@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic has this ever worked for anyone?
https://mas.to/@skeletor/114739157508602844
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Individuals with ASD who are more adept at hiding externally visible behaviors (due to social pressure to conform) will often have developed mechanisms for presenting more neurotypically, but their experience of it doesn't change. For example, I can shake someone's hand, look them in the eyes, and make some small-talk at a conference, but I'm dying inside the whole time—it's so uncomfortable. I don't like strangers touching me. I don't like touching people I don't have a close relationship to. But a lifetime of having to "pass" for interviews, events, etc. has made me "able" to (perhaps convincingly).
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic asking the gallery for thoughts on this language used in a recent email to me asking me to do something:
"Does that sound OK to you?”
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic thank you for the varied feedback
it’s clear i’m experiencing some residual trauma based on past and on-going dynamics
always very glad i can count on the community to help with stuff like this
https://mastodon.social/@filmfreak75/114864122629197970
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic another gem for our community
https://mas.to/@skeletor/114881424212957185
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic if you aren't, highly recommend following @skeletor
https://mas.to/@skeletor/114745430235716278
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic can check off all of this…
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic sharing here since the main seems to be finding some resonance
https://mastodon.social/@filmfreak75/114750732428058460
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@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic i find it funny that NTs assume everyone wants to share personal stuff during meetings...
…like, if i wanted to say something i would, i don’t need to be put on the spot...
…but if you do, you better believe i will say something so bizarre it shuts down all conversation…
…and do so purely out of spite
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic harsh, yes, but nonetheless pretty accurate…
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 843 , Tuesday 17/02/2026
Tuesday started at around 7:30 but I got diverted by messing with the automation on my iphone so that thru the day out by an hour!
Chores were done then I went wild & gave the washing machine a deep clean.
Hotdog for lunch - heck I know how to live the life! 😆
Then not unsurprisingly a romp around medieval Bohemia.
Final Thoughts.
The door demons were strong today, even getting past them to take the veg peelings to the compost heap was a challenge.
Hey ho tomorrow is another day.
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic or in my case, i needed to get back to that past self, since the version of me i'd become was not sustainable…
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic i set this one a few weeks ago but seems a good reminder…
https://mastodon.social/@filmfreak75/114874834207436047
This post is not about AI /s /hj
It is likely that many autistic people have been involved in developing AI models. But the outcome that has been dubbed by feminists “the mansplaining machine” and shown by scientists to engage in bullshitting, because it speaks over-confidently about stuff it doesn’t know, and makes stuff up as it goes along, is decidedly unautistic.
My new blog post doesn't fit here, but you can read it here: https://lnkd.in/dXpsadbs
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic i think this explains me well…
https://vintagepropagand.art/@lokigwyn/statuses/01K0NTT4Q5JHAPYFG6NRJJW125
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic new (very new) podcast i just started listening to — so far so good https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/autistic-stuff-for-autistic-people/id1823291520
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic
https://mas.to/@skeletor/114960010495199897
NeuroDivergent Rebel put out a call on their Substack for submissions for a questionnaire, from which some quotes will be pulled for a new workbook.
I thought it might be interesting for me to publish some of my answers, both to share some of my own thoughts but also to possibly inspire other #ActuallyAutistic people to participate. They fully accept self-identified Autistics, so don’t let imposter syndrome stop you from participating.
https://r.flora.ca/p/autistic-workbook-contributions
@actuallyautistic
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 844 , Wednesday 18/02/2026
Wednesday started at around 7am.
Chores were done & then I faced the Door Demons & went out to Costco™.
So many people!
I had a moment at the till, I had forgotten my card pin so I looked it up, but a;; that seemed to fill my brain up & I started to walk away without loading the shoping back into the trolly!
Got back home just in time for lunch, Mrs S appearing just as I had finished putting the shopping away & expecting her lunch.
Hit Kuttenberg in KCD2 & ended up doing the same quest 3 times because I kept forgetting stuff!
Final Thoughts.
Not a bad day shame about the brain melt!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic as part of my rage defense of my board newsletter, i collected everything i posted in the past 3.5 years and the stats are interesting:
(1) the disabled group that started this BS, they were featured 5 separate times in the last 1.5 years
(2) there were 22 items that were “3rd party" in the past 2 years
(3) of those 22, in the past 1.5 years, 6 were disability related
and yet the only “concern" occurred 2 months ago over a turf war? are you fucking kidding me?
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic started a “therapy notes" system to collect items i may want to discuss at up coming sessions…
…i started collecting at the beginning of the month, i have 19 items collected (some multi-part) and my next appointment is next week…
…my math is atrocious, but even i can see this can't be good
@actuallyautistic @autistics #ActuallyAutistic we all know how this goes…
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic in other news, just discovered i'd been wearing my shirt inside out for the past two hours…
…fortunately noticed before having to interact with other people…
…although not nearly as embarrassing as pulling a random sock out of my shirt sleeve while out with Canadian friends at Swiss Chalet
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Hello youths, it is your queer auntie Abadidea back with the advice
I was alerted to a 19yo autistic person who heard "autistic people tend to form their first successful long-term relationship around 30" and concluded that there is then no point to even trying until they're 30. I don't know where this statistic came from or how accurate it is, but that's a bit beside the point, because:
Very few people get into a successful long-term relationship on their very first try. The usual way of things is that two well-meaning young people fall in love and then something goes painfully, messily wrong four months in and they both LEARN something about how to conduct themselves and how to deal with others. Repeat two or three more times until two people who have developed some emotional maturity fall in love. It may take autistic people a little longer on average to iron out the kinks, but they'll get there!
If you decide "I won't even try until I'm 30 because the math says that's when it works out," what's going to happen is that you're going to be 30 with the emotional maturity of a wildly unbalanced 18yo and all the other 30yos are going to be like... yeah, not touching that with a 10-foot pole.
Successful relationships come from practice, not from waiting for the Maturity Fairy to bless you!