@autistics #ActuallyAutistic some days i am tired of being the adult in the room
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In enlightened countries we don't talk to parents about "the risk of homosexuality" in their children. We no longer try to find the gay gene because there are just too many. We don't send gay people to conversion therapy. Nobody talks about "high functioning gay men who can have sex with women to fit in". No fix necessary.
We still talk to parents about the "risk of autism", autism genes and conversion therapy or masking to fit in. Time for a change.
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 772 , Monday 08/12/2025
Monday started just before 7am. Well actually it started about an hour earlier with next door deciding that 6am is a good time to start vacuuming the house!
Got breakfast & then sorted out my chores before we had to go out & about.
We spent a couple of hours at my MiL's house working our way steadily thru the mountain of stuff = today I nearly cleared out 3 small draws, I got distracted by the contents of a cupboard - ADHD is a bugger sometimes that & the whole completionist side of my autism kicking & & trying to keep me at it for longer than we had.
We made a small but noticeable dint in the whole house clearing project today.
We treated ourselves to lunch at a pub about 10 minutes away on the edge of the moors that does nice food but is quite expensive. Sadly they were so busy serving the corporate Christmas lunch folk that my steak & stilton sandwich was barely warm by the time it finally arrived.
We headed back after lunch &, after dropping off some books at a local charity shop we made our way to the undertakers. The Undertaker was a nice friendly chap & was happy to provide us with the initial details. We are somewhat stuck at the moment waiting on the MEs sign off of my MiLs death certificate. Once all the paperwork is sorted then we can get that particular ball rolling.
Drove home in the pouring rain after a quick visit to Sainsgogs to pick up a few essentials.
Got home just after 4pm & had a coffee & some rather nice chocolate cake that 'fell' into our shopping trolly in the shops!
I did us a light tea which we ate while watching a movie called 'The Holdovers' from 2023 - which was a nice slow paced comedy drama & we both quite enjoyed it.
Final Thoughts.
I'm still struggling to keep all the nuts I'm juggling in the air - hopefully once the boiler is replaced on Wednesday that will be one less thing to worry about!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
Now that I'm spending more time on Mastodon, I'm realizing I don't follow enough people. Many of them are inactive accounts.
My feed is running dry rather quickly.
Who are some good people in the autistic and neurodivergent spaces to follow?
This caught my attention. I don't know how accurate these figures are. Not without access to the original research to assess it. But if these are in any way close, then bloody hell. I've always been of the opinion that the majority of adults weren't diagnosed in one way or another. But these sorts of figures were surprising. In any case, it is good to see something like this in mainstream media and the consequences of it, being discussed.
#Autism
#ActuallyAutistic
https://www.independent.co.uk/news/health/autism-diagnosis-over-40-britain-b2816046.html
Yesterday I felt pretty toasted after work. I had band rehearsals in the evening, and that requires approx. 40 minutes of driving to one direction. As I commute by bus, it's by far the most I drive during an average week -- unless it's the summer cottage season, which it isn't at the moment.
I've recently understood that driving is potentially pretty stressful for me. I've used to blast some rock/metal on my way to the rehearsals to get in the mood. However, I've also started to understand that combined with stressful environment, loud music is absolutely the wrong choice. Silence is not an option, I need some aural stimulation for my driving, and I very much prefer albums to radio. So, I decided to put on some relatively quiet music.
That was a great choice! As usual, the rehearsals were fun, and with my choice of driving music I actually felt less tired when I was driving back home. It was a small change in my routine but listening to myself made a huge difference in the end.
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic my normal board newsletter person (the one who does the final prep and markup) has been out and i have the former person (who i cannot stand) covering...
…and in her true passive aggressive “I'm better than you" fashion she adds this note:
"P.S. I left your Oxford commas alone. :D Though I did add a few missing ones to keep its use consistent…”
…i do not need, nor is it your job, to give me an inventory of your perceived failing in my newsletter text
giving up on the idea of anyone understanding me or my life because I tell them about it. I’m in my first fallback position just dreaming someone will just take my word for it that my life seemed perfectly designed to destroy hope, and understand at least in theory if I’ve turned old and grumpy, if I’ve given up
and why 🤨💜
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#ActuallyAutistic #ND #AuDHD @autistics
Diary of an AuDHD Squirrel. Day 952 , Saturday 06/06/2026
Actually got a proper lie in this morning - slept thru until 8am!
Made breakfast & did my chores then spent a couple of hours on NMS while Mrs S was out shopping.
Made us lunch when she returned then she helped me join the upper & lower halves of her desk together … which was the easy bit!
The rest of the afternoon was taken up with final touches, fitting the cupboard doors, fitting the double socket / USB power station, adding a pin board & sundry other things.
Finally finished just after 4pm. The only thing left is to either fit a lamp shade or a new light fitting, depending on what Mrs S decides this week. Also need to get some curtains & fit those.
Settled back with a movie - ‘Project Hail Mary’ a film that is fast becoming a firm favourite, accompanied by pizza & a couple of pints of cider.
Final Thoughts.
A busy & frustrating day , with lots of little niggling challenges, but ultimately very satisfying!
Thank you to all those who are helping me on this journey, in a myriad different ways. I am thankful to each & every one of you! 🫂 🫶🐿️🖖
@autistics
#TimsASDjourney #ActuallyAutistic #Neurospicy #TheMammutMoves
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic a member of the disabled group leadership is having their long standing accommodations being challenged on "fairness”…
…for those who keep track, same group who has banished me for being “oppositionally defiant”
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Being surrounded by neurotypical people all my life, then finding the neurodiversity and autistic culture movements online and finding other @autistics like me, is like finally being given the guidebook on how to guide my manual car when I’ve been reading the guidebook for automatic cars all my life and struggling. 
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic in today’s #DyspraxiaWins moment, i struggled to get five of these light switch locks installed…
…but once installed, they are the bees knees
https://autside.substack.com/p/the-frequency-of-belonging-on-autistic 1
I’m (mostly?) autistic, and this really resonated with me.
I’m wondering if someone wrote something similar, but from the perspective of those of our ND tribe who are more strongly from the #ADHD 2 type?
1 https://bsky.app/profile/jaimehoerricks.bsky.social
2 I truly loathe the “Deficit & Disorder” acronyms for us. I would love having descriptions of our ways of being without the pathologic framing!
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic another call, another person regretting asking me a question:
You put a dime in him, and you gotta let the whole song play out. —Dave, Ant-man and the Wasp
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic another day, another person tries to gaslight me thinking “going over my head" will get them what they want…
…as i tell my therapist often, “These people have no idea who they're fucking with.”
Worth mentioning that this shop proudly employs #actuallyautistic people, including the brilliant woman I met behind the counter. @autistics https://tenforward.social/@elight/115430374474195981
I’ve always loved the expression, “the great unwashed,” wealthy, educated, elitist sort that I am.
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Sorry, how’s that? #ND ?
Oh, ho ho, no, I don’t think so 😀
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#ActuallyAutistic #AuDHD @autistics
RE: https://mas.to/@Stoned_Deva_/115686050034331506
this is my canned comment to basically everyone
And the question today is am I going to fire the case management agency I've been working with today for being incompetent? OR are they going to drop me for "non-compliance"? Or are we going to keep going with this madness indefinitely?
The Reason why we don’t use the puzzle piece a the official logo for Autism Acceptance it’s because The Puzzle Piece makes us feel like Something is missing or something is wrong with us. Now The reason why we use the rainbow or gold infinity symbol instead for autism acceptance its because we are embracing who we are as people as well as expanding with other neurodivergent people. So Reject the Puzzle Piece and Embrace the Infinity symbol! #actuallyautistic #autismacceptance #neurodivergent
@autistics #ActuallyAutistic or “my reputation precedes me” apparently
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As an autistic person, I can often rely on alt text to understand memes. The thing is, memes expect its context to be automatically understood. Yet it is context that I can struggle with if it isn't presented. Therefore, sometimes memes can just look like nonsense to me at first.
It isn't until reading the description for blind people that the context is explained. So, I would argue strongly that alt text for accessibility goes beyond just those that can't physically see.
#autism #actuallyautistic #alttext
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@autistics #ActuallyAutistic another day, another invite to a social event...
...and begins the endless rumination of trying to come up with a "reasonable” excuse not to go...
…that doesn't highlight your traits to the outside world
Here's the situation:
My friend I thought I lost has come back to me, but pro bono rides are over and I need to pay for gas.
My parents are waiting for delivery of their new car by the end of November. My social worker is waiting for that before moving ahead with a house viewing for a new placement for me.
An uninvited guest is permanently staying over and my landlords are saying this is yet another "uncle." When I questioned why there were so many uncles, they told me that this wasn't my house and it wasn't my right to use or know what goes on in the house. There isn't a day where rhythmic foot stomping isn't a thing and it's driving my sensory overload insane.
I need gas money for a V6 Grand Am to view the place ASAP.
North American donations: https://ko-fi.com/jackvancouver/goal?g=18
EU donations: https://gofund.me/007216f9
#emergencyaid #emergencyaidneeded #emergencyaidneededasap #emergencyaidneededrightnow #mutualaid #mutualaidrequest #mutualaidneeded #aspie #aspielife #actuallyautistic @autistics