with something, or try to distract the cat suddenly with something else, so they would either not be able to launch the attack, or to reach the target, or at least would make the least damage. When attacked - same, intent to just remove the target part and put an obstacle between the cat and it, and distract their attention to something else and talk in the most calming voice possible, even if what I actually want is to scream and cry of pain and fear.</p><p>So basically I do A LOT of avoiding stuff just because I have no way to communicate to the cat properly that what they are doing hurts, and that they have no reason to do so because I am me, the one they have so affection for, and I love them and care for them, and would not do anything bad to them.</p><p>What I realized not so long ago is that it’s how I was behaving with my parents(especially in my childhood) and with my husband(and in a way with many other people). Always walking on the eggshells, trying to predict what can possibly trigger a response that hurts or what can possibly scare/agitate them - and putting a lot of work in avoiding that. </p><p>Part of me thinks if doing so is not disrespectful in a way? Kinda pulling them down to the level of a cat one can’t reason with. </p><p>But the thing is, the difference should’ve been that they should be possible to communicate with, but very early I understood that any possible tries to communicate to them that I don’t like/am hurt by something they are doing always led to them being hurt/offended with me saying so, and I never wanted to hurt them, so I just ended up adding ‘communicate my pain and troubles’ to the ‘not-to-do list’. </p><p>So I think, is that due to a specific way of <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> or generally <a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#neurodivergent</a> communications being not quite compatible with the communication methods of other people - that we just can’t communicate to them that this hurts, and end up walking ob the eggshells like with the cat - because we know that proper communication is simply not possible? <br>Or is that that I just learned that trying to communicate is useless quite early in the life and I just don’t try anymore because don’t believe other people capable of understanding?<br>Is it how the masking, people pleasing and the whole bunch of other ‘autistic traits’ begin actually? </p><p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>

<p>The past week with the heat, and now last night with sporadic thunder and smoke from the fires and the house still being hot has been bloody awful. Nothing compared to what people in the fire zones are experiencing, but still grim. <br><a href="/tags/vicpol/" rel="tag">#vicpol</a> <a href="/tags/auspol/" rel="tag">#auspol</a> <a href="/tags/climate/" rel="tag">#climate</a> #<a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiverse/" rel="tag">#neurodiverse</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <a href="/tags/autisticburnout/" rel="tag">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a></p>

<p>I need to take a bath. Not enough time before <a href="/tags/monsterdon/" rel="tag">#Monsterdon</a> </p><p>After movie… need to take a bath. I didnt change clothes for two days. I need to do one activity not caring for dog or watching movies after the movie. But I don’t think I will get to it. </p><p><a href="/tags/selfcare/" rel="tag">#Selfcare</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/newyearsresolutionprogress/" rel="tag">#NewYearsResolutionProgress</a><br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>

<p>How do you convince yourself to learn something small first? </p><p>I have a difficult time starting anything and an even harder time finishing. And I have been known to start at later steps than I should. I was even like that with reading. </p><p>I end up all or nothing a lot. </p><p><a href="/tags/education/" rel="tag">#Education</a> <br><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <br><a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/adhd/" rel="tag">#ADHD</a> <a href="/tags/mentalhealth/" rel="tag">#MentalHealth</a></p>

<p>I just finished &#x27;Is this Autism? A guide for clinicians and everyone else&#x27;. It&#x27;s really good and if autism is a special interest of yours, like it is for me, you&#x27;ll love it. I would also strongly recommend it for any healthcare professionals. <br><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiverse/" rel="tag">#neurodiverse</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <a href="/tags/autisticburnout/" rel="tag">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a></p>

<p>YouTube has a lot of issues and I don’t blanket recommend it, but right now it’s a great spot to find people diagnosed <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> or <a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> in adulthood making videos on recognizing, understanding, and coping with things like overwhelm and meltdown. I have many thanks for those folks.</p><p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@actuallyadhd" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>actuallyadhd</span></a></span> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>

<p>cc&#x27;ing <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> </p><p>Disabled woman speaks about her confrontation with <a href="/tags/ice/" rel="tag">#ICE</a></p><p>&quot;In the video, Rahman could be heard saying &#x27;I’m disabled, I’m trying to go to the doctor up there… I am an <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> disabled person, I’m trying to go to the doctor,&#x27; according to RegTechTimes.&quot;</p><p>By Randall, January 16, 2026</p><p>&quot;A <a href="/tags/usborncitizen/" rel="tag">#USBornCitizen</a> dragged from her car Tuesday by ICE agents is speaking out for the first time.</p><p>&quot;<a href="/tags/aliyarahman/" rel="tag">#AliyaRahman</a> told Newsweek that the last few days have been &#x27;traumatizing and overwhelming.&#x27;</p><p>&quot; &#x27;First and foremost, I feel lucky to be alive. What I thought would be a routine trip to my appointment at the Traumatic Brain Injury Center turned into an assault by federal agents,&#x27; said Rahman who was raised in Bangladesh.</p><p>&quot;A New York Times reporter described what he witnessed in this video...:</p><p>Read more:<br><a href="https://asamnews.com/2026/01/16/autistic-woman-ice-arrest-raises-questions/" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="asamnews.com/2026/01/16/autistic-woman-ice-arrest-raises-questions/"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">asamnews.com/2026/01/16/autist</span><span class="invisible">ic-woman-ice-arrest-raises-questions/</span></a></p><p><a href="/tags/icesucks/" rel="tag">#ICESucks</a> <a href="/tags/iceout/" rel="tag">#ICEOut</a> <a href="/tags/iceoutforgood/" rel="tag">#ICEOutForGood</a></p>

<p>A thousand words on two and a half years of knowing I was autistic. I&#x27;d love you to read it.</p><p><a href="https://matricardo.substack.com/p/i-didnt-always-know" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="matricardo.substack.com/p/i-didnt-always-know"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">matricardo.substack.com/p/i-di</span><span class="invisible">dnt-always-know</span></a></p><p><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiversity/" rel="tag">#neurodiversity</a> <a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#neurodivergent</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#actuallyautistic</a> <a href="/tags/disabled/" rel="tag">#disabled</a></p>

<p>I am so dissociated that I&#x27;m amazed I can even engage in brief conversations.<br><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiverse/" rel="tag">#neurodiverse</a> <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <a href="/tags/autisticburnout/" rel="tag">#AutisticBurnout</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a></p>

<p>A rare <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> moment of boost fame - hard to come by (Golden Tortoise Beetle post today). Surely they&#x27;ll kick me out of the Halls of Banghalla once they find out. Don&#x27;t tell them, OK? <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#autism</a></p>

<p><a href="/tags/introduction/" rel="tag">#introduction</a> Hi!.<br>I&#x27;m Michael, or Fubsepude.<br>I&#x27;m a 30&#x27;s <a href="/tags/blind/" rel="tag">#blind</a> and <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> person from Denmark.<br>My interests include:<br><a href="/tags/accessibility/" rel="tag">#accessibility</a> <a href="/tags/music/" rel="tag">#music</a> <a href="/tags/tech/" rel="tag">#tech</a> and connecting with folks.</p>

<p><a href="/tags/wednesday/" rel="tag">#Wednesday</a> S02 is super enjoyable!<a href="/tags/fobi/" rel="tag">#FOBI</a> = Fear Of Being IncludedYeah, /metoo<a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a> <a href="/tags/autisticactually/" rel="tag">#AutisticActually</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a></p>

<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> </p><p>Poll for the <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a>. It&#x27;s said that people with <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> tend to like music for the drum beats especially. The patterns and rhythm apparently appeal to an Autistic person&#x27;s love of logic and predictability. Do you agree with this? Do you especially like a good drum beat?</p>

<p>As an <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> person, I feel like I can almost always tell when someone who is neurotypical answers my email inquiries. </p><p>I&#x27;ll send out a message with a VERY precise question about a VERY precise problem, only to get paragraphs of convoluted word salad in return that confuses me. </p><p>I don&#x27;t understand it. This has happened, and continues to happen, in all aspects of my life. </p><p>I&#x27;m trying really hard not to be an asshole by posting about this -- but I feel like my fellow autistic folks might be able to relate. It takes us *so* much energy just to sort out what I need to ask, how to phrase it, and the courage to send it -- only to get replies like that in return. It&#x27;s exhausting. </p><p>(and no, I&#x27;m not talking about AI chatbots for large corporations, I&#x27;m talking about emails to actual people.)</p>

<p>Fellow autistics, how do you avoid litigating every social interaction that didn&#x27;t go as planned in your head over and over and over for hours after the fact? Repeatedly telling myself &quot;you didn&#x27;t do anything wrong, their reaction was their fault not yours and you were in the right&quot; is not working <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#autism</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#actuallyautistic</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a></p>

<p>I like the concept of a Parisian bakery, but not the shit ton of people in too small a space. <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> <a href="/tags/autisticadult/" rel="tag">#autisticadult</a> <a href="/tags/sensoryoverstimulation/" rel="tag">#sensoryoverstimulation</a></p>

<p>Kim Dami&#x27;s character—Yun Ina—seems to be Autistic-coded. It&#x27;s hard to be sure since Kim Dami explained in an interview that her character was scarred by what she witnessed when she was 19, so she&#x27;s acting like a 19-year old with an intellect of a 29-year old.<a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#Neurodivergent</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a><br><br>RE: <a href="https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:6kg6emlwd6bfmyf3i5zyn264/post/3lpsqliujit2c" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="bsky.app/profile/did:plc:6kg6emlwd6bfmyf3i5zyn264/post/3lpsqliujit2c"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">bsky.app/profile/did:plc:6kg6e</span><span class="invisible">mlwd6bfmyf3i5zyn264/post/3lpsqliujit2c</span></a></p>

<p>Listening to an intense <a href="/tags/interzone/" rel="tag">#Interzone</a> radio show tonight, which includes an interview with the <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> woman who was harassed, traumatized and injured by <a href="/tags/ice/" rel="tag">#ICE</a>. Wow...! I&#x27;ll post a link to the podcast after it airs.</p><p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span></p>

<p>WTF! I said they would be coming for <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> folks (and services) next...</p><p>In Case You Missed It: Dr. Oz Puts <a href="/tags/mills/" rel="tag">#Mills</a> on 30-Day Notice Over MaineCare <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> Billing</p><p>By Jon Fetherston, February 9, 2026</p><p>WASHINGTON – &quot;Maine is back in the national crosshairs after CMS Administrator Dr. <a href="/tags/mehmetoz/" rel="tag">#MehmetOz</a> publicly warned late Friday that Gov. <a href="/tags/janetmills/" rel="tag">#JanetMills</a> (D) has 30 days to answer federal questions about MaineCare billing tied to autism services, and that &#x27;CMS is ready to take action&#x27; if Washington isn’t satisfied with what it sees.&quot;</p><p><a href="https://www.themainewire.com/2026/02/in-case-you-missed-it-dr-oz-puts-mills-on-30-day-notice-over-mainecare-autism-billing/" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="www.themainewire.com/2026/02/in-case-you-missed-it-dr-oz-puts-mills-on-30-day-notice-over-mainecare-autism-billing/"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">www.themainewire.com/2026/02/i</span><span class="invisible">n-case-you-missed-it-dr-oz-puts-mills-on-30-day-notice-over-mainecare-autism-billing/</span></a></p><p>cc: <span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> </p><p><a href="/tags/uspol/" rel="tag">#USPol</a> <a href="/tags/autisticservices/" rel="tag">#AutisticServices</a> <a href="/tags/fascism/" rel="tag">#Fascism</a> <a href="/tags/targeting/" rel="tag">#Targeting</a></p>

<p>If you&#x27;re going to use `ai;dr`, triple check you are not replying to an <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> person because that&#x27;s considered defamation, slander, discrimination, etc.The way many Autistics write is often seen by anti-AI checkers as AI. So, if you reply or quote with `ai;dr` that&#x27;s 100% defamation.</p>

<p>If you&#x27;re going to use `ai;dr`, triple check you are not replying to an <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> person because that&#x27;s considered defamation, slander, discrimination, etc.</p><p>The way many Autistics write is often seen by anti-AI checkers as AI. So, if you reply or quote with `ai;dr` that&#x27;s 100% defamation.</p>

<p><span class="h-card"><a href="https://fedigroups.social/@autistics" class="u-url mention" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">@<span>autistics</span></a></span> </p><p>I had friends who supported me against bullies. These students should be lauded, not suspended!</p><p><a href="/tags/maine/" rel="tag">#Maine</a> high school suspends 19 students who stood up to alleged bully targeting <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#autistic</a> student</p><p>Story by Peter Rubinstein, 2/11/2026</p><p>&quot;Veronika McKenney, mother of one Oxford Hills student who was not part of the suspended group, maintained that the group was nonviolent. &#x27;They kept their hands off. They used their words,&#x27; she told WGME.</p><p>&quot;Other students began to follow, eventually forming a crowd around the alleged bully. Only one person in the group spoke to the student accused of kicking the autistic student, the suspended student added.</p><p>&quot;When school staff noticed the crowd, they intervened and removed the alleged bully from the middle. Administrators identified the students that had gathered and began notifying their parents.</p><p>&quot;Their suspensions ranged from two to five days.</p><p>&quot;The story quickly caught attention among school parents on social media, many of whom defended their children&#x27;s presence in the crowd and condemned the school&#x27;s decision to suspend them.&quot;</p><p>Read more:<br><a href="http://www.msn.com/en-us/news/crime/maine-high-school-suspends-19-students-who-stood-up-to-alleged-bully-targeting-autistic-student/" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="www.msn.com/en-us/news/crime/maine-high-school-suspends-19-students-who-stood-up-to-alleged-bully-targeting-autistic-student/"><span class="invisible">http://</span><span class="ellipsis">www.msn.com/en-us/news/crime/m</span><span class="invisible">aine-high-school-suspends-19-students-who-stood-up-to-alleged-bully-targeting-autistic-student/</span></a></p><p><a href="/tags/standuptobullies/" rel="tag">#StandUpToBullies</a> <a href="/tags/mainepol/" rel="tag">#MainePol</a> <a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/autisticallies/" rel="tag">#AutisticAllies</a></p>

<p><a href="/tags/askingautistics/" rel="tag">#AskingAutistics</a></p><p>What proportion of your classic autistic symptoms do you think are due to you being autistic, and what proportion may be due to trauma you&#x27;ve suffered?</p><p>List of trauma symptoms here, for those not familiar: <a href="https://www.neurofabulous.org.uk/trauma-symptoms.html" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="www.neurofabulous.org.uk/trauma-symptoms.html"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">www.neurofabulous.org.uk/traum</span><span class="invisible">a-symptoms.html</span></a></p><p>List of classic autistic symptoms, as listed in the DSM, here: <a href="https://www.autismspeaks.org/autism-diagnostic-criteria-dsm-5" rel="nofollow" class="ellipsis" title="www.autismspeaks.org/autism-diagnostic-criteria-dsm-5"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">www.autismspeaks.org/autism-di</span><span class="invisible">agnostic-criteria-dsm-5</span></a></p><p><a href="/tags/autism/" rel="tag">#Autism</a> <a href="/tags/asd/" rel="tag">#ASD</a> <a href="/tags/autistic/" rel="tag">#Autistic</a> <a href="/tags/audhd/" rel="tag">#AuDHD</a> <a href="/tags/neurodivergent/" rel="tag">#Neurodivergent</a> <a href="/tags/neurodiversity/" rel="tag">#Neurodiversity</a> <a href="/tags/trauma/" rel="tag">#Trauma</a> <a href="/tags/cptsd/" rel="tag">#CPTSD</a> <a href="/tags/actuallyautistic/" rel="tag">#ActuallyAutistic</a></p>