Whatever reason you can’t do something is a #Disability. If you can’t because you are certain it’s a thing that shouldn’t be done, this is a moral or a social disability, this probably describes the #ActuallyAutistic social disablity, I think I can’t generally lie because I see no good in it (in the long run, often). Everyone sometimes says, I tell the truth because it’s easier to remember, we all see that life could be more straightforward.
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You don’t have this disablity if the social aspect of any interaction is more important than the literal truth, if you are hypersocial to that extent. Then you are socially abled. Then lying can be “morally right,” to you, you’re prioritizing social things.
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EDIT TO ADD:
I mean, an example, often the case, the majority sort finds it morally wrong to tell a child an awful truth, it’s like I said about lying, they’re often certain that’s a thing that shouldn’t be done.
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BACK TO OP:
socially abled but disabled from literal truth?
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It is very difficult to show or even imagine things from both sides of the neurotype difference, the language is hard to find. If we could learn to speak across it, we could enhance each other, compound our positive features, or so I dream.
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#ND #Philosophy #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @autistics
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When I am engaged in conversation with someone I look away. The sensory input has overwhelmed my ability to process that volume of information.
I have trained myself to look into people's eyes without looking at them. I blur their face or concentrate on a detail so that I can process the interaction.
A figure skater blurs their vision while they're spinning because too much information makes them nauseous.
I blur my vision easily, but I can't blur my ears.
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 909 , Friday 24/04/2026
Friday started early at around 06:45.
I decided that, as the scaffolders are coming later today I would squeeze my gym session in this morning.
I got changed, had a quick cup of tea, filled my water bottle (having learnt that I really need a drink after a training session) & pootled off.
It has to be said there are benefits to getting to the gym around 7ish, little traffic & easy parking!
Had a decent enuf session , although I did meet my first ‘Influencer’ a muscle bound Neanderthal who hogged the best training equipment (not kit that I use yet but the point still stands) just sitting there typing away on his phone for the time it took me to do my 12x3 reps on each of 2 other pieces of kit. (Hey gimme a break on the reps , I’m still a noobie!)
He was well aware that others would avoid him & not challenge him because of his build.
I hat people like that, I really don’t mind if folk are on a piece of kit for a long time, they have their own training regimes which is fine. But sitting on the kit & essentially using it as a glorified armchair is not fair on the other members in the room.
08:50 So me having the car of a Friday lasted all of 2 weeks, “Oh I see you went to the gym early, do you mind if I have the car this afternoon?” I can’t really say no because I have no solid plans for this afternoon, but the beauty of having the car available is that I can do things on the spur of the moment!
Another nail in the coffin. 🙄🤦♂️
The scaffolders have been & the kitchen looks like something from out of a prison movie!
Spent the afternoon roaming the galaxy … tried a high risk, high reward mission, ended up in the galactic nick! 11.5k poorer & wiser! Got my surface vehicle blown up under me too!
Pizza for tea - I need to get onto a decent diet soon!
Final Thoughts.
Not a bad day, hopefully the work on the house will all go ok & we can get the decorating sorted next!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic seeking #TipsAndTricks for dealing with pretentious, self aggrandizing allistics…
…totally asking for me since if i see one more email like this i am going to lose what is left of my composure with Miss Team…
"I’m hoping we can have a robust
discussion about [insert topic]
without taking up the whole meeting. "
RE: https://mastodon.social/@filmfreak75/116389087463896924
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic today was my last day with my aging cat (8/1/2010 - 4/24/2026)
...yesterday i saw how bad she was, called a vet's office, and scheduled to go in today...
...i wanted to give the younger cats, and myself, one more night with her...
...i wanted her to pass on her own terms, to pass at home quietly, but fate decided otherwise...
...one of the few things that's kept me going the past two weeks was this community of amazing people...
...and for that i’m grateful
I've never liked hearing the recorded sound of my own voice.
I don't like to be seen. Hearing my own voice, I'm confronted with how poor an imposter I am.
Seeing myself in a video shows not a sophisticated actor, but a ham. On the other hand, i'm pretty sure if I ever let loose I could do a really great rage scene.
People who are different scare me because they are exposing themselves.
Cringe.
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic i’ll be the first to admit, i fail at this often…
Sant Jordi is the Catalan feast of books and roses. Every April 23rd, people here exchange books instead of gifts. It felt like the right moment.
Until Sunday, Wrong Planet / Right Mind is 20% off on every platform.
Amazon, Apple Books, Google Play, and Kobo. $7.99. Until Sunday.
If you've been thinking about it, this is the week.
#ActuallyAutistic #LateDiagnosis #Neurodivergent
Does anyone know of an #RSS feed where you can disable the refresh button? Or that's otherwise especially executive dysfunction friendly.
Ideally I'd want it to check at specific times each day (or as soon as possible if it couldn't). Barriers to checking more often.
It can be a firefox extension.
@autistics
#ADHD (Not sure if I am, but you might have good suggestions.)
#ActuallyAutistic
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 911 , Sunday 26/04/2026
Had a nice lie in this morning, crawling out of my pit at around 07:45.
Made breakfast & did my chores then played Elite for an hour or so.
Then in a fit of whatever one has a fit of in these circumstances I spent an hour out in the garden starting to re-landscape our ‘sunny bit’. I did this orginally about 2 years ago, the deal being that if I covered it with a small patch of lawn Mrs S would maintain it & we would use it to sit out in the sun in the summer.
However the maintenance has not happened & it’s now a giant bed of weeds. So plan ‘B’ is to remove all the grass, weeds etc, move the soil to the main lawn & replace it with gavel & if I can get it sorted in time then we shall sit out in the sun this summer!
We spent the afternoon catching up with a couple of Mrs S’s TV shows & ended the day watching the movie ‘Eagle Eye’ a fairly decent turn yer brain off jaunt from yesterday-year.
Final Thoughts.
Not a bad day, I’m glad I got started on the garden.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
SO IT'S #Autism Awareness Month?
since am one of those #ActuallyAutistic people Dx at the tender age of 50 (yes, 50. and yes am older now, shut up), am not acquainted with the american rituals of national days or awareness months involving autism.
welp, let me do this as a gentle reminder:
1. BLACK
2. INDIGENOUS
3. PUERTO RICAN
4. CARIBBEAN
5. LATINOAMERICANES
6. WOMEN
can be #autistic too.
and in my case: #dyslexic with a sprinkling of good ol' extra spicy #ADHD.
but ironically, 🧵
Content Warning: what a fuckin’ blowhard 🙄😀
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I’m not trying to claim the Prophet, blessed be his name and all that, but I often feel my mission is at least parallel, he had his visions and developed his philosophy and then sent letters to the world leaders, asking if they would “submit to God,” and I don’t know who to send the letters to, and I’d ask something like if they would begin the journey back to reality, and that seems the same.
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Like we both see a world gone wrong, like we think we know how and why.
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It’s complicated, I think religion is Allism, but it does seem to provide a lot of jobs for . . . aspies, this is not a conversation where I’ll use my self-slur, aspie is enough, again, I may make a general statement that prophets in general are #ND , but I don’t presume to know anything about Islam or its main guy.
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It’s just I would like to challenge to world to change its ways and submit also, to reality, perhaps it is the submission I liked. Of course, submission to reality and submission to God can be opposite things, but then there’s the modern sense that reality adds up to God, so you can read his challenge that way, as long as you stop after the letters. Of course after that, things don’t go the way I would have hoped, and I’m certain war is Allism, and also that it has fewer jobs for the #ND .
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These are the proportions in historical times, one person has a big idea and a bunch of them go to war about it, happens to all of ‘em. But despite inhabiting very different spheres of thought, I think the submission is the insight, the critical bit, FGS, find your place and accept it, stop fighting the world, you’re winning the fight and hurting everybody.
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#Philosophy #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD #Religion @autistics
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 893 , Wednesday 08/04/2026
Wednesday has been a very mixed day.
Up just after 5am after a really rubbish night where I could not get warm or find a spot that was vaguely comfortable!
I lay in bed until Mrs S got up at around 6am, then made us breakfast.
I did what chores I could that didn’t involve too much stretching or bending.
The biggest news of the day is that I have joined a gym - our local leisure centre was doing a ‘Get healthy’ promotion which one could get by going on a guided tour - it’s a really good deal, at just over £3 a week. The facilities aren’t the best you have ever seen but they are not the worst either & to be honest I don’t need all the fancy kit - all I need is a treadmill, bike & eventually the use of the onsite swimming pools.
The guy who showed us around was really friendly & he was super supportive of me needing one on one sessions - at least for the first few.
So just waiting on a date for my induction session.
Spent the afternoon de-stressing & messing with the configuration of my linux MBP - which I have christened ‘Janus’.
Final Thoughts.
I’m quite pleased with myself for facing my various demons & getting the gym membership sorted, now all I have to do is attend!
My leg is feeling much better tonight, hopefully I’ll be back to normal by the w/e!
I discovered that my favourite Mastodon Tooting platfor is Mona on my ipad - it allows me to do everything I want to with the minimum of fuss & configuration.
That said I have now got a Mastodon client on my Linux box, but none of my text shortcuts are setup there so it will be a while before I use it for more than browsing.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic Neurodivergent students are being falsely accused of using AI | Antonia Shipley for Nouse
https://nouse.co.uk/articles/2026/03/16/neurodivergent-students-are-being-falsely-accused-of-using-ai/
The survey for my partner's PhD research on #AutisticInertia has already done quite well, although there have been no new responses in the last couple of weeks.
It closes at the end of tomorrow (31st March), so if you would like to contribute your experiences to this research, here's your chance; click the link to get started! https://www.qualtrics.manchester.ac.uk/jfe/form/SV_bJl0HjTghBcg71Y
(The "do it now principle" sometimes works for some of us who experience inertia...)
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 910 , Saturday 25/04/2026
Well what to say about today ….
Sadly nothing edifying or indeed interesting.
It has been a sunny day though!
Final Thoughts.
Just another day in paradise.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic i bring up the issue of double empathy being treated as solely our problem to fix all the time and for that i’m considered the asshole…
…which is why i say #EnoughIsEnough
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic riddle me this:
work insists on in-person 4 hour retreats twice a year, often around the time i'm out of the office
my accommodations include a provision that i cannot be onsite for more than 2 hours at a pop
as such i need to be remote and can only participate in 30-45 minutes of the 4 hours
so why not have the retreat while i'm out of the office as opposed to making me more of an outisder than i already am
because the inherent othering is the point
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 886 , Wednesday 01/04/2026
Wednesday started around the usual time, just after 7am.
The weather has been all over the place, it was nice & sunny first thing but fairly dull & grey for most of the rest of the day!
Breakfast was followed by the usual chores during which I noticed that the washing machine was leaking from the water inlet. This prompted an impromptu repair - I replaced the seal & that seems to have done the trick.
I also tidied up the box room as we were due to have the decorator come round & give us a price for papering & painting.
I also did a few other small jobs around the house.
After a busy but productive morning I had a relaxed afternoon with Mrs S catching up on a few of her shows.
I made our 2nd Cona coffee - this one was not quite as perfect as yesterday’s, it seems timing is important. Still a bloody good cup of coffee though!
With a perfect sense of timing the coffee grinder I ordered (just a cheap burr one) turned up just as I was washing up the Cona kit. Hey ho, will be able to try our usual Lavazza beans.
Ted, the decorator rocked up Around 7pm & he seems a nice chap who knows his stuff, so now we await a price.
Final Thoughts.
I good, productive day, but my back has decided to hate me again so another rest day tomorrow is in order I think.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
Conversion therapy is literal nazi science, and we should also be calling it that. Lovaas' ABA framework was the framework Rekers built on, with Lovaas' help, applying the ableist torture schema to a presumed-queer toddler. LGBT and autistic conversion therapy come from the same nazi source. Lovaas was LITERALLY a card-carrying Nazi, arrested for it. He was in Quisling's political party.
https://journals.sagepub.com/doi/10.1177/09526951251324102
#QueerHistory #DisabilityHistory #history #ABA #ConversionTherapy #ActuallyAutistic @autistics
Stop talking. They don’t know who you are, so they’ll only hurt you.
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#ActuallyAutistic
#ND
#AuDHD
@autistics