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@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic we all know how this goes…
Hello youths, it is your queer auntie Abadidea back with the advice
I was alerted to a 19yo autistic person who heard "autistic people tend to form their first successful long-term relationship around 30" and concluded that there is then no point to even trying until they're 30. I don't know where this statistic came from or how accurate it is, but that's a bit beside the point, because:
Very few people get into a successful long-term relationship on their very first try. The usual way of things is that two well-meaning young people fall in love and then something goes painfully, messily wrong four months in and they both LEARN something about how to conduct themselves and how to deal with others. Repeat two or three more times until two people who have developed some emotional maturity fall in love. It may take autistic people a little longer on average to iron out the kinks, but they'll get there!
If you decide "I won't even try until I'm 30 because the math says that's when it works out," what's going to happen is that you're going to be 30 with the emotional maturity of a wildly unbalanced 18yo and all the other 30yos are going to be like... yeah, not touching that with a 10-foot pole.
Successful relationships come from practice, not from waiting for the Maturity Fairy to bless you!
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic definitely having a bad day — in a meeting, tried to introduce myself to a new person and completely flubbed it
words, numbers, pretty much everything today is my nemesis
i can't explain to other people how uncomfortable routine changes can be. it's not that tomorrow will be worse than today, it's that it will be DIFFERENT in every way. it is not about the actual activity, it's the change. I want to do it, and I will do it because I'm an adult. I wish it was easier. #actuallyautistic
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#Introduction Hashtags, so I can pin this post and take them out of my profile:
#Education #Research #Phd, #BCS #Computing #Teacher #CCT
#CSEd #Programming #BCS
#ActuallyAutistic
#ActuallyADHD
I live with #MultipleSclerosis
#Zen / #Nonduality #Buddhist, weirdly into #Jung
#Research topics:
- #EdAI / #AIEd - #LLMs in #Education
- #CriticalStudies of #EdTech
- #Neurodiversity in #Education, and the experience of ND educators.
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic so unmask?
https://mas.to/@skeletor/114909736863086391
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic currently debating if it is safe to post this to the work disabled employee group…
…for context, there is a tense relationship between me and the group's leadership bit not the membership at large…
…also, the video is barely 1.5 minutes long, and is all data (survey) focused
https://flipboard.com/@fastcompany/fast-co.-leadership-osaoajuhz/-/a-pZk0T-dZTGOlGAHlbxAESg%3Aa%3A3199563-%2F0
Just 4 days to go until my new book releases! I need 10 more kindle pre-orders to beat my current record! Please pre-order if you can!
https://mybook.to/unashamed-autistic
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@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic The Residence getting cancelled after one season is a hate crime…
https://flipboard.com/@avclub/latest-ii563leuz/-/a--06P4dUFRYOKSf5gt1MGcg%3Aa%3A151777195-%2F0
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic sharing to this community since we all need to be reminded of this from time to time…
https://mas.to/@skeletor/114790001796956586
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@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic been providing admin coverage for my former boss since Monday (through next Wednesday) and wouldn't ya know it, my blood pressure has been skyrocketing…
…and he hasn't reached out to me once for a damn thing and yet still…
…maybe i should file a claim for workers comp for PTSD
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic working on a project and the manager, in standard passive-aggressive/micromanaging style, spends 3 emails to incrementally ask for what was wanted that should have been asked for in the 1st…
…result is a waste of a lot of time and resources responding to each component part of the task…
…but it'll be spun later that i wasn’t taking initiative and not a lack of coherence/competence on the part of the requestor
#Wednesday S02 is super enjoyable!
#FOBI = Fear Of Being Included
Yeah, /metoo 😅😝
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@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic too late…
https://mastodon.social/@filmfreakmafia/115011670480713679
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic just spent past 6 hours dealing with a smoke detector that would not SHUT THE FUCK UP…
…finally was able to get hold of the apt manager and he is describing something to do that is "easy" and i finally said “I have a lot of coordination issues, so nothing is easy for me”…
…did i mention i likely have undiagnosed dyspraxia?
P.S. my poor cats, such troopers
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic been steadily changing my wardrobe from socks, underwear, pants, at home wear, and now finally shirts…
…all very simple and basic and in combination probably weird to the outside observer…
…but it all makes me feel more comfortable in my own skin than i have in years
Hi, do you have any book recommandations about autistic burnout/meltdown/shutdown?