audhd

still mad.
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You said "retarded," meant #ND people, not me. I was saying how spanking retards the development of the majority sort, and you decided I was talking about you.
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You'd better proscribe the word, your definition of it is shit.
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Not talking to anyone I know, I felt the hardest time yesterday from a few new accounts I'd never heard of.
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I banned them to feel better, a little deflective aggression per Sapolsky - but it was them who said that, not anyone who knows me a little. 💜
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but still mad, had to say that first thing, I could tell no-one was getting that.
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #AuDHD @autistics

Hey hey fellow ADHD folks and anyone else who regularly needs post-its or other written reminders! YouTube just put this in front of me. It's a band you can write on with a ball point pen, wipe off using friction (water won't remove it), and it snaps to your wrist.

It was originally designed for nurses in Japan who write notes on their wrists. But I can imagine about a thousand ways that a person who struggles with executive function could use something like this!

The website for the company is wemo.earth, and you can buy the bands on Amazon if you need that convenience, or also at japantrendshop.com as an Amazon alternative (they ship worldwide). They're about $18 USD.

https://www.youtube.com/shorts/013OleNZW8I

#ADHD #AUDHD #Autism @actuallyadhd @autistics

kind of mad at mastodon today, that was frustrating
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I have to naysay and then when I see the arguments coming back, I give up, not enough spoons
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I’ve gone from thinking I can help others communicate and write to thinking there’s no point in me talking to anyone
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #AuDHD @autistics

How to understand/explain what having a neurotype means to NT who don’t know they do . . .
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what if you built an AI robot for some purpose and it wanted to science something, figure something out but you didn’t give it a readme file and it doesn’t know it’s say, a bender?
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What if it’s say, a bender but seems to think it’s some Skynet supercomputer?
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#ND
#AuDHD
#ActuallyAutistic
#autism

There’s no-one in particular to blame for me not knowing about neurotypes all my life - but it’s hard not to be pissed when you see them still trying to make sure no-one knows about it 😠
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#ND #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @autistics

They’re stupid if they really think I’m some stupid liar - and obstinately so if they discover Autism and still really think it - but I’ve only been able to understand them as lying too, same same . . . and I’m not stupid or lying about my single focus in life, and so they’re probably not just stupid or lying either, it’s all a matter of neurotype - but it’s a pretty depressing experiment regarding neurotypes the way my NT people couldn’t understand “don’t spank,” and my gentleness on its face and could only categorize it as a lie.
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It’s same same in some ways, but both of our perceived lies are about me, so it seems different, like which of us knows me and therefore knows whether I’m lying or not? But it’s still the same.
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#ND #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic @autistics

In my opinion people with acquired neurodivergence deserve the same acceptance and accomodations like people who were born with a divergent neurology.

For me that means that I will do my best to create a safe space for a person who experienced trauma in the same way as I do for a sound sensitive autistic person. It means that I try to handle the need for control of an ND person no matter if the cause for this need is a mental illness or AuDHD.

That doesn't mean that I will endure disrespectful or otherwise shitty behaviour from a neurodivergent person beyond my capacity. An explanation and an excuse are still different things and I set boundaries to protect myself and my mental stability.

It's not me to decide if a person should be able to handle their neurodivergence in a different way, but it's my decision if I am willing to cope with it or not.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #neurodivergent #mentalhealth @autistics

This is my official Mastodon going forward. I'll no longer be using any other profiles/accounts as I'll be focused on creating content that brings me true queer/trans joy finally.

I also create, discuss, write, film and do things that is INTENDED TO MAKE YOU UNCOMFORTABLE. So sit back, relax (if you can - it's not guaranteed since it's going to hurt) and enjoy the journey.

#transgender #nonbinary #bdsm #leftist #antifascist #anarchist #AuDHD #introduction #lgbtqia

https://allmylinks.com/RoryThorneOfficial

I got bounced out of my marriage in '16 and crashed out of work soon after - and I've just sorted my work clothes and all my old clothes, I've been gaining inches, everything is too small. To be fair, it was all too small then and I've never been able to do up the button on a pair of pants in my life. Still keeping a few things that are six inches too small because I have nothing else and who knows, maybe I'll get sick and waste away until something fits again - but I'm losing at least a dozen pairs of brand new pants and bunch more that are just almost new, cargoes, and dockers, kind of thing, khakis. Some sort of fancy stuff, hiking pants and moisture wicking golf shirts.
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Got to figure out the best place to give it to.
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But ten years before I found the spoons for that, that's how hard I crashed, how bad it's been. 😬 💔
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#ND #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @autistics

This creator and I are definitely on the same page. In this video she explains why dancing helps processing emotions and regulating the nervous system. It's my favourite stim for a reason. 🤗
#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #mentalhealth @autistics

ah, there's another memory getting audited for Autism - Dad's this time.
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My sib would do something hyperactive, break something and Dad would start in on them for it, and they would start to say, "I didn't think (something)," and Dad would cut them off with, "That's right, you DON'T think (like, period)," and it's still rather shit of Dad, but boy oh boy, don't I, maybe don't we, think that about people sometimes, don't you people ever stop and think, LOL.
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I mean, that's what CBT says too.
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#ND #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic @autistics #Psychology

my interoception may be suspect, but judging by the way my face is all screwed up like Mo
from the Stooges, I’m guessing something hurts 😠
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#ND #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #IWatchTooMuchTV @autistics

listened to a cancer research ad and I heard something nasty in it, like, "ending cancer forever," sounds like "ending Autism," what, there's no money for treatment, we don't want to support people with cancer, we want to end it forever so we don't have to
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but I got a bad attitude, I guess
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#IWatchTooMuchTV #ND #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @autistics

I has this thought to tweak
Positively 4th Street, Bob Dylan for #ND folks, but it hardly seems necessary to change a thing. I always wondered just who he was talking to in it. I guess it was normal people. 😀💜
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“You got a lotta nerve to say you are my friend
When I was down, you just stood there grinning
You got a lotta nerve to say you got a helping hand to lend
You just want to be on the side that's winning

You say I let you down, you know it's not like that
If you're so hurt, why then don't you show it?
You say you lost your faith, but that's not where it's at
You had no faith to lose and you know it

I know the reason that you talk behind my back
I used to be among the crowd you're in with
Do you take me for such a fool to think I'd make contact
With the one who tries to hide what he don't know to begin with?

You see me on the street, you always act surprised
You say, "How are you?", "Good luck", but you don't mean it
When you know, as well as me, you'd rather see me paralyzed
Why don't you just come out once and scream it?

No, I do not feel that good when I see the heartbreaks you embrace
If I was a master thief, perhaps I'd rob them
And now I know you're dissatisfied with your position and your place
Don't you understand, it's not my problem?

I wish that for just one time you could stand inside my shoes
And just for that one moment I could be you
Yes, I wish that for just one time you could stand inside my shoes
You'd know what a drag it is to see you”
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @autistics

Denominating the autistic communication style, that is more precise, detail focused and blunt as disordered, strongly reflects the problematic culture of neuronormativity.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #neurodivergent
@autistics

I am not here for the ones who were the cool kids. I am here to connect with the ones who have always been the outcasts.

#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #neurodivergent
@autistics

ten years and the RSD is as strong as ever
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#ND #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @autistics

People ask each other here, would you cure your Autism if that was a thing (it is not), and I will tell you I could use a better body, but I love my Autistic brain so much that I spend every waking minute high off my ass so that I see only reflections of my own mind as much as possible in this Allistic world.
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Positively 4th. Street again: if you could stand inside my shoes, if I could give you a peek, you’d know what a drag it is to see you, I mean, if the Allistics ever saw what I see about themselves, they would spend the rest of their days hunting down the people responsible for a bloody revenge.
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If they could feel what was done to them, but of course that level of burn destroys the nerves.
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#ND #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @autistics

some normal person is giving me trouble for my black and white thinking and such when I say, "normal people."
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It's like if I were black and I wasn't allowed to say "white people," isn't it
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@autistics #ND #AuDHD #ActuallyAutistic

my idea is that they say they don’t like evolution because of the past, they don’t want to think of themselves as the offspring of apes - but of course it’s really about the present and the future, they don’t want to know that it’s them making the broken, futureless human nature, they don’t want to break cycles and have to absorb the abuse of their childhood and never “get their power back” (Alice Miller’s language) from their children.
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My . . . thorough acceptance of evolution tells me that’s exacty what they have to do, but I haven’t been able to convince one of them, let alone all of them. They seem to think they have the freedom to believe whatever they want.
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#Psychology #NTPsychology #ND #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #TheGadfly @autistics

Blowing hard again, sorry 🫣
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got Antiques Roadshow on and they’re talking about To Kill a Mockingbird and it’s one of the “most important books in American history,” and my divergence/contrarianism is grumbling, You mean it SHOULD have been, it WOULD have been if anything had changed.
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I mean, I know about the civil rights movement and it’s successes, but the pendulum is swinging back again, and sure all that literature is brilliant and, honestly, “should have been important,” is about as good as it gets with a creature that collectively cannot learn.
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It’s my same old story, same old song and dance, I find the whole
world of NT culture and speech to be devoid of causality, there is a blanket built in (and selected for) attitude that the default state of life and of people’s morals is shit, and so they aren’t even trying to understand WHY people do bad things. Racism is bad, that seems to be the message forever and the good non-racists seem happy to keep saying it and hoping, no-one thinks there needs to be a real world cause for hate, or that there could therefore be a real world solution.
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So again, both “sides,” of the majority neurotype simply accepting that this evil is simply a forever and “natural,” part of life, the opposite “sides,” of this argument share the same core belief in a causeless, changeless, mythological sort of a “nature.”
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Right? I mean, that’s how things look to me, but grain of salt, I’m pretty depressed. 💜
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@autistics #Psychology #ND #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Philosophy

#ActuallyAutistic #Autistic #Autism #neurodivergent #ADHD #AuDHD

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