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I wish everyone were as considerate of others as so many autistic people I've met. I've known so many, and often am like this, where it's so much about not putting the other person ill at ease.
Can you imagine a world full of Canadian Standoffs? It'd be terribly awkward but it would also be so much kinder.
@autistics Rejected by a lawyer for SSDI representation because they don't see me as a winning (or likely winning) case.
SSDI lawyers are only allowed to collect some percentage of back benefits. Of course they gamify the system by representing those most likely to win.
So those of us in-between? With adult diagnosis? Who suffered our whole lives because we have been burning ourselves to survive, slowly destroying ourselves? Who crash and burn once we're diagnosed?
We're not supported.
Fuck me. FML. For real.
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 799 , Sunday 04/01/2026
Sunday Started just after 8am after a nice long sleep (with the aid of ear plugs).
Usual Sunday with chores then breakfast then more chores.
I did my best to avoid doom scrolling but it’s hard to be completely cut off from the madness happening in the world.
We put the Christmas decorations away today, strictly speaking 12th night is tomorrow but Mrs S is back in work so today it was.
I say we, it was ,as usual, mostly house-elf work.
We had a nuked lasagna for tea because I really could not be bothered to do anything more adventurous.
Final Thoughts.
Back to normal for a couple of days then it’s my MiL’s funeral on Wednesday.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic this is the visual representation of my philosophy of overcoming out of spite
https://mas.to/@skeletor/115345086573063868
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic just had my haircut and i can feel like i can think again…
…my only ick is that my barber’s venue (not an owner) is so insanely bright…
…huge amount of long tube lights which i guess are better in general, but grinds my gears
I've always liked eye contact. However, since I started unmasking, I've noticed that there are many situations where I've started avoiding it. For instance, when walking among other people, or when it's my turn to talk.
With the former, I've understood eye contact with many people is actually really exhausting. There are so many processes that go with it.
With the latter, it's simply way easier to think and talk without maintaining eye contact. Earlier I did take strategic eye contact pauses where I looked into a certain direction. Now my eyes go all over the place.
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic this documentary is a beacon for why you should never talk to law enforcement without an attorney
AND
you shouldn’t believe the hype that autism is “mainstream” aka “understood” now
https://letterboxd.com/film/the-carman-family-deaths/
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 771 , Sunday 07/12/2025
Sunday started really early at just gone 6am.
The original plan was to go with Mrs S to her mums & await the folks from Careline to come & pick up their kit - which I deinstalled yesterday when I was there.
But the cold I had the other week has, mostly because we’re living without proper heating, gone to my chest & given me a hacking cough. I’m also overwhelmed by everything that has happened this week. Once upon a time I would have pushed on regardless & then had the inevitable implosion. But these days both myself & Mrs S recognise the signs that I’m struggling & so she insisted I stay at home & rest up.
To be fair the first half of the coming week is going to be full on & going Into it exhausted mentally & physically would be unwise.
I did however make us both breakfast & get all the chores done.
I decided to install the mini stereo system that I brought back from my MiLs yesterday.
It’s a Panasonic SA-PM71 SD & has quite the history - I originally bought it when my first Awia tower system died. When we got our first AVR in 2012 I gave this to my FiL because he had nothing to play CDs on.
It shows it pays to get quality kit sometimes though, this has been a well used piece of kit & it is still going strong!
I also dug out my old usb extended apple keyboard to use at my desk and there is so much space between the keys!
Also nice positive feel to them - might keep this setup now I've moved to my Mac mini and use my BT keyboard downstairs with the ipad.
(Update 21:43 - this is in fact what has happened)
Spent a pleasant morning tinkering with the new setup, the Panasonic mini system has an SD drive but it doesn’t have Bluetooth so the Mac is connected via the headphone jack to the aux input on the stereo. The sound is surprisingly good the speakers on the Panasonic are 3 way ones with a decent bass for such small speakers.
Mrs S got back around 1pm so we had a light lunch & settled down to relax & catch up on some TV shows.
Final Thoughts.
It’s not been a bad day, I desperately needed some alone time & this morning gave me that. Still got this flipping rag end of a cold though!
There is much to do tomorrow, but that is tomorrow’s problem!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
Rephrase for our benefit.
Autists are looking to the outside world to try to understand our place in it. We are a minority of outward looking adventurers who need time to process all our inputs. Find a spot for ourselves in the external world.
Allists are inward looking, asking what the world can do for them. They need less time to focus since they already limit themselves inward. The majority of people are not adventurers,so find a spot in their internal world.
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic was walking through the local transit tunnel station and was bombarded with lights reminding me of the old gym lights…
…the ones that took forever to warm up and would go through various color chnages while they did…
…could this have been the core reason i hated gym all along?
After reading this review of #Apple Liquid Glass' usability (god-awful), I will avoid upgrading my #iPad as long as possible. I'll never ever buy another Apple product. Apple, when people have #autism, your candy-ass user interface is like fingernails scratching on a chalkboard - only it's their brains, not their eardrums. May you go bankrupt as swiftly as possible, and then all the museums spitefully bury their exhibits of your old hardware in a forlorn, forgotten corner of a wasteland. #ActuallyAutistic
@autistics
Does anyone else have these problems?
I can hear a squirrel move in a tree at a hundred yards or a slow leak in a tire as I walk by, but I can't understand the words spoken into my ear without effort. I can see a squirrel in a tree at a hundred yards or a small transparent mushroom at the foot of a wall, but I can't see words on packaging or signs without my full concentration.
#ActuallyAutistic #adhd #dyslexia
Options: (choose one or more)
My all time favorite autistic conversation is simultaneous info dumping.
Two autists appearing to be in regular conversation, but really mixing info dumps so that it seems like a regular conversation. Bit of info dump, bit of listening to another info dump, a few questions and insights to keep the other info dump going.
I particularly see this among my non realized autistic friends.
Throwback to that one university summer school evening event that I was about to leave early-ish. Someone half pressured me to stay as something fun was yet to happen. The "fun" part was some traditional dance that everyone had to take part in. I did not enjoy it and would've rather be back at the hotel by myself. The person who pressured me to stay said "Good that you stayed for this." It never occurred to me why it was a good thing.
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic been there, done that...
...so now i channel @skeletor
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic was recommended this show by a co-worker (only 2 of 8 episodes dropped) and 10 miniutes in to episide 1 and i’m already obsessed
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic i'm back to work after 8 glorious days away and who is waiting to greet me with open arms:
Performative and Pretentious
I wanted to make explicit why I am so deeply opposed to even someone as incompetent and unscientific as RFK Jr' investigating autism for its "cause".
It is because in my reading of history, no one has ever looked for a "cause" of some human condition without at least considering the possibility of finding an off switch.
Now when we're talking cancer, that's good and appropriate. It kills people. Greed, too, should be carefully fought. It kills way more people.
But autism doesn't generally kill. Not directtly, certainly. It's just a different way of thinking and perceiving and being present in the world. It's not a disease, and autistic people don't need to be "cured".
And more importantly, humanity needs not to look for, let alone find or develop, that off switch.
It's flat out eugenics. The elimination of undesirables. Doing it before we're born doesn't make it okay. Doesn't make it morally right. We contribute to the world in many ways. To society. Even if we don't always understand it.
But we uphold the social contract. Well, unless someone figures out that it's all based on BS, then it gets trickier, but as a rule, we do uphold the social contract.
So yes. If someone says they're looking for the "cause" of something that doesn't actually harm anyone, like transgender identity, or nonbinaryness, or asexuality, or autism, or anything else that's frankly harming almost no one, start asking them *why* they want to find that cause. What do they want to do once they find it?
Cause you turn over enough rocks, sometimes you get the bugs with the swastikas on them.
🇨🇦I was just thinking about something I do that seems very autistic to me, but I haven't seen or heard of anyone else doing it, so I thought I'd ask.
Many years ago I made a chronology of my life. A timeline listing various events in my my life by date, such as places I've lived, places I've worked or went to school, relationships, organizations I've belonged to, I even have what cell phones I've used. This way I can reference not only what I was doing at various times, but also see for how long, in case I didn't know. I also have some details on there like the addresses of places I've lived. And since I made it I just update it with new information every so often. Some of the older information is not entirely complete since I had to go from memory, but there's still a good amount there. I have found the project both useful and fun.
So does anyone else do this?
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic the disabled employee group i am semi-banished from functions like this…
https://neurodifferent.me/@theautisticcoach/115424165673580481
” beneath it in smaller gray text.
The post’s text is centered on the screen in white, broken into short, separated lines for emphasis. It reads:
“Autistics are told to be grateful. Grateful for crumbs. Grateful to be tolerated. Grateful just to exist quietly. But you don’t owe gratitude for survival. You owe yourself rest, dignity, and truth. Gratitude without justice is gaslighting.”
The overall tone is serious and affirming, conveying a message about autistic self-worth and rejecting societal expectations of passive gratitude.](/proxy/post_attachment/886220/4287e86440.png "A screenshot of a social media post with a dark gray background.
At the top left is a circular profile image showing a stylized illustration of a person with glasses, dark hair, and a trimmed beard wearing a jacket, drawn in a soft, muted palette.
Next to it is the display name “Matthew | The Autistic Coach” in bold white text, with the handle “@[theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me](mailto:theautisticcoach@neurodifferent.me)” beneath it in smaller gray text.
The post’s text is centered on the screen in white, broken into short, separated lines for emphasis. It reads:
“Autistics are told to be grateful. Grateful for crumbs. Grateful to be tolerated. Grateful just to exist quietly. But you don’t owe gratitude for survival. You owe yourself rest, dignity, and truth. Gratitude without justice is gaslighting.”
The overall tone is serious and affirming, conveying a message about autistic self-worth and rejecting societal expectations of passive gratitude.")
- If I tell you I have bipolar syndrome, you'd think I'm crazy.
- If I tell you I'm autistic, you'd think I'm retarded.
- If I tell you I have a high IQ, you'd think I'm arrogant and conceited.
I don't need you to tell me anything to realize what you are...
#actuallyautistic #autism #bipolardisorder #giftedness #neurodivergent
The difference between "having an impression of someone" in the way most people judge others and "psychologising someone" is completely arbitrary and based on neuronormative standards.
It's similar with so called "mindreading".
If a person gives off a certain amount and kind of "signals", but lacks self-insight and self-awareness, you might know better what they subconsciously "think" and "feel" themself, in a certain situation.
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