Today I heard that a psychiatrist commented my diagnostics letter for a mutual patient with „usually ASD diagnoses are given by neurotypical experts“ (meant: rather than by autistic experts like me). Wtf?
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Let’s talk tags on clothing. I hate them and they annoy me to no end. And even if I cut them off, the tiny bit remaining always manages to touch me and I hate it.
Do tags bother you?
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@autistics #ActuallyAutistic in today's #DyspraxiaWins, i was trying to use this recent purchase to sweep up some loose kitty litter and was having trouble sweeping the litter into the pan
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I’m afraid their type have gone post-verbal, TM
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#ND #ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @autistics
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I count this as creative thing so i thought to share.
In the end of each year, I like many others, get a calendar for next year.
What follows is an intense period of hyper focus and colour explosion. It is not bullet journalling exactly because the calendar I use has months and weeks and dates and so on already. But the decorating, ah.
I thought calendars dont work on me, but it was that boring, white, premade calendars just didn’t caught my attention.
#hyperfocus #actuallyAutistic #colours
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 776 , Friday 12/12/2025
Friday started around 07:15 after a most excellent nights sleep!
I intended on having a totally lazy day but I found any number of little jobs to do this morning.
Mrs S was busy too & things have progressed apace, we now have a provisional date in early January for the funeral, it seems it’s a …. busy time of year (popular seems like the wrong word entirely) for such things. Other arrangements are also falling into place.
However after lunch of beans on toast we settled down to an extended Downton fest!
We ordered a pizza & a burger from one of our favourite takeaways tonight, but they failed miserably, it took then more than an hour to deliver & then only because we chased it, when it arrived it was cold & my burger was not at all what I ordered.
If we ever order from them again it will be online (they are on Just Eat) so at least we can reflect our displeasure in a public forum!
Final Thoughts.
Well it was a good day until it wasn’t - the shambles of the takeaway delivery & then, as we watched ‘Downton Abbey: A New Era’ & we hit the sad bit near the end it was a little too soon, a little too fresh & we had to have a moment or ten.
We are watching the last of the movies tomorrow, I’ve not seen it & I sincerely hope they all make it to the end of the Grand Finale! (No spoilers please, it is what it is & I’m sure we will cope if the worst happens!)
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic at the end of the episode, a colleague told Stephens she thought he had depressive disorder…
…based on his general manner after 1+ seasons PLUS this, i thought ASD for sure
https://mastodon.social/@filmfreakmafia/115566814634008125
Hey! Do we have an opinion about The Autism Wellbeing Alliance?
They are organising a Talk about wellbeing (via my company) and I don't know if they are trustworthy or ABA-leaning kind of group.
Anyone with knowledge?
It would seem that there are far more #actuallyautistic men than anyone is willing to admit.
Most of these men are very successful at masking behind bad behaviour.
Their bad behaviour blocks anyone looking more closely.
Nobody looks past the bad behaviour.
Nevertheless there are tells that are plainly evident.
They are never seen because people can only see the bad behaviour.
Obviously there are people thinking that such men are being excused for their bad behaviour.
They are quite incorrect.
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 777 , Saturday 13/12/2025
Saturday started early at just past 06:30 when Mrs S got up - this wouldn't be too bad if she didn't then have breakfast and then vanish to her room for an hour reading leaving me to get on with assorted tasks.
She went shopping just after 8am and I finished my chores then settled down with my book because I could not find the energy to do anything else.
We had a visit from Shaun this afternoon, an upmarket 'odd job man' and an acquaintance. We need some guttering repairing and Kim essentially banned from such activities since falling all of 3ft and tearing my achilles tendon clean in half!
No doubt the price he quotes will raise eyebrows, he is not a believer in 'mates rates'. But the work needs doing and he is fairly competent.
We caught up on a couple of Mrs S's shows when she got back this afternoon & then finished our Downton Abbey fest with the 'Grand Finale' movie. If yr a fan & haven't seen it I would definitely recommend it!
We had a Chinese takeaway again for tea, Mrs S having gone off the fired chicken place after a bit of a dodgy tummy after the last one last weekend.
Final Thoughts.
A quiet day, tomorrow is Christmas decorating day & writing chrimbo card day - we really should get our act into gear and write these cards at the start of December but somehow we never quite manage that!
A new edition to the list this year after a surprise card from a Masto friend, a most pleasant surprise at that! 😊
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 918 , Sunday 03/05/2026
It’s been a very quiet day, which is for the best - family meal on the other side of the hills tomorrow!
Final Thoughts.
I need my bumps feeling agreeing to travel across the hills on a Bank Holiday!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
One problem with Mastodon that bothers me is that you can't change your user ID, your nickname, so to speak. To do so, you have to move your account, migrate to another account, which can be on the same instance.This comes with the inconvenience of not being able to move your posts automatically.
I had my first account in late 2016, with Mastodon newly created, shortly after my first Twitter account. I didn't use it much and then switched to this instance (infosec.exchange) to follow people and information related to infosec and bugbounty (bughuntercat).
Then I got tired of that cat and migrated to this account with my real name. I can't seem to get comfortable with this. Maybe it's my habit of hiding and my reluctance to use real personal information online.
I no longer even know who I really am, so I pretend to be someone else.
I have an account that's the oldest I have right now, and I'm tempted to move everything there. In the end, people don't really care who you are or if you even exist. It would have to be something permanent because I'm getting old and my autistic ass doesn't like so many changes at all. I've moved 45 times in my 62 years of life and it seems I have the urge to do the same with my online digital spaces. To read the work of good people who do hacking, programming, and tinkering I really like this instance with the devices, so well managed by Jerry @jerry .
I only have Mastodon and an Instagram account that I share with my wife. I know that I may not have much time left in this world since my health is plummeting like a kamikaze plane and I don't want to continue wasting my time on vain things.
I don't even know why I'm telling you this, which by right might not matter.
I want to have and live an autistic, almost monk-like life, quiet and without looking out the window at that toxic world in which I have lived for many years. Thank you for sharing your cats, memes, jokes, and your work here.
(The photo is of Hakka, my youngest cat, who is 8 years old. A tremendous rooftop fighter whom I admire. A martial artist like his human father.
#mastodon #infosec #actuallyautistic #socialmedia #socialnetwork #cats
@autistics do any of you have rituals of what to do when you realize you have been collecting too much stress over time and need an intervention in order to stay functional?#actuallyautistic
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic another day, another “I'm allistic so I'm inherently corect.”
as part of my board work i sent a survey re a policy change and used a third party app for maximum anonymity. so far people have:
(1) bitched about the format of the survey (both wording of questions and not using Microsoft or Google product)
(2) called unprofessional for the "quality" of the survey
and while the vast majority of comments are useful data, any wonder i have work trauma
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@autistics #ActuallyAutistic exactly what i needed this morning…
https://mas.to/@skeletor/115577417809159118
Since the topic of autistic burnout came up again recently I republished my Autistic Burnout Mitigation post in case it's useful to people.
I wrote this post more than a year ago ago on another blog. I’m reposting mostly unchanged it now since I still think it’s relevant, and other than my current status that I don’t consider myself to be in burnout anymore, the mitigation list is the things I keep doing to varying degrees to avoid going back into burnout.
https://hiiamsamantha.xyz/posts/2025/11/autistic-burnout-mitigation/
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I got a text from my kid‘s partner asking about my plans for Xmas. Lovely, I thought.
Their (my kiddo‘s and their partner‘s) idea is to spend Xmas Eve together with both my and the partner‘s family. At my house because it‘s bigger.
Of course there’s a lot of context, but the timing of this text and the vision of lots of people in my livingroom sent me into full panic mode followed by a meltdown. 😖
Will start with a lack of spoons tomorrow, that’s for sure.
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Happy Weird Pride Day, y’all! 🎉
Regardless of whether you are weird because you’re ND, queer, mentally ill, physically disabled, an ethnic minority or just because, you get to be proud of your weirdness, own it, flaunt it, and let other weirdos feel less ashamed and more empowered to just be weird.
My mother showed me by example, and I’ve followed in her footsteps, being weird and proud to this very day.
Read more in my new blog post: https://prepped.to/blog/generational-weird-pride-and-the-importance-of-weirdo-role-models
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 778 , Sunday 14/12/2025
Sunday started late - a nice long lie in after a good nights sleep had me awake at just gone 8am.
It's been a quiet day in.
Did my chores after breakfast and then wrote to my ex-Deputy Head / English Language teacher. We have kept in touch down the years - he once went to bat for me against my parents and I have never forgotten that act of kindness so I make sure I keep him upto date with where I am. I really don't know what he thinks of me, given many of my peers are people of substance and position.
After lunch we put up the Christmas tree and the decorations, while we had our 2 traditional Christmas starter movies - 'Muppet Christmas Carol' for Mrs S and 'The Nightmare before Christmas' for me.
We finished off with another movie we discovered last year that is becoming a firm favourite - 'Arthur Christmas'.
I wrote my Christmas cards and called my brother and sister to arrange Boxing Day visits.
We are having Christmas Day at home ... it will be the first Christmas Day ever that we have had no external commitments!
Final Thoughts.
I am struggling again, despite the overall load easing. I was aware today that I had something of a short fuse and was triggered quickly by silly little things. I need to do better.
Back to the grind tomorrow, we have a number of appointments thru the day and a will spend some time at my MiLs sorting out some more of her stuff.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves