Parenting myself again as an AuDHD person today.
ADHD: "This is not enough."
Autism: "This is all too much."
Me: Just follow the routines, be kind to yourself and others and enjoy the little moments of beauty in your life.
actuallyautistic
This article on luck & the neurology of optimism may be of interest to @autistics - it talks about sleep, serotonin, social connectedness & following special interests.
Thinking you are lucky "activates the prefrontal cortex in a way that shifts perception from threat-detection mode toward opportunity-recognition mode. The person begins to notice possibilities that a self-described unlucky individual, scanning the same environment, simply filters out."
https://www.theguardian.com/science/2026/mar/29/down-on-your-luck-how-behavioural-neuroscience-could-help?CMP=share_btn_url #ActuallyAutistic
Happy International Autistic Pride y'all!
How are you celebrating?
I'm organizing a little queer autistic picnic. Can't wait to celebrate with my fam.
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Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 883 , Sunday 29/03/2026
Sunday started at around 07: 20 only because the clocks went forward they all read 08:20 - well all the ones that sort themselves out twice a year.
Made breakfast & did a couple of minor chores including trying out my new Go 3 screwdriver on a cupboard door that has been sticking - no more, tis all fixed!
The screwdriver works well although I need to remember this one has an adjustable clutch!
It’s been a windy,wet & generally ‘orrible day weather wise but we were snug inside & had a relaxing day,
Final Thoughts.
Off to my late MiL’s house again tomorrow to do a bit more sorting out - joy!
I need to tidy up in the box room in the next couple of days, the decorator is coming Wednesday evening to price up the job so it needs to not look like something out of one of those programs on demolition!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic as someone who works in an environment that is cult adjacent...
…meaning there is a preferred way and not doing things the preferred way is doing it the wrong way...
…this should be on everyone’s computer background
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Damn! Scab or tick season is starting early...
"There's something crawling
There's something crawling in the dark
I don't see it, but I know it's after me"
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pq6i9RNmO4s
#ActuallyAutistic #SkinPicking #Stims #AuDHD #OCD #InsectBites #SkinCrawling #Ticks
When I am engaged in conversation with someone I look away. The sensory input has overwhelmed my ability to process that volume of information.
I have trained myself to look into people's eyes without looking at them. I blur their face or concentrate on a detail so that I can process the interaction.
A figure skater blurs their vision while they're spinning because too much information makes them nauseous.
I blur my vision easily, but I can't blur my ears.
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic i've mentioned before how my workplace is obsessed with “assume positive intent" theory…
…and as i was looking through the #RandomMovieTVQuotes master list i found this on point quote…
Intent stops mattering when you keep doing it.
—Lionel Higgins, Dear White People
Whatever reason you can’t do something is a #Disability. If you can’t because you are certain it’s a thing that shouldn’t be done, this is a moral or a social disability, this probably describes the #ActuallyAutistic social disablity, I think I can’t generally lie because I see no good in it (in the long run, often). Everyone sometimes says, I tell the truth because it’s easier to remember, we all see that life could be more straightforward.
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You don’t have this disablity if the social aspect of any interaction is more important than the literal truth, if you are hypersocial to that extent. Then you are socially abled. Then lying can be “morally right,” to you, you’re prioritizing social things.
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EDIT TO ADD:
I mean, an example, often the case, the majority sort finds it morally wrong to tell a child an awful truth, it’s like I said about lying, they’re often certain that’s a thing that shouldn’t be done.
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BACK TO OP:
socially abled but disabled from literal truth?
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It is very difficult to show or even imagine things from both sides of the neurotype difference, the language is hard to find. If we could learn to speak across it, we could enhance each other, compound our positive features, or so I dream.
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🙄💜
#ND #Philosophy #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @autistics
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Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 909 , Friday 24/04/2026
Friday started early at around 06:45.
I decided that, as the scaffolders are coming later today I would squeeze my gym session in this morning.
I got changed, had a quick cup of tea, filled my water bottle (having learnt that I really need a drink after a training session) & pootled off.
It has to be said there are benefits to getting to the gym around 7ish, little traffic & easy parking!
Had a decent enuf session , although I did meet my first ‘Influencer’ a muscle bound Neanderthal who hogged the best training equipment (not kit that I use yet but the point still stands) just sitting there typing away on his phone for the time it took me to do my 12x3 reps on each of 2 other pieces of kit. (Hey gimme a break on the reps , I’m still a noobie!)
He was well aware that others would avoid him & not challenge him because of his build.
I hat people like that, I really don’t mind if folk are on a piece of kit for a long time, they have their own training regimes which is fine. But sitting on the kit & essentially using it as a glorified armchair is not fair on the other members in the room.
08:50 So me having the car of a Friday lasted all of 2 weeks, “Oh I see you went to the gym early, do you mind if I have the car this afternoon?” I can’t really say no because I have no solid plans for this afternoon, but the beauty of having the car available is that I can do things on the spur of the moment!
Another nail in the coffin. 🙄🤦♂️
The scaffolders have been & the kitchen looks like something from out of a prison movie!
Spent the afternoon roaming the galaxy … tried a high risk, high reward mission, ended up in the galactic nick! 11.5k poorer & wiser! Got my surface vehicle blown up under me too!
Pizza for tea - I need to get onto a decent diet soon!
Final Thoughts.
Not a bad day, hopefully the work on the house will all go ok & we can get the decorating sorted next!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic seeking #TipsAndTricks for dealing with pretentious, self aggrandizing allistics…
…totally asking for me since if i see one more email like this i am going to lose what is left of my composure with Miss Team…
"I’m hoping we can have a robust
discussion about [insert topic]
without taking up the whole meeting. "
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RE: https://mastodon.social/@filmfreak75/116389087463896924
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic today was my last day with my aging cat (8/1/2010 - 4/24/2026)
...yesterday i saw how bad she was, called a vet's office, and scheduled to go in today...
...i wanted to give the younger cats, and myself, one more night with her...
...i wanted her to pass on her own terms, to pass at home quietly, but fate decided otherwise...
...one of the few things that's kept me going the past two weeks was this community of amazing people...
...and for that i’m grateful
I've never liked hearing the recorded sound of my own voice.
I don't like to be seen. Hearing my own voice, I'm confronted with how poor an imposter I am.
Seeing myself in a video shows not a sophisticated actor, but a ham. On the other hand, i'm pretty sure if I ever let loose I could do a really great rage scene.
People who are different scare me because they are exposing themselves.
Cringe.
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic i’ll be the first to admit, i fail at this often…
Sant Jordi is the Catalan feast of books and roses. Every April 23rd, people here exchange books instead of gifts. It felt like the right moment.
Until Sunday, Wrong Planet / Right Mind is 20% off on every platform.
Amazon, Apple Books, Google Play, and Kobo. $7.99. Until Sunday.
If you've been thinking about it, this is the week.
#ActuallyAutistic #LateDiagnosis #Neurodivergent
"With or without you"
How dangerous are other humans?
A thread on hierarchy, risk, and autism...
🧵 ⬇️
(Article also on my site: https://www.neurofabulous.org.uk/with-or-without-you.html)
#ActuallyAutistic #Neurodivergent #AuDHD #Autism #AutisticExperience #Neurodiversity #Connection #Loneliness #Attachment #Community #NervousSystem #HumanNature #Hierarchy #Capitalism #Relationships #Love #Belonging
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Does anyone know of an #RSS feed where you can disable the refresh button? Or that's otherwise especially executive dysfunction friendly.
Ideally I'd want it to check at specific times each day (or as soon as possible if it couldn't). Barriers to checking more often.
It can be a firefox extension.
@autistics
#ADHD (Not sure if I am, but you might have good suggestions.)
#ActuallyAutistic
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 911 , Sunday 26/04/2026
Had a nice lie in this morning, crawling out of my pit at around 07:45.
Made breakfast & did my chores then played Elite for an hour or so.
Then in a fit of whatever one has a fit of in these circumstances I spent an hour out in the garden starting to re-landscape our ‘sunny bit’. I did this orginally about 2 years ago, the deal being that if I covered it with a small patch of lawn Mrs S would maintain it & we would use it to sit out in the sun in the summer.
However the maintenance has not happened & it’s now a giant bed of weeds. So plan ‘B’ is to remove all the grass, weeds etc, move the soil to the main lawn & replace it with gavel & if I can get it sorted in time then we shall sit out in the sun this summer!
We spent the afternoon catching up with a couple of Mrs S’s TV shows & ended the day watching the movie ‘Eagle Eye’ a fairly decent turn yer brain off jaunt from yesterday-year.
Final Thoughts.
Not a bad day, I’m glad I got started on the garden.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
SO IT'S #Autism Awareness Month?
since am one of those #ActuallyAutistic people Dx at the tender age of 50 (yes, 50. and yes am older now, shut up), am not acquainted with the american rituals of national days or awareness months involving autism.
welp, let me do this as a gentle reminder:
1. BLACK
2. INDIGENOUS
3. PUERTO RICAN
4. CARIBBEAN
5. LATINOAMERICANES
6. WOMEN
can be #autistic too.
and in my case: #dyslexic with a sprinkling of good ol' extra spicy #ADHD.
but ironically, 🧵